Did God let me down? I let God down.

[curlew]

Hi folks. My names really "jane".

I'm female, 42, and Im married to a great guy who supports me. We have a christian marriage and I'm wondering if there are other christians here who can understnad what I"m goin through right now.

I think God is great and hes blessed with 2 beatiful boys aged 4 and 10 and I live for them. A bout 2 years ago I found out my hubsand was having an affiar. I relly didn't know what I should do so I talked to my pastor and he told me to forgie my husband and I tried. Hes told me it was just a dumb thing that guys do and I think hes right. It was just a mistake. I'd never drank before much but after I found out I found that it made me feel better and now i don't think i can stop. Im not sure I can forgive my husband even tho I want to. He really is a grate guy and we have so much to live for. Hes doesnt' do that anymore and were active in the church so its hard becuase I know that nobody knows about it so i know i have to support him come what may.

For awile I thought God was punshing me because of things I did in my past but now I think I let God down by drinking for comfort insead of turning to my husband and forginving him and let him show me how to walk in the lord. Hes a good guy and I love him and don want to lose him.

I like the things people say here and hope we can be friends.

[JimBeam911]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

My advice would be to post thoughts about religious matters in the 'What We Believe' section. Many people here would be happy to offer you advice, but since the particular advice you're seeking is likely tied in with your Christian beliefs, you'll have a better chance of getting the responses you're looking for from other believers who regularly post there. Good luck.

[NoraC]

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Hi Jane,
Welcome!! :welcome: You have come to a wonderful place. I am looking forward to getting to know you. I certainly don't have all the answers but as you start this AF journey, the answers will come to you.
Be sure to check out the Newbies Nest & join us there too. There is some great support there.

[NoraC]

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Good idea JimBeam - wasn't aware of that area.

[curlew]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

Thank you jim bean and nora c. I will look for the What We believe section and look forward to our fellowship. My pastor said this was a good place to share with other christians who have there problemes with drinking.

God bless.

[johnnyh]

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Hi Jane, Welcome.

I am looking forward to many discussons with you to come. Especially about these spiritiual matters. Let's engage in the what do I believe section.

I would just like to give you the following to consider. Forgiveness is a journey and as healing as resentment destrotys a person. Forgiveness does not mean today you forget and it is no longer part of your life. But it's rather a day to day challenge. There will be days that you will do better than on others. Our pastor suggested the following past Sunday. He made reference to the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew. It makes reference to large crowds following him. He than goes up a mountain to sit and only a few (his disciples) follow him.

Sometimes we have to climb mountains (individual challenges), to get and be closer to god. The way can be hard and can be challenging. It might seem at times that giving up seems the only thing logically. But when we get to the top it is so rewarding. Another thing the pastor said, climbing a mountain is somehing we should do together. It gives us the chance to encourage each other and make sure we all get there.

Jane, I am an alcoholic. I have had times of struggles in my belief because I felt so guilty of my drinking, etc. that a relationship with god was incredibly difficult (and that's from my side, not from His.). But you know what? Our god is a loving god who gave his only son on the cross, so that an alcoholic like me can have a fresh start with him. Today, Tomorrw, next week. When I fall, he picks me up again.

Apologies to my non christian MWO'ers for this preach in the midst of the regular forum.

Have a great Blessed Day without Alcohol everyone.

[tawnyfrog]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

Thank you all. I look forward to reading your thoughts in the "What We Believe" section.

[curlew]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

Thank you johnny H and tawny frog. Our lord is a great lord and i know that i fall short of his grace. I've had a difficult time and he picks me up becuase I can feel him pick me up.

Thank you all for listning to me. Pray for the unborn that they will be born to see the mrecy of the lord and forgive them who dont want that.

God bless,
J

[tawnyfrog]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

Thank you curlew. Here's the link to the "What we believe forum". What We Believe - My Way Out Forums

[curlew]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

THank you tawny frot. I told my story over there and hope to talk to you soon. I told my story to our pastor and he told me to come here and find friendly peoplre who are helping us christians battle the evils of alcohol and abortion.

God bless you all.
J

[Marshy]

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curlew;824108 wrote: the evils of alcohol and abortion.

Hi Curlew,

I hope you find help here. It's a forum for talking about our problems with alcohol. It's not the place to discuss controversial politics, it's really not. There must be a million forums out there where you could find like-minded souls to talk to about abortion.

Welcome!

[OverIt2007]

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Welcome Curlew!

Its nice to meet you! I am a 42 year old single female, who also shares in your drinking problem. I am also a Christian and very proud to be!!

First off, God would NEVER punish you. You know He loves you, and is your Heavenly Father who wants only the best for you. Bad things happen to good people, and if you ever read the Bible you would see the stories of faithful followers who went though a whole lot more! But as you said, you already know that God is not punishing you. God is a loving God, not a punishing God. You can always rest assured on that.

Its funny, because as Christians, people think we are not supposed to have drinking problems or other problems, but many do! There is a group called "Celebrate Recovery" which is all Christian based and for people just like you and me, so obviously many Christians have issues, just like anybody else.

And sweetheart, you have not let God down. He is just sad to see you sad. He will celebrate with you when you get to your success. I really believe that.

Hope to get to know you better! really!!!!

[mama bear]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

ditto marshy.....this is not the place to discuss abortion!!!!

[Guest]

Did God let me down? I let God down.

Guys,

The best place for this type of conversation in the the "What we Believe" section, as per the link in Tawny Frog's post.

Not everyone here is a Christian or a believer. Personally, one of the reasons I drink is to escape the memories of being raised in a religious household.

It's possible that by posting in the general section, you may receive unwelcome responses. If you move over to the "What we believe" section, you will find like-minded people.

However, if you want a general (non-god related) conversation, then you will find many good threads in the "Starting Out" and "General" discussion areas.

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[gyco]

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beleiver to beleiver

curlew;824027 wrote: Hi folks. My names really "jane".

I'm female, 42, and Im married to a great guy who supports me. We have a christian marriage and I'm wondering if there are other christians here who can understnad what I"m goin through right now.

I think God is great and hes blessed with 2 beatiful boys aged 4 and 10 and I live for them. A bout 2 years ago I found out my hubsand was having an affiar. I relly didn't know what I should do so I talked to my pastor and he told me to forgie my husband and I tried. Hes told me it was just a dumb thing that guys do and I think hes right. It was just a mistake. I'd never drank before much but after I found out I found that it made me feel better and now i don't think i can stop. Im not sure I can forgive my husband even tho I want to. He really is a grate guy and we have so much to live for. Hes doesnt' do that anymore and were active in the church so its hard becuase I know that nobody knows about it so i know i have to support him come what may.

For awile I thought God was punshing me because of things I did in my past but now I think I let God down by drinking for comfort insead of turning to my husband and forginving him and let him show me how to walk in the lord. Hes a good guy and I love him and don want to lose him.

I like the things people say here and hope we can be friends.

hi jane,god teaches us to forgive,as sinners ,that even for a christian,is hard to do,old saying,dammed if you do,and dammed if you dont,god gave his only son,so we could be saved,i dont beleive he punishes anymore,i beleive,with the power he bestowed on man and women,we never get more then we can handle,,what life comes down to,is making the rt descisions,christian or not,lets face it we no whats wrong from rt,whether were drinking or drugging or committing adultery,,as far as the latter one,hard descision,there is the old saying also,once an alchoholic always an alchoholic,once an adulter,always an adulterer,again you decide, i do wish you well,gyco:thanks: