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    Hi all,

    Well.. today was really totally emotionally draining.. Was at court for almost 8 hours.. but only 2 hours of that was any evidence heard.. the 2 police officers who were there at the time made their statements (I had to wait outside, I wasnt allowed to hear what they said), and photo's of my beaten up face was shown.. my exes sister ran out the courtroom crying after those were shown.. anyway.. it has been adjourned again as we ran out of time.. my ex had issues with not paying his lawyers so he was unrepresented.. he tried to argue with the magistrate to get it adjourned and she had to tell him to shut up 4 times as he was arguing with her.. she refused but gave him 3 hours to read the brief.. so some evidence was heard. but i didn't get to speak, and there are 2 civilian "witnesses" (a couple of my exes friends/family who didnt see what happened) didnt speak..
    so i have to go through all the turmoil again in 2 months.. i found i coped quite well, i had my friend with me and kept my invisible cloak on! I stayed strong and ignored his family.. i just marched past them with my head held high.. thanks again for all your support! i will be needing it again in 2 months!
    Katie xxx
    "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

    :groupluv:

    #2
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    Oh, Katie - That's mean! Making you have to wait again. If he hasn't paid his lawyers, that his problem not yours.

    It's clear that your ex has not impressed the judge though. Will you get the same one next time?

    Does his sister understand now?

    Well done on taking this on without AL. We'll be with you again next time.

    xxx

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      #3
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      Hi Katie,

      Well done, I'm sure your strong and dignified demeanour will have served you well.

      It sounds as though your ex-husbands behaviour in court will have been noted, and any further disregard for the court process may be his undoing.

      You got through it with your self-esteem and sobriety intact, and you will again in two months. Just think how much stronger and invincible you will be in that time!

      Thanks for letting us know how it went.
      I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you.

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        #4
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        Hey Katie,
        Really happy that you felt like you coped well. Its unfortunate that you have to go through it all again in another couple of months though.
        Sounds like his sister was shocked to see what her dear brother can be capable of.
        Be strong and keep looking after yourself.
        Amelia

        Sober since 30/06/10

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          #5
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          Hey Katie, you did yourself proud, and you can do it again next time. So proud of you. I know it must be really annoying but hey you got past this bit.

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            #6
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            Katie,
            You are going through so much at this time, only to have it drag on longer and longer. Please stay strong and maintain your faith in yourself.
            I totally agree with Gold.

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              #7
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              Nice one Katie
              Bit of a bummer that you've to wait another 2 months but certainly sound like you did everything A1 from your end - he sounds like he was all over the place
              Well done
              Molly:goodjob:
              Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
              contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                #8
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                Thank you all,
                Yep, I managed to get through yesterday and today without AL, though I did have my valiums to help me a bit, though I did not take many and stayed alert..
                My ex is trying to get it seen in the Supreme court as he thinks the judge treated him harshly for not granting him an adjournement and he is trying to get the police statements to not be allowed! (even though they are the police and were there that night so cannot be biased or lie - they are the police for goodness sakes..) and for me to be the only witness! Im not sure how successful he will be with this as I dont know how it all works.. he is very scared and fighting to the death as he does not want to go to jail..
                Just have to see what happens in 2 months I guess.. there's nothing I can do..
                "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

                :groupluv:

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                  #9
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                  Just remember Katie,
                  Your ex beat you up. You have the photos to prove it and the police were there after the fact.
                  Your ex deserves to be punished for what he did. If he is freed, he could do the same thing to someone else. You are doing the right thing. He is a violent bully.
                  Be strong and keep AF.
                  Amelia

                  Sober since 30/06/10

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                    #10
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                    Well done Katie!

                    'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

                    Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                      #11
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                      good for you kateb, well done

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                        #12
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                        Hey Kate,

                        It sounds like you did fantastic and that's what matters. You kept your composure leading up to this. Stayed of the AL and substance. And your ex made an a#$ out of himself in court. I think it sounds like you did very well and you should celebrate that sucess i.e. be happy.

                        I can totally understand your frustration though of having to go through another 2 months without having any finality with the situation to have peace.

                        I think needless to say that we all have your back here and justice will be served. Even if it takes a little longer.

                        Take care.
                        AF since 15th March 2010

                        The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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                          #13
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                          Way to go Katie. Well done. The hard part is out of the way. You will know what to expect next time. Sounds like he is up $hit creek without a paddle. You should be really proud of yourself. You have stayed sober and straight and are a credit to your little boy.
                          Good onya.
                          XX
                          I finally got it!
                          "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become" Buddah

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                            #14
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                            KB, way to go. I am glad you got through yesterday strong and proud, high five! It still must have been emotionally tough though for sure. It may take a few days to settle in, and that is OK and normal. Keep us posted on how you are feeling. I hope you have a great week,
                            Hill
                            Sober since Feb 7, 2010.

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                              #15
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                              Oh Katie Gurl.....YOU ROCK.....
                              I read this and jumped up and said FUCK YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!
                              I am so sorry you have todrag this out but I actually laughed that your ex had no attorney and was chastized by the judge..... I am so f'ing proud of you my frend......
                              And you held your head high and wore your cloak and we were all there with you.....
                              YOU SHOULD FEEL SO STRONG AND PROUD RIGHT NOW....and we will get you there again in two months........go give that sweet son 40 zillion kisses......
                              I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                              Live in the Solution....not the problem

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