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    #1

    re thinking goals

    sorry if i keep starting random threads, im a bit computer crappy so i find myself all over on here.
    the more AF days i get through and the more i read on here, im starting to re think my long term goal of modding. i dont think i could ever have a couple of drinks without wanting more. it would be a torture. moderation to me would have to be a big binge now and again which would still put my health and head at risk in so many ways. i suppose ive been trying to mod for years thinking (and really believing) that i would just have a couple of drinks IT NEVER HAPPENED. so many people seem to have managed to become AF and in the blink of an eye, or the gulp of a wine have slipped right back into the grips of AL. i dont want that to happen.
    ps. had a job interview today. used my usual technique of waffling and saying daft things, but hey who knows, they might like this kind of nutter working for them. and the best thing is I DIDNT GO STRAIGHT FOR A DRINK AFTERWARDS . thats a big first for me.
    Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
    Keep passing the open windows
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    Hi spuddles,
    Just back from a quick avatar change and a bit of a google into recommended UK AL units.
    That's 14 UK units per week. Having read your past posts it seems as if you were a bit of a drinker like me.
    14 units is a bottle of wine at the stronger end of the scale, at the end I would have called that lunch.
    I honestly started out with good intentions of moderating my drinking habits but within about 2 weeks I would be back to my old ways. 1 glass soon became 2 glasses, then 1 bottle of wine became 2 bottles and then just for the hell of it I threw a bit of vodka into the mix.
    For me anyway,spuds, 2 glasses just didn't hit the sides.
    J x
    :l

    ps:goodjob: on the interview you weren't waffling you were being people friendly
    It could be worse, I could be filing.
    AF since 7/7/2009

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      #3
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      Spud,

      You are in good company! An ever growing number of people join MWO in hopes of learning to moderate - I was one of them!
      The truth is I now KNOW that I will never be able to moderate so I don't even try.
      Because I was honest with myself after joining MWO I am now getting ready to celebrate my one year AF anniversary

      Keep going Spud, you're doing great! You too Jackie

      I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on the job interview!!
      AF since 03/26/09
      NF since 05/19/09
      Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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        #4
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        Jackie
        is that your husband??
        I love my family more than alcohol.:h
        Live in the Solution....not the problem

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          #5
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          Hi Spuddles - I supose modderating was what I thought I was doing when I managed one day without AL. :H

          My drinking latterly was very similar to JackieClaire and the 1st bottle of wine would be gone within the 1st hour.

          Since quitting I have often entertained the passing thought of trying to mod but it is so blatantly obvious this is impossible or I would never have got to the stage I did. I could NEVER have just two or three drinks, its never happened and never will, when I drink its to get drunk to some level.

          The thought of trying to modderate seems like torture to me as on the days I would be abstaining I would be constantly thinking about when my next drinking day would be. Quite honestly Id rather stick pins in my eyes than go through that! You are doing just great without AL Spuds so just keep doing what your doing
          "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
          AF - JAN 1st 2010
          NF - May 1996

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            When i was never really serious about trying to help myself,i used to think i could control/moderate my drinking,i even stopped for a few weeks every year in the mistaken belief that i was in control,i never was,imo modding works for very few people,it certainly never worked for me.


            :congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:

            Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
            I know enough to know that I don't know enough.

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              #7
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              I am exactly where ChillGirl is. Cannot mod, not even worth it to try, as I too would be counting the days til the next "hammerfest" would be. I dont drink to be social, I drink to be obliterated! We are all better off with ZERO AL

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                Spuddleduck,

                I think it's a fine thing to rethink our goals. If you think modding might be too hard, then you can shoot for being AF. Beautiful thing in life is we can change our mind at any time. What is most important is to keep our eye on the prize. How each of us get there is up to us. Have a wonderful day!

                AD

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                  hey all. your words all ring true now. yep two glasses dont hit the sides, and yep not social drinking but obliterate drinking. i think once youve got passed a certain point in the drinking career there is no going back. well hey, it sounds like an AF life might not be so bad x
                  thanks for thoughts on the interview. its a bit grim on the job front here at the moment x
                  Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
                  Keep passing the open windows

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                    #10
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                    good luck with the interview spuddle
                    I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                    Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                      #11
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                      Hear hear on all that Spuddle, 'mod' cannot be in my vocab.
                      Re, the interview, the daftest and most waffliest interview I ever did was for the job I'm doing now, I think they must have been fascinated or something!! So you can do it too, and well done on not 'rewarding' yourself with booze!:goodjob:
                      Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
                      contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                        #12
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                        Interesting posts. I began this thinking that "moderating" was my objective, but I know in my heart of hearts I don't 'moderate' with anything - I can't do it with cigarettes, sex, food, work, drugs, or alcohol. The only thing I've never overdone is excercise . . . . .(I keep secretly hoping I'll suddenly begin abusing excercise . . . ;-) The thought of having a drink & then stopping - just thinking about it - is almost worse than NOT doing it at all. What does that tell you? That's why I guess I got to day 17 without actually intending to. The way I started was to just say, see how it goes. If I decide then to 'mod' I will - I'm not making any big commitments . . . .I'll just wait & see how it goes. That way it wasn't so high pressure. We'll see what happens . . . .

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                          #13
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                          Spuddle - Good luck with the job interviews - something will come your way. And I'm not a big fan of mod - oh fooled myself many times saying I could do it - and I always ended up drinking way too much of everything. Good luck with whatever you do and I hope it works for you!

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                            FG..ditto to all that, guess its an adictive personallity .ha ha. im now addicted to this site .wehey

                            molly.. ditto to interviews.. ive had a couple of jobs where they told me i was the only applicant they thought would fit in with the nutty lot that worked there, including the boss. hey fingers crossed . what they see is what they get
                            Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
                            Keep passing the open windows

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                              chillgirl;819917 wrote:
                              My drinking latterly was very similar to JackieClaire and the 1st bottle of wine would be gone within the 1st hour.
                              It wasn't only me then??

                              Over the past couple of weeks I have thought about buying a bottle with the intention of having half now and half another night. Who am I trying to kid? And if I drink the whole bottle by 7pm, then what do I do?

                              For me, AF is the best way at the moment. It's vaguely possible modding may happen later but I'm not holding my breath.

                              I like AF evenings, I drink water or tea, read a book and relax without worry about tomorrow's hangover.

                              Spam xx

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