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    #1

    how do you do it at college?

    Hi all,

    this is my first time here - its for in the morning but i've got the shakes, nausea and insomnia so sleeping's a no go. I'm 21 and at University. As you might imagine there's a big drinking culture here. I go out with my friends most nights, never intending to get drunk, but most of the time I just wake up the next morning not remembering very much. I've now started to reach for the bottle every morning and it just keeps going on a downward spiral. So I was basically wandering whether anyone else was in a similar situation? At the moment alcohol is really affecting my university work and my health. Also, my Dad's an alcoholic/ really heavy drinker...and I don't wanna wind up down the same path as him...

    I'm thinking of trying to abstain for a while to get myself back together, but I hate the idea of going out and not drinking...I think I'd feel really awkward. The only alternative would just be to stay home alone and that would just be depressing. Either way I think I'm gonna find it hard to stay away from alcohol.

    I'm out of ideas so if anyone has any opinions that would be great.
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    #2
    how do you do it at college?

    Hi Francis

    Two options - in my own remembrance.

    1......

    Move to another school and start fresh - may or may not be a good idea - depends on pretty much everything - tough.

    2......

    Tell the ones who matter the truth - not only while you're drunk and hangin' on to each other weaving down the sidewalk.
    Tell them the truth sober. Just as you told us the truth. Only - perhaps different to suit your needs. But tell the truth to the ones who you know can respect it.

    Or - seek out the ones who will - like us.

    Trust yourself here, Francis.

    Because, We, The People of Alcohol Abuse, are acutely sensitive to those opportunties and outlets.

    We have to be.

    And - you don't "need" alcohol to tell you what you already know.

    In the meantime, you have to live in your world. As we all do in our own. Reaching out is a positive thing.

    Good luck and stay with us.

    Helen

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      #3
      how do you do it at college?

      Yes please stay around with us. With your family history, you should be very watchful. It is going to be a fact of your life, you will need to be vigilant about your consumption. What you do have, what your dad maybe did not have, is knowledge and options to help you control drinking, right here. My dad drank, and my mom, so I am learning ways to cope and deal with this legacy too. Welcome to this site, it is great!
      The more we appreciate life, the more life appreciates and bestows us with more goodness.

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        #4
        how do you do it at college?

        Hello Again,

        thank you two so much for replying. It was touching someone cared...

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          #5
          how do you do it at college?

          I was a very heavy drinker in college but, somehow managed to do well and graduate. I would go through periods of heavy binging and then would stop and get my $hit together. I did have friends that just were on a constant binge and it was affecting both their health and their studies. Two of them stopped attending classes, went into treatment and returned the following semester. Everyone was very accepting of what they went through and how they delt with it. I guess what I'm suggesting is not that you need to go to treatment but, that your friends will probably be alot more understanding and helpful than you imagine. Whatever you decide just know that people, your professors included, are ususally more supportive than you are giving them credit for right now and everyone can appreciate someone just being open and honest. Does that make sense?
          Sometimes I wonder...."Why is that frisbee getting bigger?"...and then it hits me.

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            #6
            how do you do it at college?

            thanks preciouspinot,

            Yeah I know what you mean. I usually get my work done to some standard but they noticed me drinking heavily in my first year. I've made it to my fourth in Oxford so far, but I guess I didn't treat it right earlier on. They were really understanding, but I never really bothered listening because I was in that 'they're all out to get me frame of mind'. I met this one authority figure type dude who was cool...but he's gone now. They sent me to counselling but, to be honest, I thought that was a waste of time. Apparently they're there just to listen...I didn't find that much help. Today I ran out of money because I was too busy being drunk to pay the check in that was supposed to last me for a while......used the last few pence in my pocket to buy beer and to be honest I don't regret it. I wouldn't have been able to even open my door let alone type if I havn't. I know tomorrow will bring loadsa problems. It takes 5 days for a check to cash! Plus I've got soooo much work. I know this mightn't be much for some of you but I've reached a real low point. Plus the withdral was KILLING me...and when i got the shock of no money...I just had to drink. Spose I'll be fucked tommorrow...

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              #7
              how do you do it at college?

              Dear Francis,
              As far as I am concerned, thank god you are thinking about where you are with drinking NOW and I mean at your age- to me at least you are relatively youthful!! I certainly can remember drinking when I was your age, but to be honest not much else.
              I definately drank then, whether or not I drank excessively compared to others I don't know. However I am now 15 years older and I am having a real battle with it. Oh my god how I wish I had worried about my drinking back then. You are young. If you are having blackouts now, be worried.
              Please do something about it now. I know peer pressure will be tough, but I reckon doing something now may be in some ways easier than going on and having to do some tougher (because of the passage of time) changes in years to come.

              Best of luck!! My heart is with you on this one.
              Amelia
              Amelia

              Sober since 30/06/10

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                #8
                how do you do it at college?

                Hi Francis

                Are you from the UK?, Drinking Culture is a real B***ard here, good to have you aboard .I am still drinking but have found that this is is s real helpplease keep posting my heart goes out too you big hugs

                Whitestar

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                  #9
                  how do you do it at college?

                  Hi Francis

                  How are you today? I just found your post.
                  My heart also goes out to you. You are not much younger than my son who just finished college,

                  Is there an organization on campus such as Youth for Christ or Campus Crusuade? I'm from the USA so I'm not sure what is there. I do know there is help on most campuses....you just have to know where to look.

                  You are still young. My son told me the reason he never drank was because my dad died from smoking and drinking before he was born and he wants to live to see his grandchildren.

                  Come on Francis.......choose life for yourself and your future children.
                  We can help here and we will in every way but we can't be there. Please...........Please.....Please?

                  Love
                  Nancy:l
                  "Be still and know that I am God"

                  Psalm 46:10

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                    #10
                    how do you do it at college?

                    Dear Francis,
                    I think there has been a lot of good info/advice in this thread for you. I particularly like Helensback's wisdom. I want to respond here because my kids are in your age bracket, plus I have my own history. You are intelligent, so I think you should consider that you really do have the disease. Tough to swallow ... but..At 21 to be having the shakes, etc & your depression, I think, says something. So perhaps some research into the disease would be good to see if that is true or not

                    Good news -- you are soooo young & that is the blessing, because the habit is not that old. The neuro imprints are not that deep.

                    But I think in your situation, you shoudl go for some real professional, maybe even medical help. It is all biochemical you know. You will learn a lot by reading the research on this site.

                    OK -- here comes the Mum-- don't blow it dear heart -- your 4th yr !!--- this is your opportunity to heal this disease & move forward to success fo r the rest of you life. Take it.... take it to heart... Because if you have the disease, the path ends in something you do not want ...and even early death

                    BUT... I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT.....why, how do I know? -- I have great confidence in the young & intelligent...with addiction..I have seen it first hand

                    Do the research, then go get the professional help that you need.
                    OK end of Mum talk.

                    Wishing you all the best, Get well, Live & love life, Luv Chrysa

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                      #11
                      how do you do it at college?

                      Oh God...thank you Katesm...I'm unsure you know..

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