Help me think of negative consequences please?

[spuddleduck]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

anotherday.. the guy in his 40's had a hospitalised warning just a year before he died. he did cut down quite drastically on his drinking but seems it was too late. died of organ failure. the other 2 had no major health problems at all other than those that anyone would have. that was the scary thing. a lot of big drinkers were at the funerals (including me).... and went off to celebrate their life by getting rat arsed. hmmm .. a sobering thought

[Anotherday]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

spuddleduck;816590 wrote: anotherday.. the guy in his 40's had a hospitalised warning just a year before he died. he did cut down quite drastically on his drinking but seems it was too late. died of organ failure. the other 2 had no major health problems at all other than those that anyone would have. that was the scary thing. a lot of big drinkers were at the funerals (including me).... and went off to celebrate their life by getting rat arsed. hmmm .. a sobering thought

Wow, well, you have made a believer out of me. I have been fighting this thing and failing for the past year now - two rehabs and several attempts at staying sober yet nothing. My life has truly fallen apart. My insurance (medical) runs out in July and I think of this often. I don't want to get off in a tangent, but this scares the crap outta me as 45K Americans die due to no health insurance each year, but I digress. It is time for me to get very serious. I will not drink today! I always think the drinking is preferable to the depression that engulfs me when I stop, but the drinking will most likely kill me before the depression does. I simply MUST face my demons and conquer this. A lifetime of this fight has been too much.

BTW, I am sorry for the loss of your friends.

[overittoday]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

Drinking to me has so many negatives...all of other the health problems mentioned above but also my self respect! if you can't respect yourself who can you respect.

The things in my life that i really wanted to do i.e. courses, keeping active, learning through new experiences these just simply didn't happen becau se i was to busy drinking everynight and not focussing on i wanted to do in life.

All of these activiites build self esteem, AL just takes your self esteem away! Another, I was one that didnt really suffer cronic hangovers unless i went on a real bender...but the anxiety and depressing that you speak of i did suffer and that is 10 times worse than a hang over.

By the sounds of it your drinking has accelated now to a point where it is making other impacts of your life and its a great time to try and do a couple of AF days and see how you feel?? you dont have anything to lose! seeing someone could also be a good idea and jumping on line and reading some of the posts and gaining an understanding of what others have been through and how they got past it.

Good luck on your journey, stay close you deserve a peaceful life and it starts from day one!:l

[Anotherday]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

overittoday;816693 wrote: Drinking to me has so many negatives...all of other the health problems mentioned above but also my self respect! if you can't respect yourself who can you respect.

The things in my life that i really wanted to do i.e. courses, keeping active, learning through new experiences these just simply didn't happen becau se i was to busy drinking everynight and not focussing on i wanted to do in life.

All of these activiites build self esteem, AL just takes your self esteem away! Another, I was one that didnt really suffer cronic hangovers unless i went on a real bender...but the anxiety and depressing that you speak of i did suffer and that is 10 times worse than a hang over.

By the sounds of it your drinking has accelated now to a point where it is making other impacts of your life and its a great time to try and do a couple of AF days and see how you feel?? you dont have anything to lose! seeing someone could also be a good idea and jumping on line and reading some of the posts and gaining an understanding of what others have been through and how they got past it.

Good luck on your journey, stay close you deserve a peaceful life and it starts from day one!:l

You're right and I bolded the above to make a point of it. You are right. What I've vaguely noticed is that there is a difference in my mood based on rather I drink one bottle vs two bottles of wine. Problem is I am not keeping it to just one bottle. I am truly at the point where all I do is sit here on the computer and drink and then eat and sleep.

You mention self respect. That concept is now foreign to me. I have no self respect left.

Tonight I will go to this new group and stop isolating. Thank you for your post..

[Gabbrielle]

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Anotherday;816308 wrote: Part of my continued drinking has dealt with the fact I never get hangovers. I never get headaches, I never vomit, I just feel normal the next day. I really wish I would get sick. I can drink a lot and really not go through anything physical.

Now, on the psychological side, I do get depressed and anxious, but then maybe I'd be depressed and anxious AF too. It does have calories I don't need.

I want to HATE alcohol, but I don't. I just hate me and that will be there sober or drunk, right?

Anyone want to add to my list of bad things due to drinking? Somehow, I need to internalize the damage done. I know it does damage over time and I shouldn't push the limit, but truth is I feel worse over the smoking than the drinking and I keep smoking.

I am on my second try at getting sober. The first time was hard as I just gave myself more reasons to dring than not to ! I have nearly lost my husband and kids as a result of the drink. Please try AA and or a proper alcohol counsellor. I really feel for you and wish you well with this. Take it easy on yourself and most of all be kind to yourself that means getting healthy with the help of friends. Today I thought of drink 10 times and moved on. x

[Anotherday]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

Gabbrielle;816700 wrote: I am on my second try at getting sober. The first time was hard as I just gave myself more reasons to dring than not to ! I have nearly lost my husband and kids as a result of the drink. Please try AA and or a proper alcohol counsellor. I really feel for you and wish you well with this. Take it easy on yourself and most of all be kind to yourself that means getting healthy with the help of friends. Today I thought of drink 10 times and moved on. x

Good luck on your second try! I hope this time works and long term for you.

I do see an addictions counselor and have tried AA, but it's not for me. Thanks!

[K9Lover]

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Hi Anotherday,
I am like you, I rarely get hangovers and can function very well the next day after A LOT of alcohol...which means I've built up a pretty good tolerance. Deep down I think we all know that we are slowly killing ourselves, otherwise we wouldn't be here. Like I told my doctor, I am more than likely not going to hit "rock bottom", I am a lone drinker at home and don't put myself in dangerous situations. That being said, I know I am still causing damage to myself that may not show up for years. I think it's good that you are seeing a counselor, that is the one thing I havent done yet. Hang in there, it does get easier and stick close to this site, there's lots of good advice here!

[Luvwins]

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Anotherday - I think you have plenty to think about with all the other posts but I will add one other SOBERING thing to consider: alcohol dementia. I would recommend reading about it on Wikipedia. Of particular note, the usual onset is between 50 and 70.

[Cecelia]

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Anotherday - I too was (it feels good to use past tense!) a 2 bottle a day red wine drinker for several years. I could rationalize every glass - I liked to "sip" wine when I cooked, when I went out with friends, when I talked on the phone, it's an antioxident, it's good for my heart, I'm only drinking wine not liquor or beer so I'm not abusing alcohol, etc, etc, etc. I'm now 48 and it hasn't stopped the aging process for me! I too feel I look good for my age, but I would be kidding myself if I said the combination of too much wine and too little self-care over the last few years hasn't taken it's toll. Including the smoking while I was drinking. Since I've quit, I truly feel so much healthier, physically and emotionally. I can't go back now...I don't want to feel that way ever again.

[Anotherday]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

Cecelia;816841 wrote: Anotherday - I too was (it feels good to use past tense!) a 2 bottle a day red wine drinker for several years. I could rationalize every glass - I liked to "sip" wine when I cooked, when I went out with friends, when I talked on the phone, it's an antioxident, it's good for my heart, I'm only drinking wine not liquor or beer so I'm not abusing alcohol, etc, etc, etc. I'm now 48 and it hasn't stopped the aging process for me! I too feel I look good for my age, but I would be kidding myself if I said the combination of too much wine and too little self-care over the last few years hasn't taken it's toll. Including the smoking while I was drinking. Since I've quit, I truly feel so much healthier, physically and emotionally. I can't go back now...I don't want to feel that way ever again.

Good for you on being able to use the past tense! You're an inspiration!

I am tired today and did not stop for wine on the way home from volunteering. So I am getting nothing done. Have two cigarettes left and then I put on the nicotine patch. Today will be day 1 of completely not one drop if I can get through today. I am just so tired yet cannot sleep. It didn't help I went to McDonalds for lunch and got the wrong order and way too much of it! Of course, I had to eat it. Yuck.

I have to stop drinking, smoking and eating and then start working out again. Just feels insurmountable today, but at least I am not drinking.

[BPleasant]

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Anotherday- I didn't read the whole thread so forgive me if I am repeating anything. It sounds like you are dealing with multiple addictions. Food, cigs and wine. I started taking the Kudzu and LGlut. I recommend getting them asap. Both are support of not needing sugar etc... as much in your body, they curb wanting alcohol and sugar, and for me even caffeine.
I think the LGLUT is a fast acting amino and Kudzu is a build up, atleast that's what it seems to have done in my body.
Also, it sounds like you drink daily so even missing a few days here and there is a big improvement. Try to talk to yourself more about your habits, not beat yourself up talk but conscious talk of, I am going to try not to drink today, Today I will eat healthy, Today I won't smoke. Then when you 'slip' try not to beat yourself up, doing that appears to make the addiction even stronger and more viscous, giving it more power if you will because negative self talk doesn't allow you to feel good. Feeling good would be, "wow, I went 2 days without drinking, think I will try that again" or "I only drank 3 days this week next week I am going to try for 4 day without drinking" Those small changes in self talk can make huge changes on how you feel and how you act.
I started keeping raw nuts and fruit in my car, along with bottled water and occasionally bottles of green tea. Simple things being changed can make big ripple effects.

[KatieB]

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Today I thought of drink 10 times and moved on. x
That's fantastic, Gabrielle! Well done for not giving into the urge.. you should be very proud.. it will get easier as time goes on.. you just need to keep yourself busy and preoccupied.. delay, delay, delay!!
K xx

[drink2much]

Help me think of negative consequences please?

Take antabuse :-) You won't be able to drink without consequences if you do. I'm like you, I didn't get hangovers. Antabuse works by making you feel *terrible* when you drink - not the next day, about an hour after drinking. The longer you take antab, the worse you'll feel if you drink.

You're not supposed to drink while taking antab, but the few times I've tried it, I just could not continue drinking.

D2Mx