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    Tragic Day Yesterday

    Hi,

    Was contemplating whether or not to post this but it is a good one to think about and acknowledge the lengths that AL will take you.

    I found my next door neighbour dead this yesterday morning in our shared drive way. I was walking down the drive way on the way to work and there he was lying flat on his stomach.

    (Background on my neighbour he was a 53 year old alcoholic, drank extremely heavily most the time on his own. He usually sat on a milk crate just outside his front door which I walked pass every morning to get to my car. He use to drink for 3 or 4 days straight and I think he would have drank more if he could afford it. I never saw anyone come to visit him, from our discussions I only can assume that his family have ridden him of because of this alcoholism. When he was wildly drunk he talked to himself a lot and banged around in his apartment which I could hear because we shared the common wall).

    We became quiet friendly over the past six months and he shared some of his life with me. He was a very lonely soul with a very bad drinking problem. When he was sober he was a funny, quit witted character with a big heart).

    When I found him yesterday morning I actually thought that he had drank too much and fell asleep on the driveway. Then I looked closely and realised he was blue and had blood around his head and on the concrete I realised he was dead. This was the most frightening experience. Police are still doing testing to see what caused his death but I can be more than certain that he drank too much fell over hit his head. By the coldness of this body I would say he would have been dead for 6 or 7 hours.

    He was a kind soul, a good sense of humour with a very bad addiction to alcohol. I will miss seeing him sit on this crate with his cup of tea in the morning.

    I am so upset and at the same time furious about what damage alcohol can do to people. What a way to go....so undignified! I am still in shock about finding him and it has made me even more determine to stop alcohol in my life as I saw first hand what it can do to a human being.

    Sorry if this has upset anyone but it is the reality of someone who didn?t stop drinking

    RIP Greg!

    Thanks for listening :l
    Liquid MISERY guaranteed to distroy.

    #2
    Tragic Day Yesterday

    Overit, I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend and the good soul that Greg was. You are right that alcohol robs of us of so much. Not only individually but collectively. Wish that I could offer more words of solace. My thougths are with you at this time.

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      #3
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      I think it's important that all of us be very aware that the consequences of drinking include death.

      I'm very sorry that your neighbor passed that way, and that you had to find him there. That must have been very diffuclt and sad.

      No, we do NOT "deserve" a drink today. We deserve much better than that.

      I hope you are doing OK.

      DG
      Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
      Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


      One day at a time.

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        #4
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        overittoday,
        Thank you for sharing.. it must have been so hard for you to find your neighbour like that.. i'm so sorry that you had to be the person to find him.. Al does cause a lot of damage in SO many different ways - but obviously the worst-case scenario is always death.. that's why this site and loving support of fellow people who are going though similar things is so important.. xx
        "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

        :groupluv:

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          #5
          Tragic Day Yesterday

          Hi Overittoday. What an awful thing to happen. To die alone in a drive way with no-one there to say good bye, maybe not even be sober enough to know he was going to die and to be left like that for hours.
          And for you to find him like that. What a HUGE lesson and reminder for all of us. I hope you are doing OK and get thru this with love and support.
          Thank you for posting this. I know it was hard but I (for one) needed to hear it.
          One of my first thoughts when I woke up after a blinder was to think that I am lucky I actually woke up. I always knew that was the path I was headed.
          Take care Overittoday.
          RIP Greg
          I finally got it!
          "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become" Buddah

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            #6
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            Poor Over It
            I am so sorry for your loss and the horror of your find. Thanks for shring this.
            RIP Greg
            I love my family more than alcohol.:h
            Live in the Solution....not the problem

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              #7
              Tragic Day Yesterday

              Overit,

              Sorry for your experience yesterday. God bless you though for giving this man the best gift you could, that being your time and friendship. Many people would have never been able to look beyond his alcoholism and gotten to know him.

              Love & Peace

              HG
              AF 01/30/10

              Look Back & Thank God
              Look Forward & Trust God
              Look Around & Serve God
              Look Within & Find God

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                #8
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                Overit...

                What an awful experience for you. Thinking of you.....

                C
                AF July 6 2014

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                  #9
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                  I'm sorry about your friend, Overittoday. But I thank you for sharing this story. He was one of us. I'm glad you saw the good in him, as well as shared what his life had become. That could be any of us, given a particular set of circumstances. Take care - much love - Dance
                  ​​Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind ~ Bob Marley ~ Redemption Song

                  AUGUST 9, 2009

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                    #10
                    Tragic Day Yesterday

                    Overit what a shocking experience for you and what a sad tragic story....

                    Im so glad you had the courage to share it here, as Hippie said it is a HUGE lesson for all of us. Many many times I have had absolutely no recollection of getting home, i have woken up lying on the floor with the front door wide open, i have had cuts, bruises and broken bones.... there but for the grace of God go I.
                    "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                    AF - JAN 1st 2010
                    NF - May 1996

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                      #11
                      Tragic Day Yesterday

                      Overit - Thank you so much for posting this. I know that this was awful for you but thank you for telling your story. This is something that many of us needed to hear. My thoughts are with you.
                      "Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
                      ..........
                      AF - 7-27-15

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                        #12
                        Tragic Day Yesterday

                        Overit,
                        Sorry about the loss of your neighbor but I am glad you shared this story with us.
                        This is something we need to take in & process & be sure that it never happens to us.
                        God bless!

                        Lav
                        AF since 03/26/09
                        NF since 05/19/09
                        Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                          #13
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                          Sorry to hear about your neighbor, but how true about it could be anyone of us if we don't wake up and smell the coffee. Interesting what DG said about deserving that drink in the evening, that is how I felt everyday. Afterall, I had worked hard and it was stressful, wasn't it?
                          Overit, glad you were there for your neighbor. I hope he is finally at peace.

                          Winefree

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                            #14
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                            thank you for sharing this traumatic experience. praying for your neighbor and thinking of you tonight.....
                            :h getting better every day

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                              #15
                              Tragic Day Yesterday

                              It's a piece of reality... thanks for sharing. (hugs)

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