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    #1

    ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

    Hey good morning fellow Odaters!

    Hey Spam. Looks like I beat you to it this morning (or much later for you already I suppose )

    I'm on holiday no officially !!! Had to work the full day and longer in the end yesterday but am off now. (though on standby for tomorrow).

    So crunch time as well now. Will try to keep busy and positive.

    Had a major argument with my mom yesterday trying to work out some issues that go 12-13 years back and are quite emotional. Oh I could have so done with a drink afterwards. It was so draining the whole argument and everything. And her and my wife did have some drinks than, so even more difficult for me. Well I made it through another day and today is today.

    Have a great day everyone. Hope to be checking in regularly.
    AF since 15th March 2010

    The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.
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    #2
    ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

    :bow

    Awesome that u still dry after all that

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      #3
      ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

      Thanks. It is interesting though to see how I coped with emotions before. My immediate response was oh wow I could do with a drink now. forget about the argument and pretend everything is fine.

      We did work out the issue in the end actually and (while they were having drinks but that's fine) we watched a movie together and eventually I started relaxing again.
      AF since 15th March 2010

      The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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        #4
        ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

        Morning Johnny & Dancingon and to everyone else still to check in.

        Johnny that was awesome not having a drink well done you. Hope your argument got resolved and you can both move on.

        Had a good evening, no wine, lots of reading here on MWO and a good sleep. Got a busy few days at work hoping to get organised for my two days holiday (Friday & Monday) over easter - gosh it makes you wonder if holidays are worth it sometimes!!

        Have a great day everyone :l
        Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.

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          #5
          ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

          Johnny our posts crossed, glad it got resolved x
          Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.

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            #6
            ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

            Hey Panno. Absolutely. I tell you, I can hardly get any rest already worrying about the load of work coming my way next week when i'm back. The nature of my job and my position is that things don't really continue, they just get hold up. I other words once back i got an extra week's work waiting. What's the use of a holiday than?!!!

            And than obviously the fact as well that in early recovery we dread the weekends and holidays because ther is just so much more temptation luring, we aren't as busy, etc.

            Can't wait to get some descent AF time in so that I can really start enjoying my off time again!
            AF since 15th March 2010

            The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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              #7
              ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

              Hi Guys, fellow ODAT's,
              Day 3 for me today.. or just one unit of AL in 10 days (or something like that..) No tempatation to drink for me! I swear I am just sworn off the stuff.. nowadays (its probably age lol) it just makes me feel tired! then depressed..
              hi to everyone else who drops in,
              Katie xx
              "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

              :groupluv:

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                #8
                ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                I prefer the second way of putting it Katie. That one glass of champus on your birthday is really a testimony of what a strong mind you have
                AF since 15th March 2010

                The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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                  #9
                  ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                  Thanks Johnny!
                  I totally agree! Before (my counselling treatment, and coming on here) that one glass would not have been one glass.. its unbelievable how far I have come that i could just have one glass and enjoy it for what it was.. just a celebratory drink, rather than drinking to want to get drunk..
                  "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

                  :groupluv:

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                    #10
                    ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                    Hello All,

                    Sense of humour failure happening here. I shall explain later.

                    Well Done on the conversation with your mother, Johnny, and on not drinking. I would love to tackle my mother about things but it's too late now. She's 82, in the UK and extremely stubborn. I have tried to talk to her before but she refuses.

                    This is one of the reasons I am seeing a counsellor - so I can move on. (I once asked my mother for an apology over something that was blatantly wrong and she would not back down.)

                    Better get moving and defuse this bad mood. Back later.

                    Spam xx

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                      #11
                      ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                      Spam,
                      I know exactly what you mean about stubborn mother's.. I had to cut mine out of my life eventually as having her in it caused me so much (emotional) harm.. i cannot believe any mother would not want to be always loving to their daughter(s)! me nor my sister speak to our mum anymore.. I am also in counselling partly due to her.. i have broke down in tears a few times over her lack of caring and rejection.. anyway, enough about me.. i truly hope you feel better soon.. some people especially when old are too "stuck in their ways".. and will never listen to anyone about anything..

                      Katie xxx
                      "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

                      :groupluv:

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                        #12
                        ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                        Hey Spam.

                        Hope you day will brighten up!! Yeah. the story with my mom was something like that. We actually 2 days earlier had mad our peace and then yesterday she came back and wanted to put something clear. How things weren't here fault, etc. etc. Eventually I convinced her for once to try to see things through my eyes all that time back and what it had meant to me. She finally got around to it. However my mom and I (now) share the same believe system and both wanted to work on our relationship. Two way street. I am fortunate in this regard.

                        Moving on which might include a certain level of forgiveness when the other person doesn't see any wrong doing is incredibly difficult. If not the most difficult thing. Problem is it's so neccessary in order to move on! I carried some level of resentment for 12 years. And it feels great finally being able to start letting go. Good luck with everything on your side Spam. I really appreciate how difficult things must be for you with the history and everything. I'm so glad you are doing the counselling thing. I need to one day.
                        AF since 15th March 2010

                        The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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                          #13
                          ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                          Immediate Whinge First...

                          I had my knee x-rayed yesterday. I have called the doctors 3 times today and cannot get the results. Dr A is not interested, so I saw Dr B who explained about bursitis, soft tissue and nerve damage and the shifting of the patella. The grinding noise is the patella rubbing against cartlidge (sp?).

                          Dr A did not get the x-ray results as he is a locum and Dr B is away until after Easter. All I want to know is when I can exercise again. Excercise is the key, for me, in staying away from the grog.

                          Then, this afternoon, at school, a mother (who has not spoken to me for 3 years after a falling out) decided to start making bitchy comments about me / to me in front of my son's teacher and within my hearing. Her husband was there and I think this gave her the courage - she certainly hasn't tried to confront me in the last three years. Anyway, I ignored her. (Everyone at school knows she is an attention seeker to the point of having Munchausen's.) I am so angry. I want to confront her tomorrow and ask her how brave she can be when her husband is not around but I know this is pointless. (I will end up being the bad person.) I shall ignore her and not let her know I am rattled.

                          Spam

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                            #14
                            ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                            KatieB;830505 wrote: Spam,
                            I know exactly what you mean about stubborn mother's.. I had to cut mine out of my life eventually as having her in it caused me so much (emotional) harm.. i cannot believe any mother would not want to be always loving to their daughter(s)! me nor my sister speak to our mum anymore.. I am also in counselling partly due to her.. i have broke down in tears a few times over her lack of caring and rejection.. anyway, enough about me.. i truly hope you feel better soon.. some people especially when old are too "stuck in their ways".. and will never listen to anyone about anything..

                            Katie xxx
                            It's beyond belief, Katie. My son was delivered by c-section and we were both so ill, I didn't see him for 2 days. (I had a placental abruption and he ended up in special care.) From the moment I saw him, I vowed nothing would separate us - except natural progression like uni, moving out, travelling, him getting married. I could never put anyone or anything before him.

                            My mother was involved in a cult and used to say the "church" comes first, then dad, then the children. And it was always made obvious I was a mistake. No wonder I am screwed up.

                            I'm back in the UK for a few days in June and have still not decided whether to see my family. I would have to say my mother has been a fantastic grandmother. At 82, each visit is potentially the last time I will see my mother and I think my son should see his nan.

                            Well, I think that's my whinging over and done with tonight. Thanks for listening.

                            Where's them Amercians? They don't turn up until we go to bed!

                            Has anyone sent a PM to Another Day? I hate to think that she is on a binge.

                            Spam.

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                              #15
                              ODAT, Tuesday, March 30 2010

                              Morning Guys!

                              Looks like this is the Spam, Johnny and Katie Thread!! LOL! Its good to see you guys doing well, or at least staying AF. Thats the most important focus of our life right??? If you are suceeding there, things will fall into place... in time. Just have to keep the Faith in that.

                              Johnny just think how much WORSE things would have been with a drink. Katie, glad to see such a strong Katie emerging through your trials, and Spam hope this turmoil passes for you soon

                              Starting Day 5 for me. It seems my HUGE slip up was enough to sober me straight. I was very fearful I might go back, but it seems that I have switched back over to sober life again.

                              I have said this before, but I really do not know how I am "switching gears" so to speak. It feels like the desire has left me, almost as if a miracle, I just seem to want to not drink anymore.

                              I cannot get too cocky though, I think when you let your guard down, thats when you get bit in the ass. I know temptations will come, but I so want to defeat them this time around.

                              Have a blessed day everyone, I will check in later tonight. Oh, Hi to Dancingon and Panno. Good to see you both too!!
                              I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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