Is anyone like me??

[Whitney]

Hi everyone,

I just discovered this program today and read the book. I have ordered the cd's and supplements, but I am scared about the meds. Also, I'm just wondering if anyone is in the same situation as I am.... After reading many posts it seems like most people drink everyday. I drink about twice a week, but when I do I drink a lot! I do things I regret and feel so guilty the next day that I decided it's time to do something about it. Any support would be really appreciated.

Thanks!:new:

[KatBlois]

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Hi Whitney

I think you're being very smart, I doubt you're dependent yet, but by doing something about it now, maybe you can stop it before it starts. Years ago, I would do the same as you, I'd gain confidence when I drank, and I always ended up drinking too much. Then years later, I started using alcohol to deal with stress, then to deal with emostional pain, trust me, you're doing the right thing, at the right time.

Kat

[Guest]

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Just like you

I like you only drink a couple of times a week. But it is usually a pint of hard liquor. I haven't really sought help before, but this caught my attention.

There are those who believe that if you question as to weather or not you have a problem with drinking, then you do. I say BULL.

Ask your self these questions:

Does my drinking?:
Interfere with my job? In any way?
Become a priority over my family or responsibilities?
Prevent me from only having just 1 drink at a restraunt or social event when I know that I have to drive?

If you answered YES to any of these, then get help for your alcohol dependency.

(As for all of you self righteous, reformed judgemental bigots out there, there is NO SUCH THING as a functional or functining alcoholic!)

If you answered NO, then I wouldn't worry to much. This makes you a binge drinker. Your problems are most probably because you are self destructive and depressed. Not because you are a drunk or have a drinking problem. Get help for depression..Not alcohol.

[mikeupnorth]

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Hi Whitney,

I don't know anything about your personal situation and certainly can't diagnose you as an alcoholic, a binge drinker, a problem drinker or anything else. Only you can make that decision. But obviously you're concerned -- otherwise you wouldn't be here.

I never drank on a daily basis. My pattern ranged from once or twice a week to (at its worst) every other day. Earlier in my life, I could drink as much or as little as I chose, but at some point I crossed a line, and after that I (almost) always drank more than I intended. Even at the end, though, I could limit myself to a drink or two in social situations when I knew I had to drive, or if I didn't want to get drunk in front of co-workers. It wasn't that easy, but I could do it.

The questions I would ask are:
-- Do I regularly drink more than I intend to?
-- Do I make attempts to cut back on the amount I drink, and find that I am unable to do that?

Having a problem with alcohol has less to do with the frequency with which you drink than with the ability to cut yourself off after a certain amount. If you find that you're drinking more than you want, you probably need to pay attention to the issue. This does not (necessarily) make you an alcoholic. It does mean that you are showing signs of the inability to control your drinking and it's a definite YELLOW LIGHT. It could absolutely be related to depression or anxiety -- but could also have to do with genetic predisposition to alcoholism or any number of factors.

10 years ago I was drinking once or twice a week, but I was drinking too much on those occasions. A couple of months ago, I found that I was drinking a fifth of vodka every other night. I was an alcoholic -- and a functional one -- that entire time. That is just how my "problem" escalated over a decade. I can't predict that that will be anyone's path but my own, but it isn't a pretty one. I would hate to see it happen to you. And it doesn't have to.

Good luck to you -- there's lots of great information here, and a lot of good people willing to share experience, strength and hope.

Mike

[mojomuppet]

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i saw the words regret and quilty. you did the right thing! good girl.:welcome:

[Whitney]

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Wow - thanks everyone!! Some very thought-prevoking advice. I've ordered the cd's and supplements, but I am going to hold off on the meds. For now, I am going to try to not drink for a month and see how that goes. Last night was my first Friday and it was tough, but today I was so glad I didn't drink.

Again, thanks! Truly appreciated.

W.

[aunty flo]

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I am just like you

Hi Whitney, you asked is anybody like you ?. well meet me I am just the same. Hate the fact that I end up drinking to much and sayind doing stuff that I regret. Do not drink everyday but it sometimes gets out of control when I do and I live with constant fear of what I will say and do when drunk. Always say I will stop drinking but never stick to it. I have also ordered the CDs books and suppliments, decided to give the meds a try ordered them off line . Have asked for advice on here as to how much to take will let you knoww how I go on. Don't know if you feel the same as me but just can't go on like this any more so really want to give this whole programme my best shot. Good luck to you in your efforts, everybody on here deserves to live without the fear of alchol hanging over them .