yet anather story of booze addiction

[ThePat03]

so I've dealt with an addiction to alchohal since I was 19. while I'm only 25 now I have a wife and two beautiful daughters ages 3 and 1. she has recently told me she is leaving. that she can't be happy with someone who is miserable and hides behind a shot glass. at first I was upset and begged her for anather chance, and honostly I'd still love that, but I know without her doing this I'd probably never change. this is not the first time we've been down this road but she never had means to go it alone and I'd always slip back up. I'm not sure why this time is differant for me but it feels more real. I guess knowing that she doesn't need me finally made it sink in. the worst part is she doesn't want to divorce just seperate. she says she still loves me and wants all the best but can't be with me. I've realized that I took my family for granted and over the last few days I have been the father she always wanted me to be. and guess what? I'm loving it more than ever! I want to show her the man she fell in love with is still there too but I don't want to scare her away. I also don't know how to show her if I'm living with my parents and away from her. this is by far harder than when we lost our second born at birth because that was a fluke and I did this. I could have prevented it. its been terribly hard the last few days but I am going to get over this if only for myself and the kids. she may never come back and she may ask me to move back in next month, I don't know. all I know is that if there is any possibility I'm gonna be a good man from now on so if she wants to she can.

[daddynotcool]

yet anather story of booze addiction

hi man im same age as urs..started drinking around 17...trust me ive lost lot of things in life being an alcoholic...since u r a parent u have to get back on track by kicking the habit...dont decide on anything that affect ur kids life...get better n earn her trust...

[JackieClaire]

yet anather story of booze addiction

:welcome: Pat03,

First of all I'm so sorry for the loss of your second child.

You're in the right place with help for your drinking. Plenty of advice, where no-one will judge you.
Have a look in the link below to help you get you started with a plan of action.
https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Keep posting,keep reading and please let us know how you're getting along.

J x
:l

[newlywed 214]

yet anather story of booze addiction

Hi Pat,

I am 25 with a 6 year-old daughter. I just got married to a wonderful guy and alcohol had made the first month of marriage pretty bad. I started drinking at 17 being raised in a very strict environment and then set free to do as a please with my mom feeding me tequila all of the sudden like it was water. I thought, this is awesome...eight years later...not so awesome. We can be there for our kids. I know I don't ever want to hear that my daughter asked if "Mommy passed out again?" Hang in ther and know you aren't alone! We are young, just think if we DO beat this now how great the rest of our lives will be!!

[ThePat03]

yet anather story of booze addiction

thanks so muxh for all the encouragement. as I said I may want my wife to accept to me back but what I need is sobriety for my kids and myself first and formost. I'm only at a few days but they have been a glorious few days. thanks again.

[mama bear]

yet anather story of booze addiction

do it for your kids honey...we are here for you!!!

[Violet70]

yet anather story of booze addiction

Hi Pat!
If I only knew at 25 what you do! I am just turning 40 in a couple weeks and just sobering up -- spent the last 20+ years thinking about when I would get my next drink. My two pregnancies were hell... I have two amazing girls, 6 and 9. I feel like I have missed so much of their lives.
So, do it for yourself. Do it for those kids. Don't miss out on those amazing years like I did. So many things I blew off because it would conflict with my drinking time, or I knew I just couldn't stay sober for it... You are a smart guy! Listen to that gut!!!!!

Violet

[OverIt2007]

yet anather story of booze addiction

Hi Pat!

If you really want your wife and kids back, then you know what you HAVE to do. You HAVE to take the steps to change. Are you ready? This might be your only shot to get them back, I dont know.

Everyone has different roads to get them sober. What would be the best route for you to take? Rehab? AA? Here? What do you think is the best step to take?

We are here to help, and someone on here is always willing to listen and hold out a hand of support to you. Thats what this website is for, and we do a pretty good job of holding each other up.

I wish you the best, you CAN do it if you want it, there is no doubt in my mind about that.

P.S. Like others have said, you really are Young! Think how grand life can be for the next 70 years of your life, IF you change NOW!

[Hippy Chick]

yet anather story of booze addiction

Hi ThePat3,

Welcome.

Wow! I wish I had my head together at 25 like you sound. I knew from the first drink I had at about 12 or 13 that I had a problem however it took me to 45 to actually do something about it. Good on you for making the effort to find us here and do something about getting and staying sober. Doing it for your wife and kids is good however do it for yourself.
I wish you luck and hope to see you round here often.

DaddyNotCool and Newlywed - well done to both of you too. Like I said above - I wish I had been able to do something about my drinking at such an early age instead of wasting 30+ years at the bottom of a bottle. Good luck.

Hippy

[ThePat03]

yet anather story of booze addiction

I am doing it for me because even before my family as a bacholer it was always booze. I had maybe 2 girlfreinds before my wife and one left over my drinking. almost every problem I've had either stemmed from drinking or was worsened by drinking in response to it. I know my life won't be perfect without drinking but its gotta be a lot better. also I'm not doing rehab as my doctor said he doesn't believe my detox will require close supervision or an extended stay as long as those around me are engaged in my recovery. now I'm going to be staying with my folks while I get sober and they know everything that's gone on so I'm good there. I'm gonna use this site primarily for supprt as I can access it from my phone but I may attend a few meetings as well. either AA or a non religeous suppprt group. whichever helps more cuz I will try both. but I will be active here and may post things occasionally that sound desperate or that I'm lost but I'm just starting this journy so I'm still scared. however from all the posts I've read here everyone seems concerned for each other and genuinly care. I need that now so thank you all.

[OverIt2007]

yet anather story of booze addiction

Pat,

It sincerely sounds like you are ready for a change. There are alot of HUGE success stories on here, and alot of great advice from others who have been there, done that.

It is a kinda close knit bunch on here, who truely do care for each others success. Its hard to beat this kind of thing on your own, EVERYONE needs some kind of support.

Many people on here would love to take you under their wings, help you around, and be the ear to listen when you need it, and the voice to give you advice when you need it. Many people have been on here for years, myself included!

Please let us help in any way we can. Your family and you deserve to get the help you need.

:l

Overit