Looking for a support buddy

[Cynspr]

Hi everyone
Without going into a long story about how I got to this place in my life... let's just say it has been about 7 years of wine controllling my life and I really need some support or maybe, someone who has been through it or going through it - to help me along
I don't have a big sob story, my life is good. I am just starting to worry about damage to my liver and being dead without seeing my grandchildren. I just hit 40 a few weeks ago and I am reevaluating everything.
Can anyone offer me some insight? I would love to hear from people here. This seems like the perfect place for me to start getting myself in control.

[Whitestar]

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Hi There

In the same place as you, now 41 still drinking despite major liver damage,how stupid is that anyway welcome ,you will find the people here most supportive and non judgemental,good luck

Whitestar

[lushy]

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Hi Cyn,

Welcome. I am turning 40 at the end of the month and am having the exact same fears as you. Constantly worried about my liver, etc. I have a great life as well, but started my wine addiction 20 years ago. Since finding this site, and with just using the supplements, I have been doing 2-3 nights a week without wine and that is huge for me. Keep posting and I know you will find a lot of inspiration here......Look forward to getting to know you.

[battie]

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42 and on meds for arthritis so shouldn't drink. Use it as an emotional crutch to deal with life which although not bad, is difficult. let's move forward together one step at a timex

[Wandering Wombat]

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Cynspr - are you looking for general (but good) forum help or a one-on-one buddy?

[pinkmilk]

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Hi Cynspr,
what is about 40somethings to take to drink or all of a sudden realise they have a problem drinking??
I am also a 40 year old. Been drinking more and more for almost three years (birth of third child triggered something for me).
I do not want to continue this way. But I am scared of stopping to drink - wine in my case. About two bottles a night.
Just ordered the CDs and supps today and tomorrow will order Topamax (probably inhousepharmacy, unless someone has a cheaper option!).
So this means, I have to start the program in earnest. Shit! Maybe I should just keep drinking.
This is frightenig. I may not be able to stop.... :0(
Cerstin

[irishlady]

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Hi Cynspr, welcome, I have been on this forum for five days and I have'nt touched a drop of wine since joining, which considering I was a two bottle a night drinker is fantastic. Don't know how long it will last but every day is a bonus. Bye the way I am 58 yrs old , can'''t remember when I started to drink but last 10 yrs have been very heavy. I wish you all the luck in the world and you are in the right place for help and support.

Love from irish xx

[psychmommy]

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I could use some support too!

Hi,

I've been on this site about a week and finally decided to register. I too am a mom who has a 1.5 to 2 bottle a day of wine drinking habit. I will be 37 next month, and also worry constantly about the physical effects my drinking is having. Although alcohol has been part of my life since I was a teenager, I managed to get through 2 pregnancies without drinking, but when I had my last baby (3 years ago) I hit it hard from the day after I got home from the hospital and haven't stopped since. The thing is, if anyone should know better it's me. I am almost finished with a PhD in clinical psychology - I've finished all my coursework and now just working on research and clinical hours. Drinking has definitely slowed me down because most of my work now is self-paced, so you can imagine how much work I get done. Anyway. I saw a post earlier that discussed the need for more professional women on these boards. I consider myself a professional woman, but I'm not looking for "professional" assistance. . . What I need is support from people who have been where I am or are there now. Anything any of you can offer I will appreciate.

[Cynspr]

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Glad to be here

I can't believe there are so many of us ladies who drink so much wine each night. Is it because we have so much to deal with every day that it becomes the only thing to look forward to after all the kids are in bed?
I would love to have one person to hook up with that is in the same position and ready to move on but, these boards seem to be the place to hook up with a group of people so I'm open to anything right now. I am just so happy that I am not the only one who spends most of their time waking up in the middle of the night thinking "ugh... why did I drink so much again last night - I won't do that tomorrow." And then, i start all over again.
I'm glad I'm' here.
Thank you all for your responese.
I'm interested in all the meds you are talking about. How do you get them? what are they for? Will they really help?

[seasong]

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:new:
Hi,

I am new...I love to drink wine...no kidding.. I love to drink! Not enough to make a fool of myself or compromise my health...but...
Okay, so I am drinking too much. I worry about having "alcohol breath"... I worry about those weird "trembling, vibrating sensations I wake up with at about 2 AM...(anyone know what I mean?)
I worry about my job...(People's lives depend on me being "with it".)
I guess that's it. I worry worry worry... Except of course when I have a bottle of Port in front of me...

HELP

What do I have to do??? I am taking SAMe all ready as well as milk thistle... I live in Canada....
I want to be honest...I love to drink...but hate being "a drunk"...
Is there any hope for me?


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[cajuncritter]

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Newby

Hello all,

I am a man living in Fairbanks Alaska. Have been drinking wine for over 15 years. Gotten so bad, I went from a bottle to a box. Cheaper and easier to administer. Convienent spout! Anyway, I have read MWO and am taking the supplements reommended in the book. Seems like it works for a short while, but then I convince myself to drink again. Think I need the Top. Not sure I believe in the tapes. Anyway here I am. Perhaps its a first step. My drinking hasn't caused any problems at work, in fact I am a functioning drunk and a workaholic as well. Never drink while working or driving, but make sure I get home as soon as I can to get that first drink. Wine is my drink of choice, but can easily handle a bottle of Crown in an evening. Thinking chatting will be a help. Hi All!

[Guest]

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newbie

Hi there, I'm 46 with a great husband and 10 yr old twin daughters. I have the Topa and sups and am ready to go. I can't take this drinking any longer. If I could have one, that would be great! But, one is a trigger to have 4-5 or more. Stay with me. I'm with you.

[stellar]

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i too am 42 years old, have my own businesses and have been drinking about 2 bottles of wine per day or more for at least 3 years. i have a 2 year old and a 4 year old, my husband also drinks the same amount or more. we are both going to do this program. i just got the topomax yesterday, i had to lie to my doctor and say that i had migraines, but she gave it to me. my husband really does have migraines so it will be easy for him.
we are both tired of being a slave to wine, it's not only expensive, but it keeps you away from alot of things like friends and activities. we always bring our wine wherever we go, we drink and drive all the time so for obvious reasons we need to stop or at least cut back. i could not stop on my own and i refuse to go to those stupid meetings. we are hoping this program will work for us and everyone else who is trying it.

i would be happy to share any other info about my situation if it would help anyone out there...

[Chris]

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OK, to join this bandwagon, yes I also drink wine every day. In fact, I leave work as an excuse every day to pick up my child from first grade and then go back to my house and have wine while I wait for his mother to come and pick him up (we are getting divorced). I wake up every night around1-2am myself with sweats and the only thing that puts me back to sleep is.... sigh, another glass of wine. I want this to stop in the worse way, but I live alone and dont have someone to rely upon. DAM! That just sounds horrible that I have to believe that I need someone to rely upon. I cant offer you advice, only the knowledge to know that you are not alone. AND OH, I am a professional self employed male with a degree also, and I KNOW I should know better.

[InnerStrength]

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Seasong I can relate more than you know - I know a lot of us can here.
Curious -where do you live in canada?
Welcome. You have come to the right place.
I used to drink a bottle or more of wine a night. I couldnt imagine going a night - let alone more without drinking. Since this program, I have done better than I could possibly imagine. In fact, I am currently abstaining from alcohol and - except for last night where I had one glass of wine with dinner - have not drank in 10 days. For me - would have been unthinkable before I got here. And honestly, I am not suffering. In fact, I feel strong, good and positive.
Have you read the book yet?
Hugs
Jen