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[Doggygirl]

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Overit, I'm sorry to hear that October has been rough so far. Your post reminded me of how it was for me when I relapsed. I just couldn't see my way clear to pull myself back together. I got stuck in a cycle of "after this month..." "After vacation...." "After the holidays..." etc. One of my fellow travelers here who was fondly known for showing tough love finally kicked me in the behind. I believe his words were...

HOW ABOUT NOW?

So I will pass those words along to you in hopes you might see that another several days of drinking really serves no useful purpose.

I'm rooting for you Overit!!!

DG

[Kimberley]

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Overs, sorry to hear you've been having a rough time. I am now on Antabuse and it's already saved my arse a few times in the past few weeks. Maybe you could give that a whirl again? You were doing pretty well on it for quite a while as far as I recall.

Hope things feel better for you soon - you too UKBlonde, I've seen you've been having a rough time too. Hope November will be better for everyone. October has been a bit weird overall.
K x

[savon19]

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Overit - I haven't posted on here in AGES! Your post motivated me to... say something.

How about I am in denial... and know that I am!! (Doesn't that seem contradictory?)

I started off thinking.. I could moderate (yeh, right). Oh, and I'm Still thinking that! WTH??

I am at the point now where I can barely think of a day Without drinking - ok, maybe not drunk on my ass type drinking - --- but drinking to the point where I just am not proud of myself... type drinking.

I can barely remember anymore how good I felt when I was not drinking.. I may be in some "self-punishment" type of cycle. Because I am NOT doing right, I don't DESERVE to do right?? (TOTALLY CRAZY, I know, but...)

I am functioning, going to work, getting "things" done (barely).

(Hey, I'm sorry that I sort of spilled my guts on YOUR thread... but I just couldn't bring myself to start my own... I wanted to be very "subtle" - LOL!!)

You mentioned the "vicious circle" thing. If we could just solve that ONE thing...

For me personally, I believe my only choice is to seek God's help.

In the meantime, Bless you ALL! No matter what, we need to keep on, keepin' on. :h

[savon19]

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Ahhh, Sheri - you asked the Crucial question: WHY NOT NOW?

Why NOT now?

WHY not NOW?

WHY... not... NOW???

My answer (as a person in Deep Denial) is: WHY? Why when it Seems to make feel better, if only or a while...?

And, I'm not sure if I WANT to feel clarity... if clarity means I'll just regret my whole life.

OK, OK, I surely can't regret my Whole life. I've had a pretty cool life in some ways (wondering if I can remember...)

And Now, I'm really depressed!

But do have dinner goin' on -

eace:eace:

[Toni]

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Sheri, what great posts from you. You made me feel good about not taking a drink. It is hard not to have a cocktail. But oh my do my days feel better.
And to you overit2007 thanks for starting this post.

[mollyka]

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Overit, I'm so sorry you are having a tough time, and Savon. Been there, done that, it is a horrible place to be and because booze makes us so feeble and weak we think we can't do it - vicious circles etc. There is one solution - DON'T LIFT UP THE NEXT DRINK - sounds easy - too easy? It is that easy - do it, just do it, get a couple of days sober and your natural strength, which I know you have, it's been manifested here many times, it will take over and suddenly it all seems clearer and easier. White knuckle a couple of days, stay in bed, do whatever it takes and suddenly EUREKA it IS all doable
Molly

[Choochie]

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This is a realy valuable post - I'm a newbie coming here for obvious reasons. Thanks to all of you for being open about your struggles and thank you so much to you veterans for continuing to seek us newbies out and give us advice. You help us more than you can imagine - well, maybe someone helped you like you're helping us so you're giving back too. Regardless, THANK YOU! for giving us your time and helping us stay on (or get back on) track.

I'm 22 days AF today thanks to all of you - feeling very strong!

Hugs,

Choochie:l

[OverIt2007]

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Your posts have touched my... heart! Im so sorry I have not been a very supportive person for a while. Whats that funny break up line? "its not you... Its ME". lol.

Im coming around I believe. Today was a pretty good day. Perhaps the changing of the seasons with Halloween knocking at the door, then before you know it... Its Christmas. Perhaps my hormones or something is off. Perhaps I finally got over the "breakup" and moved on to greener pastures. This dating thing can be BRUTAL!

I care about you guys SO much. You dont know how much it meant to me to see my favorites girls and some newbies posts. Im here and I want to be more of support for you all too. And I will.

Thank you for Everything from the bottom of my... heart.

Love,

Overit

P.S. K9 YES thinking of doing the Anty again. Planning on doing a sober November

And Sheri. I LOVE that Toby Mac song! We must be on the same wavelength because I use that song for motivation too. How could you not?

[Chillgirl]

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SOBS - thank you for bumping this post, I still need to hear these reminders as to why NOT to pick up in the 1st place and it doesn't sound like an accident this was bumped when Overit needed to hear it the most.

Overit - you have done great in the past so you know you can, with the support of friends here you will again. Keep reading, even your own post here has your answer :l

[OverIt2007]

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You are all Angels of the Internet.

Chillgirl, yes.. I found it rather profound that this post got bumped back up at this particular time. Pretty much Right when I needed it. Was it SOBS who bumped it? That would figure. Shes an Angel who cares, just like so many of you.

Your right Sheri, sometimes I feel like a turtle. Just want to pull my head into my shell and stay there for a while ignoring the world along with my problems. Thank God for people who care.

I truly do like the role of the encourager rather than the needy. Going back and reading posts is a great idea. Sometimes I read things I wrote and cant even believe it.

I think my turtle head it poking back out. It should be all the way out here pretty soon. :l

Your all awesome. Please remind yourselves of that today will ya?

[K9Lover]

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Hello my friend!

Just wanted to give you a big ol' :l

You hang in there and stay in touch!!!

[Ringing Cedars]

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You just keep reminding you right now OI then you will be reminding us in no time. K??
I'm HONKING at you or laying with you if you need it. Don't take that the wrong way!!:H:h:l

[OverIt2007]

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Hey K-9 and my Buddy R.C.!

Feeling in great spirits today Hope you are too! Im looking forward to a nice long weekend filled with trick or treating with my son. I really love Halloween! Mom will do her very best to behave herself as well.

R.C. Im honking back at you Lady! Not sure if you would want me to lay with you though, as I am a cover Hog and you would probably get rolled out of the way!

[SoFlo1]

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savon19;990324 wrote:
You mentioned the "vicious circle" thing. If we could just solve that ONE thing...

For me personally, I believe my only choice is to seek God's help.

That's exactly what I did and I truly believe it gave me access to power just as I was at my weakest. It sure couldn't hurt.

For what it's worth, the two biggest lies I told myself while drinking were that it's not that bad right now and I'll straighten it all out later. At some point, I started to realize it doesn't matter so much if it's not that bad, especially since my definition of bad kept changing anyway, the real question was is it really that good? Is it really my best life, the one I think I was created for and want to share with others? I think I knew the answer to that one a couple of decades ago, but then comes the second lie - maybe it's not my best life but there'll be time to straighten all this out later. And time goes by.

Looking back, I wonder why I was so willing to put off the rewards of the life I was meant to have.

[OverIt2007]

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That is a very thought provoking post SoFlo.

Why we put off living the life we were meant to live is really a mystery. Who wishes misery upon themselves and who would choose sadness over happiness?

This is why we come here. To seek out solutions to our problems, listen to the experience of others, and offer support where we can.

And I agree. Having a faith in a high power (Jesus for me) is a VERY VERY wonderful thing indeed.