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    #1

    Is it possible to overcome this?

    It is my first time ever on a forum. I'm happy about the decision to get help and hope this works.

    I have decided to cut down on drinking, a two drink limit. I don't want to cut it out completely because I believe having "a couple" drinks is fun and before I make the choice to quit alcohol completely, I would like to give this a try.

    Please someone write something.

    I feel very doubtful that this will even work. Okay, maybe for the holidays but then what. I'll fall again. I'm only 25 years old and my father has a problem. I know I'm headed in the same direction. I wish I was someone else.

    I need support. Feel so embaressed and ashamed of myself. These negative feelings are the worst part. I want to feel well.

    Is it possible to overcome this addiction?
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    #2
    Is it possible to overcome this?

    Hello and welcome.
    It is very possible Betty.
    Lots of friendly support here.
    Don't feel bad about trying to improve yourself.
    Have fun

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      #3
      Is it possible to overcome this?

      Hi Betty. :welcome: to MWO.
      My name is Stirly and I'm a recent newcomer myself.
      First, I have to say that you have found a wonderful bunch of people. They offer unconditional support and encouragement for all who have a problem with alcohol. No one is judgmental, no one will criticize you. We are a group of people with one goal in mind. To get control over alcohol and live a better, healthier life.
      There is no reason for you to be either ashamed or embarrassed. You didn't ask for this problem but you are doing something very positive by trying to get help with it. You will find much support and help here at MWO whether it be books, cd's, supplements or just plain encouragement from the other members.
      Indeed it is possible to overcome an addiction as long as you are willing to admit that you have one and are willing to take the steps necessary to overcome it. It takes hard work but it can be done.
      I am not a professional, I am just an alcoholic who is trying to stay sober and get healthy. My advice is to read as many posts here as you can, so you understand that others are going through what you are, and that you are not alone. We are all in this together. Trying to improve our health and therefore our lives. Whether you want to be sober or moderate your drinking is up to you. There are many hands to help you along the way and if you fall, many more to help you get back on your feet. You have already taken the first positive step by joining MWO. I wish you the best of luck.
      Stirly
      For every 60 seconds that you are angry, you lose a minute of happiness.
      AF since 10/10/2015:yay:

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        #4
        Is it possible to overcome this?

        Hello Betty and welcome. Yes it is possible to change our lives around and end the abuse of alcohol. Most people here start by downloading the MWO book, reading it and coming up with a plan that suits us individually. A lot start by doing 30 days AF and I believe we can I learn a lot about ourselves when the fog of AL has lifted. I think try tapering down to a couple a day and see how it goes, but ultimately you will need to put a long term plan in place and stick to it to succeed. You wont lack for support here at MWO and the members are fantastic, nobody judges, we have all been there.
        Keep safe
        KTAB
        Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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          #5
          Is it possible to overcome this?

          Thank you for writing. I needed to hear someone.

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            #6
            Is it possible to overcome this?

            ...but how do I deal with this pain from embarrassment. I feel as though I'm going to lose everything. I have so much and I'm killing it, myself.

            No control. I hate myself and that is where it all begins.

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              #7
              Is it possible to overcome this?

              Betty the past is in the past, you cant change that. You can make amends if you choose but more importantly you can learn from this. Use those feelings as a driving force not to repeat the same behaviour. Maybe decide not to pick up that first drink today and stick close to the boards, there is always somebody here. There are sections in just starting out called ODAT (one day at a time) and newbies nest that you might find helpfull. Only you can decide to stop this cycle.
              Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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                #8
                Is it possible to overcome this?

                Hi Betty, welcome aboard.
                I believe its possible to overcome addiction. My father was an alcoholic too and for many years I believed that was my fate.
                Through the support of this forum, supplements suggested and damn hard work I havent had a drink for over a year. Right now I am the happiest I have ever been. I am still working on myself and learning what I like and what I dont, but at least I think I am on the right path finally. I am 46. You have made the realisation early. Thats fantastic!
                You can do it too, you know.
                Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                  #9
                  Is it possible to overcome this?

                  Hi Betty!

                  There is a "moderation" forum that you may want to check out.

                  I have learned that the only way I can moderate is when I'm out. VERY paranoid about drinking & driving!! If I have alcohol at home, I drink it until it's gone (sad to say!).

                  But I've also found that even if I keep to those 1-2 drinks when out, it puts the idea of alcohol in my mind, making it much more likely for me to buy it... which means overdoing.

                  It is absolutely Wonderful that you've become aware of your drinking at such a young age. (IF ONLY I HAD!!! My whole life would have been different... and by that, I mean, BETTER!)

                  You'll probably find that if you go AF (alcohol free), you won't be dealing with those negative emotions you've mentioned...

                  You CAN do it. I know it's hard over the holidays, but.

                  Anyway, welcome. Glad you're here!
                  Sometimes you have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down... Anais Nin

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                    #10
                    Is it possible to overcome this?

                    Betty,

                    I am on Day 6 AF and I decided to quit for many reasons, but mostly embarrassment. My 12 year old daughter and all her friends saw me completely sloshed Saturday night - not to mention all the stupid things I said to their moms that were here. I don't remember much of the night but I do remember the look of disgust one girl gave me. That was just one night of many in the past. I want to gain back the respect of my kids and my husband. I am so sick of calling people the next day after being drunk and apologizing. I have cringed with shame so many times. I can't look back now, only forward with that goal. You can too.

                    I will say that I have tried to quit in the past and I have given myself the 2 drink limit and it worked for a few weeks but not long. I have a problem and can't stop pouring. I am not satisfied until I am fully drunk - 2 drinks is a tease - not even enjoyable for me.

                    Having said that, I agree with the others, make a plan that works for you that ultimately brings you where you want to be. Quitting is hard, you can't think of all the future events that won't include drinking or you'll make yourself crazy. Start with today and see how good you feel - hold onto that feeling each day. You have a wonderful support group here, all going through the same thing.

                    You're only 25 - so young - you have a long, healthy life ahead of you. Embrace it! My dad too was an alcoholic but quit when I was 12 - 30 years sober. He was a man of wisdom. He died last year and I miss him terribly. But he said to me once "some people can drink honey, and you are not one of them" He didn't push me to quit too hard because he knew I had to do it myself. But he did also say that alcoholism gets worse as you get older - not better - that has been true to me. So take a hard look at your life and your goals - you can do anything you put your mind to...

                    Sunnyside

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                      #11
                      Is it possible to overcome this?

                      Hi Bettyboo,

                      Welcome to MWO, this is a good place!
                      You've received god advice, now you need to make yourself a good plan & stick with it! You made a very wise decision to take control of your life & not let AL control you.

                      A lot of us here are twice your age & then some. We all wish we had made the decision to take control a lot sooner. But as someone already mentioned, the past is history, forget it & move on. Put one foot in front of the other & move forward, you won't be sorry. I think getting 30 AF days under your belt is wise. You need that time to clear your head & really think things through.

                      Please drop in the 'Newbies Nest' thread anytime for lots of support

                      Wishing you the best on your journey!
                      Lav
                      AF since 03/26/09
                      NF since 05/19/09
                      Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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