Day 30 ! What Next ??

[Farm Girl]

Hi everyone, I am on Day 30 and have decided no big celebration. This may lead to that oh what will hurt one drink and then I am back to dreaded Day 1. No thanks! I have found that I am still moody - and crazy as it sounds - like I am just not that much fun without drinking. Is that normal? Or mental? Hey drink and you'll have fun? I just got the 6 week package and was wondering what your experience has been with the supplements? And thanks to all of you as this place has helped me so much - for advice and understanding that many people are going thru what I am going thru.

[sweet pea]

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yeah, I can relate, I feel that I am more fun when I have had a few glasses of wine, without that I remain my very controlled self, this has been an excuse for not quitting, HELP! My husband even says I am more fun when I have had a few, this makes it very hard to quit even though I know that I need to, for my health's sake. This is no help to you, Farm Girl, this is reaching out for help.

[Lavande]

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CONGRATS ON YOUR 30 AF DAYS!!

Good work Farm Girl, be proud of yourself!
For me the next step was to work on changing my thinking. You CAN be fun without drinking. You can be happy, healthy & guilt free without drinking. You have more cash in your pocket without drinking so treat yourself to something nice.

I have not used the supplements myself (allergy concerns) but it seems most people do & benefit from them. The Hypnotherapy CDs really helped me to relax & change my thinking, have you tried them?

Keep up the good work, please feel free to drop in the Newbies Nest thread too.

Lav

[tlrgs]

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awesome job on 30 days well done and keep it going

[dancingon]

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30 days is awesome and next month I hope to be joining you there. In the words of Dory "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming"
Are you sure you were more fun when you had been drinking, or did you just think you were?
If your husband thinks so too, has he been drinking when he says that?
I guess loosening up without alcohol is a learned thing, just like unlearning the need to turn to it when you're stressed and unhappy.

[catch22]

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Well done on the 30days sober farm girl.
Yeap my hubby once said that to me i was more of a laugh, but not no more because he knows that one drink or one drunk what it leads to now and the madness that goes on in my head.
I remember when i first try to stop drinking my hubby thought i was having a afffair because i shut myself of completely but that the effect of what AL does to ya.
The moods and crazy feelings does go in time everyone is different.

All the best to you..... keep moving forward its the best way to go.x

[mollyka]

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Well done Farmgirl - how wise you are not to celebrate - that lead to my first downfall, I thought I was invinceable - NOT!! I'm still a bit moody and grumpy at times, I suppose if we've had a crutch for god knows how many years when you throw away the crutch..........?
Something fairly new to me is that I'm becoming aware that the only people I was more fun with were my drinking friends and I was drinking. Where I work, obviously we're not drinking ( not all that obviously previously I'll admit) and lots of people I work with don't drink anyway and I find I can relax and skit around and be a bit of a laugh, when I'm with people who are drinking they irritate me so much there is no way I could be fun - does that make sense?
Anyway :goodjob: on 30 days, it feels great doesn't it!!!!
Molly

[hillsidetime]

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Farmgirl, congrats on the 30, high five! I know that it takes a lot of hard work to get there. You ask the same question I did, "what next". There was no real answer. The only thing I know, is like you, having a drink is not the answer for me either.
- Sweatpea, I feel the same way often, and my wife also says stuff like I wish you would just have a beer with me. She doesn't understand that I don't want one, I want 12. I am still trying to see life through the sober paradigm, so I still have hope that what I used to see as the "fun to be with" guy who drinks may not be all it was made out to be in my mind
- Lavande and Molly nailded it on the head, well said

Stay strong farmgirl, you can do it,
Hill

[spuddleduck]

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:goodjob: well done on 30AF and well done for not celebrating with a drink.
i get really annoyed when people say 'have a drink and liven up'. i feel i am being boring when i dont drink, but as my partner correctly pointed out, how boring is a slurring, incoherent drunk, which is what i ended up being (only a short time after a few drinks would i be 'fun'). you are doing this for YOU, keep it up

[OverIt2007]

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Hi Farm Girl,

Congratulations on getting your 30 days! That is GREAT! :goodjob:

Ok, can I share what happened to me last week? Last Wednesday I also got my first 30 days, as in EVER! It was a big deal to me and respresented so many things to me.

Then, foolishly I went out and got drunk!!!!

Farm Girl, My posts went from happy person to miserable, depressed, regretful person.

I had wished so bad that I had not screwed it up! It SO was not worth it to me.

With that being said, I suggest you keep going!!!!!

Wishing you the best,

Overit

[LVT25]

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:goodjob:

The hard part is over. I agree so much with what everyone has said above! I still remember my first 30 days. It felt so good, I just kept on going, and it turned into 60, then 90 then......it seemed really stupid to throw all that away. I kept telling myself, that my body was detoxed--why start pouring the poison in again and have to start all over. Besides, it was fun to be able to say I'd be af that many days. Also, I knew after that length of time the hangover would be a killer, and I REALLY don't want to do that to myself.

I guess maybe we are more fun whilst drinking. I'm pretty sure I was. But, oh well. I HAVE fun now, in lots of different ways. Sometimes I have to try harder to relax and not be so uptight--but I used alcohol so long I have lost my inner child.

Anyway, life IS different without alcohol. But it is better in so many more ways than it is worse.
LET them be more fun and feel like S#$T!

Keep going, you won't regret it.

As far as the supplements, I did use most of them for awhile. I think they help repair the damage we've done to ourselves. FWIW.

[johnnyh]

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Hey fantastic job!! Well done.

30 days is a huge sucess. Surely it's got to be uphill from here for you?!

Congratz

[Doggygirl]

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:goodjob: on 30 Days AF! I say keep rockin' it. I decided to give drinking a whirl after 60 days and boy, what THAT a huge mistake. My "fantasies" of drinking and being fun, and having fun are LONG ago history that I cannot get back again. For me, drinking is just misery in a bottle. My life was shite at the end of my drinking career (thank you Euros for the shite word!) and it's a zillion times better now, even though I no longer try to be the life of the party. (for better or worse - usually worse)

2 cents,

DG

[Farm Girl]

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Thanks everyone, for the support and words of advice!! And you are so right - maybe I just perceive myself as more fun because I really drank the most when I was alone. Not pretty. I vow to never have a AL hangover again. Just remembering all my hangovers is enough to not drink again! So I'm on Day 31 and feeling strong!

[LT]

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FarmGirl!!! YES!!!!! GREAT NEWS!!!!