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[janka]

am so bored and depressed drink to calm down am beside myself please help

[Doggygirl]

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How can we help janka?

DG

[janka]

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just words of hope it's not all about drinking that's just the tip of the iceburg

[janka]

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im bored quit my husband he was a creep then people say I "lost" him I didn't want him it nearly killed me to rid myself of him had a fancy job but it was too much must start over from scratch

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hi Janka, in my experience things are seldom as bleak as they appear at first glance.

[Doggygirl]

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janka, are you drinking or has drinking contributed to these problems with work and your husband? Do you want to talk about that?

DG

[janka]

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as Winston Churchill said: "when you're going though hell keep going!!!!"

[mama bear]

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Hey Janka
I am here for you.....

[janka]

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I didn't drink til my 40's the husband was a mean man but i tried to perservere

[Doggygirl]

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Are you drinking right now janka?

DG

[mama bear]

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i didn't lose control until a few years ago due to LOTS of issues......But it's not to late to fix it!!!
Are you talking to a counselor or taking anti depressants? I take Effexor and it has been a HUGE help....

[Sarasmiles]

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Sounds like you have a chance for a fresh start! A new life, without a mean husband and without the depressant effects of alcohol! How about doing something to celebrate this? Go for a walk in a lovely place, go to church and thank God you're alive and have a chance to change your life; go to a bookstore and browse for as long as you like, because this is your time and you can do what you want. Have a hot cocoa...make some pancakes...Whatever makes you feel good.

I know the feeling of wanting to drink because of boredom or depression. I also know the horrible feeling doing so creates! FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO DO! Anything is better than drinking! Get through this moment and come out on the other side grateful that you took care of yourself.

[janka]

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no but haven't slept makes me nuts

[Doggygirl]

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Janka, how about some nice hot tea and maybe a soak in a hot tub to relax you? Maybe then you can go to sleep?

Boredom is a problem that I felt too. It is one easily solved by making a list of things to do (and I'm not talking about chores! Include fun things!) and then getting out there and doing them. AL was like a ball and chain for me. I would drink, then wouldn't / couldn't drive anywhere to do anything. So I just sat in the house and drank some more. That circular boredom was of my own creation.

It was uncomfortable at first getting out and doing other things. It had been a long time since I was actively engaged in LIFE every day. But there IS a lot to do out there - we just have to take responsibility and go find it instead of sitting around drinking our lives away.

Start your list NOW of things you want to do!

DG

[janka]

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I am a HUGE "to do" list maker but am so lonely and sick and tired of being sick and tired