A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

[mollyka]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Determination First time I went AF I just started getting more and more energy from day one and felt brilliant but this time round, I just kept getting tireder and tireder for about 10 days, don't know why the difference but definitely now on day 11 am beginning to feel more energized, don't know why there was a difference each time, suppose the ol' bod has its own way of dealing with things!

[wine lover]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Just checking in, doing fine so far, but going on hols next Sunday and already thinking about the beast, Will keep you posted.

Well done to all achieving their goal and please Com just look forward to a new beginning, we have all been there, do not beat yourself up.

[stirly-girly]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

wine lover;792840 wrote: Just checking in, doing fine so far, but going on hols next Sunday and already thinking about the beast, Will keep you posted.

Well done to all achieving their goal and please Com just look forward to a new beginning, we have all been there, do not beat yourself up.

Hi WineLover.
And hello to all others who have posted and may post today. Congrats on getting some AF days. Don't beat yourself up if you stumbled a little. This is a long road we're on. There are bound to be bumps along the way. Some smaller, some larger. The trick is to get up, dust ourselves off and continue. And as you all know, there a lot of kind hands here at MWO ready to help us back on our feet if we fall.
Wine, we kind of got out of touch. Glad to hear you are doing well. Holidays can be a rough time. Just opt for a sparkling water with a slice of lemon in a really fancy crystal glass. Makes you feel like you're drinking champagne when you're not. Or set your mind on a really nice soda that you like or fruit drink and have that instead of wine with your meal. Stick to it and you'll be happy that you did. And if people insist, tell them that you prefer to not drink the extra calories in an alcoholic beverage and that's that. It's not so hard to find an excuse for not drinking, it's hard not drinking. Wish you luck,
Stirly

[Kimberley]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Argh, well I screwed up royally and have had to take time off work for being ill! I don't know what's wrong with me. I was having a lovely weekend then I was with a friend who is really in love with me but I don't feel the same, and I just felt sort of pressurised and crap. So I drank and felt like shit.

It wasn't a total loss as I had bought some naltrexone a while ago in case I screwed up so I took that at the same time as I drank. Still, missing days off work is terrible and something I can't afford to do. I'm already on a verbal warning for my sick record and now it will go further.

I am so tired of not being able to cope with my emotions. I saw my GP last night as I need to get help for my BPD - I have no coping skills. I had wanted him to refer me to DBT treatment but he said that would take ages so he has given me a referral to see a psychologist instead and a prescription for mirtazapene. I don't want to take anti-depressants!! Argh.

Do you know what I really want? A big hug and someone to reassure me that it will all be ok in the end.

Anyway sorry to let you down guys - but I am getting back up and starting again. I just wish someone would give me the right help and a bit of a break!

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Gang
checking in to wish you all a good and AF tuesday,
To you guys who have experienced temporary blips the most important thing is that your HERE and you want to get back on the path, please remember that if you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere!! No one said it was easy but its sure as hell worth it.....

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hey Kim
our posts just crossed!
:hug:
Sending you a ginormous hug and i promise you it will all be ok...
You can do this because you know its what you really want and every time we slip up its a good reminder of just how much we do want it and how good and happy we feel when we are AF.

Dont be too hard on yourself... we are after all only human, get back on track and put together a plan for the next time you are in that situation so it doesnt happen again.

[fluff]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Fluff checking in- Day 12...
Hi Kim and Chill-
Kim- You're only human- so just pick up where you left off and start again- (((HUG!)))
Chill- What day are you on- I wonder if you get to a point where you start to lose track...many obstacles have been shoved in my way- like a video game- and you gotta shoot them or blast them out of the way!
Happy Tuesday all!
Luv, Fluff

[tawnywitch]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

just to say hi and well done to everyone here, still struggling myself but determined to keep trying.

[Determination]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Kim - :l:l:l

You have so NOT let anybody here down!!!! We are each other's support system - we are here for each through the success and setbacks!

I know how it feels to have a setback - it is frustrating and depressing and it can seem hopeless. That is why in the Fall, and I just decided to give up for awhile. I can tell you - nothing good came from that.

I am scared sh!tless about this time around. But, what I learned is that I can't let one, two or more setbacks give me an excuse not to keep trying. So, stop beating yourself up and be kind to yourself.

As for your doctor - I can understand your frustration about not getting the referral. But, try the anti-depressants. I know you don't want to be on them, but if they can help - I say go for it. Or, at least try it!

I'm on day 4 AF. Yesterday was really, really hard. Had to sit at a work meeting where everybody else was drinking wine (my poison of choice). I had a plan...stuck with it, but was irritable and crabby after the meeting, biting everybody's heads off in the family.

:l:l:l (I would give you more virtual hugs, but apparently, there is a limit as to the number of emoticons that I'm allowed to use per message!)

[Mazzie]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Everybody

Kim, So good to see you back. I had been wondering where you were. You haven't let anyone down - there's no expectations or judgements here. I hope can be of support to you as you have been to me. Just do whatever you need to do to get back on track. It's been so much of a habit for so long to just reach for the bottle. At the time it seems the answer but in the long run its the main problem. We need to learn how to cope with things with a different set of skills (we're really good at taking the top off bottles!!!)

And everyone - have a great day/night. Gotta go.

[cuckoosnest83]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hello all.

Kim, I echo what everyone else says in that you haven't let anyone down. We are all battling this together and there will be successes and "failures" but the only real failure is in to not keep trying.

I have been having a tough time of it. Some AF time mixed in with some drinking but I won't stop posting and I won't quit trying. I'm setting a goal of starting AF again on Friday. It is the hardest time for me but I feel if I can make it through a weekend that is a huge success. I have a plan in place. Go to work on Friday, volunteer at the shelter on Friday night, an AA meeting after the shelter. I visit my brother's family on Saturday. In the Glamour magazine I received today there is an article about a 1 week body detox which I plan on reading. Doing the grocery shopping on Saturday and starting the detox on Sunday. We are all in this to achieve the same/similar goal. Not one of us is going to do it the first time out but that doesn't mean we let anyone down or that we lose sight of our goal. Like babies learning to walk we just need to keep getting up and trying again. At some point we will succeed.

To Chill, Fluff, Determination, and all others who have achieved numerous days AF, congratulations. I am so happy for you and know you will continue to do well.

Cucks

[fluff]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Cuckoo-Why don't you start a journal? You don't have to write in it ever day- but just like now with what you wrote- write down your daily doings-plans, etc....It might help you along your journey.
Luv, Fluff

[cuckoosnest83]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Fluff, I think I will do the journal. It seems to be a big help. Thank you for your suggestion.

[Chillgirl]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Hi Everyone and hope you are all enjoying a AF wednesday!

Day 20 for me and its going to be a challenging one, a good friend is taking me for dinner tonight and usually when we get together there is a ridiculous amount of alcohol consumed! I did tell him on the phone that I wasnt drinking but im sure he will think i will give in. I've also just realized this will be my 1st time out for dinner since going AF.....

[fluff]

A new start for 2010 - who's in and what's your plan?

Chill- great on day 20! - Just drink iced-tea on your date- have a good time!
Fluff-day 13- not feeling too well today- coming down with some bug maybe. Have a great day, all
Luv, Fluff