A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Guys
Just checking in and hoping you are all having a good wednesday.

Sleep seems to be sorted although i can see the next hurdle for me being too much energy..... nice problem to have!

[fluff]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hey Chillgirl-day 13 for you?Great going! Day 6 for me-doesn't seem so bad when you get past the first 4 or 5 days-depending on who you are-and what your circumstances are. Keeping a routine is very important and the more days of non-drinking the more the thought seems to get pushed to the back of your mind and you're not thinking about it so much-just my observation on this daily trek. Anyone else's thoughts? Have a great Wednesday everyone!
Luv, Fluff

[Determination]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Good for you Mazzie!

Kim - I may have to use your cleaning as a tool - I hate it too, but it does keep my hands occupied ... that may be my primary plan for Saturday!

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Fluff
Im feeling better and better everyday! I cant believe that my initial worries were "how will i spend my time" now my ist and foremost thoughts are just to continue being sober at any cost.....

I have so much more energy and feel happier and more confident than i have in years

Keep up the good work

[Kimberley]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi all,

Mazzie, glad MWO was able to help out when you had a bad day - it's funny how we often have all the things happen at once to make it "one of those days". I thought I was going to have one of those today, but it righted itself luckily by lunchtime Hope you had a better day yesterday and today.

I should indeed get a job as a travelling cleaner, especially if you've got a pool! I might write myself a sign and go and stand at the airport: "Will clean for air fare"!

Hi Stirly, I have been wondering where your moniker is from. Stirling? Scotland? Or am I way off?

Cuckoo m'dear how are you doing now? I hope you're feeling better about things. I think Chill's signature says it very well: Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail...

Fluff, glad you are finding Day 6 a little easier. Weirdly I find routine only works for me in a very loose way otherwise I get bored, but that's just me Where I find routine important is things like making sure I eat a good meal 3 times a day, drink enough water, try to sleep for 7-8 hours - y'know, the basics.

Determination, ah on Saturday you'll be sweating anyway. May as well sweat those toxins out double quick with a bit of vigourous vaccuuming

Chillgirl, may I ask if this is the first time you've 'gone AF'? Or that you've gone AF in quite a while? I would say just don't lose that feeling. The first time I did a long period AF I 'forgot' how crap al made me feel and how it ruined things as I was feeling very positive. I lapsed and then I've never managed as long a stretch AF since. I have major regrets about this bacause of feeling I can't do it again. That was last year and I am drawing a line under that hence this thread. In 2010 I will beat my previous AF time- and how! Well that's my plan but I will need all of your support to get there.

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Kim

This is my 1st ever attempt to give up alcohol since i started 30 yrs ago at aged 15

[Kimberley]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Wow Chill - that's amazing! Please please please do not ever take your sobriety and all the positivity and wonderful things it brings for granted. I don't want you making the same mistake I did as it's really really difficult to get back on the horse and MEAN IT when you fall off. I am a testiment to this, sadly. I have had to wait for a suitable time to REALLY try again and believe in myself (end of 2009). Just a little slip can really ruin your self-belief. If you ever, ever feel tempted please come straight on MWO and post and read. Reading your posts I feel so happy for you and the way you are feeling right now. I don't want anything to ruin that for you. Just meant to be a friendly warning if you'll take it as that

[Mazzie]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Everyone

Don't ya just love this site. Its so good to just come here and read and think and read some more. We really are not trying to do this on our own which is fantastic. Chill you are doing so well for first time. Just keep doing what you are doing. Kim's advice comes from experience!!! This is my 3rd time to be really determined to be af. Went a month last February and then felt so good I thought I could just have a little drink. Well that lasted for the next seven months until I scared myself with what I was doing. Oct and Nov were af months then Dec was a wipe out. Now I am just angry with al and determined and focussed on achieving af every day. I'm done with it all. I think 34 years is enough to have lost.

Thanks to all of you for your support. Sounds like we might have lots of clean houses and no empty bottles - Yay!!!

[cuckoosnest83]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hello all.

Kim, still having a tough time but I promised myself I would not quit posting. In the past, I would just not log on to MWO but I find that is the worst thing I can do when I am feeling this way.

The posts from everyone on this thread are inspiring.

Chill and Fluff, congrats on your AF days.

Fluff, I have enjoyed reading your journal thread and find it amazing you are going AF even though your spouse is still drinking.

Mazzie, yes I do love this site. The empathy, support, and understanding is outstanding.

Hope everyone has a good night.

[Horsegirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi all!!!

Great job to all !!!!

Cuckoo, hang in there and you're absolutely right to keep posting and reading.

I have been AF since Jan 1, but still feel very fragile about it.

This thread is great, It feels great to have someplace for all of us to share our ups and downs.

:thanks: Kim

Have a super evening
HG

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Good Morning Everyone!

Hope you all have a peaceful and sober night.

Kim thanku so much for your insight, im terrified of failing as i have put so much heart and soul into planning my new AF life. It wasnt done on a quim and i totally thought through all the aspects of my life which would have to change. Because of all this i really feel if i failed i could never conquer it again as i could never be any more prepared than i am now.

That does of course put huge pressure on me which i dont know whether is good or bad?

Any advice you can give me would be so much appreciated. I already get the fleeting thoughts that actually it wasnt that bad and i could maybe drink normally which i know is complete and utter rubbish but the thoughts do come...

This site has been a Godsend and this thread makes me feel we are really doing this all together.

Wishing you all a happy and AF thursday!

[fluff]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Goodmorniing everyone ! Chill- I am following you around here! Also, those fleeting thoughts-just shoo them away and grab a cup of tea-those thoughts will try to justify that it's okay and why not and you can moderate- but if you follow those thoughts they will turn against you-really, from experience, I know those thoughts. It will seem okay at first but then, I guarantee it will spiral out of control-so just keep put and grounded-don't give in. And if you give in to those thoughts it will be harder to get sober again, because each time gets harder and harder-so where you are, right now, is a good thing-don't budge. Sorry for the " lecture" just had to spew out my feelings on that one. One Day At A Time!
Horsegirl-you, too-don't get fragile-just think how great you are doing and how good it feels!

[com1]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Well put Fluff. :goodjob: The thoughts are one of Als' attempts to help us drink again. It takes our best efforts to keep Al away. We need to very vigilant in our AF endeavour.

com

[Mazzie]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Does it get easier eventually. Will these thoughts no longer bother if we hang in there. Do we get to a place where al is no longer thought of and the battle in our heads cease?

[Kimberley]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi all,

I am on the verge of sleep - very tired today so am just popping in to say hi to everyone then off to bed! Hope everyone is feeling strong. I will read back through today's posts later as my eyes are closing and I'd like to give thoughtful replies to everyone rather than replies punctuated by yawns!!

Despite being tired I am still doing well and will 'see' you all tomorrow.

Nighty night