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[scissorhands]

Hi i am new too this site, but after years of drinking, and acting like a fool, i have decided too get help and i start aa on friday which i am so scared, i feel so low that i have eneded up like this.

[Doggygirl]

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Hi scissorhands and :welcome:. You have come to an awesome site for help and support getting sober!

This is a very open minded site where many different recovery programs are discussed. Since you mention you plan to start going to AA, I will just say that I added AA to my own recovery program too, and have found tremendous benefit it doing so. I love the support I get here at the My Way Out Forum that is available 24X7. I also use parts of the My Way Out official program (from the book that can be downloaded). I have found the supplements, and the diet and exercise recommendations invaluable.

There are several people here at MWO who also go to AA. If you ever want to comment on your AA experiences or discuss anything related to AA, you are welcome to join us in this Weekly AA Thread which is always in the Monthly Abstinence section of the forum.

I know what you mean about finally getting sick of the drinking circus. Getting sober is one of the best things I've ever done for myself and my life! As one of my AA friends always says "we don't have to hurt any more unless we want to." I always take hope and empowerment from that quote.

Strength and hope to you,

DG

[mama bear]

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hI scissorhands
I started a week ago with MWO and the unconditional love and support I have received here is amazing.
I am reading RJ's books, taking the supplements and doing the CD's. After much research,I went and ahead and order the Topamax from the on line store here.......and I can already see and feel a difference.....'
We will be here for you anyway we can.....never be ashamed.....we have been flat on our butts too!!

[scissorhands]

Hello

thank you, i think thats my worst problem the shame and guilt that i feel for the things i have done whilst intoxicated

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello Scissorhands I just wanted to say welcome, you have found a great place here.

[JackieClaire]

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:welcome: scissorhands,

Just wanted to add my hellos. Great advice you've had already.
Keep posting,keep reading and please let us know how you're getting along.

J x

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[Cecelia]

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Welcome Scissorhands! I found the warmth and support of the MWO community 5 days ago. Keep coming back, check in every day...you can be AF and the friends you've found here are going to help you help yourself.

[scissorhands]

Hello

thanks, do other people feel shame and guilt or is it just me?

[Doggygirl]

Hello

I think it's safe to say that most / all of us carried shame and guilt into the early stages of our recoveries. I know I sure did.

The My Way Out program (I followed the program to a T with the exception of the prescription med suggestion) helped me stop drinking. AA has given me a way to deal with and clean up the wreckage of my past.

We can't change the past. What we CAN do is the Next Right Thing today. For me, that is to NOT drink and repeat the mistakes of the past, treat myself and others with respect, and a few other basics. That helps me have a good *today.*

If I can do this, so can you. I hope that gives you hope!

DG

[Chillgirl]

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Scissorhands - Yes at 1st i had extreme guilt and shame but most of that came from feeling very isolated with my drinking. I tried desperately to hide it which causes huge inner turmoil, lonliness and depression.

I found this site in Dec and for the 1st time I could talk openly about all the awful things I had done through alcohol and the relief was emense. I realized there were people out there who not only understood but had been through exactly the same as I had. I can honestly say this changed my life.

I stopped drinking 3-4 weeks after finding MWO, I used the boards as therapy and read and spoke to as many people as i could. The misery you feel is all caused by the AL and once you let go of it you can move on leaving these negative emotions behind you.

[Gold]

Hello

scissorhands;809872 wrote: thanks, do other people feel shame and guilt or is it just me?

It certainly isn't just you, I found those feelings to be almost unbearably painful at times, and it was when I came here and saw so many other stories that I no longer felt guilt or shame. Let the guilt and shame go it's very destructive and you do not need it.

One thing that struck me after reading lots of people's stories here was that there are probably many more people hiding their drinking and feeling guilty than we could know. It is the lucky ones like you, me, and the other people here who have the chance to do something about it without feeling guilt or shame.

:welcome:

[Lavande]

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Hi scissorhands,

Welcome to MWO, this is a good place!
Yes, I definitely felt shame & guilt related to my wine fueled bad behavior. But, that is part of the past now, I've moved on & am improving every day

Please feel free to drop in the Newbies Nest thread for some extra support. There are lots of people there just getting started as well.

Wishing you the best on your journey!

Lav

[scissorhands]

Hello

Thank you i already feel alot better, just knowing that i am not the only one going through this, i have lost so many family members through drink, that i dont want my children growing up without a mum

[JackieClaire]

Hello

Me again,
My kids were without a mother through out their teenage years, an especially hard time for any child. I shudder from time to time with guilt and shame for the times they came home from school and found me passed out on the sofa or drinking wine out of a coffee mug.
Now they're in their early 20's and actually like being with me.
J x
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[scissorhands]

Hello

yes my daughter has seen me passed out on the settee, and now i have just had enough of waking up in the morning and panicking about what has happened the previous night, and who i have phoned and what i have said, so heres too a better life