Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

[4MyHealth]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Thanks DG and Molly.

I'll try to think of active things to do. Yes, sitting around does make one focus on past habits...

Molly - good to know that after the first weekend it gets easier. and, what a nice thought that the weekends seem so much longer!! Good thing!

[mollyka]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Morning 4MyHealth,
I found grown-up painting by numbers absolutely brilliant cos you have so many things (paint, brushes, cloths etc) you've no time or room for a glass, also jig-saw puzzles, I really agree with DG about the active things but sometimes when we are craving and stressed that seems a step too far!
Molly

[4MyHealth]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Just an update...and accountability for me. Today is day 3. I feel fine. Last night I was sooo tired, but did have a busy day. 1st day at 50 mg. topamax. Did the clearing 1 & 2 cds and the sleep learning. It was the first time I did them with headphones and I really think it made a difference!
Need to find some paint-by-numbers for Friday night.

[Guest]

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4MH

I think you will be pleasantly surprised come Friday night. I used to think the week wouldn't be complete without going out partying but what I didn't realise was how much of life I was missing because of it, and how much my weekends were a complete utterly boring waste of time.

Why?

Because I'd get drunk Friday night, not be able to do anything constructive Saturday, get drunk Saturday night and lose Sunday. I couldn't commit to anything that started early at the weekend which ruled out going fell walking, driving was out of the question and I lost touch with most of my hobbies and interests. It's amazing once you stop how you really don't bother with the Friday/Saturday/Sunday scene any more. So many possibilities will arise you will wonder how you ever found the time or inclination to drink.

[4MyHealth]

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Hi UK,

I hope you're right!! To "wonder how you ever found the time or inclination to drink" seems like another world. Even on a sober day 3. Of course, I know what you mean about not doing anything constructive the day after. ...sometimes just hoping my boys want to cuddle up and watch a movie so I can justify being lazy. Maybe this weekend will be an active, productive one!! Thanks for that bright light at the end of this short little tunnel.

[Farm Girl]

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4MyHealth - I can totally relate because the industry I work in is loaded with heavy drinkers plus I have a lot of social events I attend where alcohol is flowing freely...I told people at first I was on medication, then I used the weight loss excuse with some, but now I tell them I gave up red meat and alcohol. Trying to get healthy (isn't that the truth anyway!) And, I am beginning not to care what people think because it is none of their business anyway! You can still have fun, I promise. Wishing you the best and if you need support, we are here for you!

[4MyHealth]

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Farm Girl, You are right, it isn't any of their business...but they still ask any way...and I'm an old school guilty girl. I'll start with the medication excuse and then head to weight loss and then giving up alcohol. It seems like a logical progression! Thanks!

[mollyka]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Good morning 4myH, at the beginning I just didn't feel strong enough to make that statement either, and still don't really want to say 'I don't drink' , now I actually don't know why but like Farmgirl says it is nobodys business. Imagine someone asking why you don't drink fanta orange or something???!
I still have a problem with the social side. Like Lav said she was at the beginning I have been a bit of a hermit and only venturing 'out' with hubby who knows I won't sit for hours in a pub etc. I reckon I'm going to have to join the land of the living soon baaaaaahhhh, I have really enjoyed my little cocoon.
Bit of a dilemna actually this weekend. Where I work there are a lot of oldies (40 - 50 somethings like me) and young ones ( in their 20s and 30s) and usually any meeting up after work breaks down into the two groups separately, however one of the young lassies said to me the other day would I go along on Sat night, they going out for a meal and a 'few'? drinks. It was a real compliment, she said she was asking me and another woman cos 'we are great craic'. I (think) I know that if I sat there nursing my sparkling water I would cramp their style and if I don't go they might think I am standoffish and won't ask me again ( I would actually love to go, they are a great bunch).
Not sure what to do - sorry for boring you, but I suppose what I'm saying is there are ongoing dilemnas to be faced - but schucks, its an easier dilemna than going out with them Sat night getting pissed and facing all those young people Mon morning - yeah I've just sorted myself out, thanks for listening, and whatever excuse you use 4myH, good luck it IS worth it I promise
Molly:thanks: for listening

[4MyHealth]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Day 4, so busy with my kids out of school for a 3 week break and late-night baseball for my 9 year-old. Hubby out of town.

Molly - the social side is daunting. I suppose it must get easier. I agree, you should accept the invite from the "young ones". I have no idea what "we are great craic" means ---would love a translation if possible. But whatever it means, I'm sure you're great and they'd love your company even while nursing a sparkling water. Great company is great company, right? And yeah, you don't want to have to face them Mon morning. Glad you sorted it out yourself...glad to listen. Thanks for the good luck wish.
Oh gosh, you're not boring me!! It is great just to be able to chat and get things out in the open.

[miss t]

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Hillsidetime, you are so right about the wedding vows. Good point!

[Guest]

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4MYH

One of the things I say is simply that AL didn't do me any favours, in a negative way so I decided not to drink any more. If someone gets a bit funny I'm not afraid to say I had an AL problem or am an alcoholic. Heck! If I was prepared to let folk see me staggering out of nightclubs, visiting the Off-Licence at 10am looking not very well or even worse the 24 hour supermarket at 4am via taxi smelling of booze, have fainted in the high street, been sick at my friends house etc then saying I'm an alcoholic who gave up drink is rather minor.

[mollyka]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

How right you are UKB! Definitely daft thinking. Embarassed telling people I have a problem with alcohol or embarassed falling over drunk on roller-skates - no contest!!
4myHealth - you are soooooo american! (hehe only joking of course!!!!) 'great craic' is 'good fun', often unfortunately used in the context of having too much to drink.
Good morning everyone, by the way 4mH why are kids out of school for 3 weeks? Ours had Easter break and will get summer hols in June
Molly

[4MyHealth]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

Uk & Molly, Well, I wont say that AL made me whitty and wise. I just am of a group who can have 2 or 3 glasses and not go overboard so I'd like to be able to join them without doing just that. Anyhow. Great Craic...now if only I knew how to say it I would sound so worldly! My kids go year round (until 6/22 then they go "modified traditional") so they go 9 weeks on; 3 weeks off. So, this is our 3 weeks off. We were going to fly to San Diego but between soccer, baseball & swimming, there isn't time (plus we save $
We have a short summer this year 6/22 - 8/10. Hopefully by then...I will be well.

[4MyHealth]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

day 7 af. Last night wasn't easy, but my son had soccer, so there wasn't an option. By the time we got home, we were all wiped out. Watched Chicken Little and headed to bed. Feel like I have a cold coming on which should help out tonight... maybe I can get some good af time under my belt! Getting through Saturday night would be major for me. We are going out for burgers and I can't imagine not ordering wine. but I will try it...no, I will do it!

[mollyka]

Just Getting It...Day 1 AF

4MyHealth, 'craic' pronounced 'crack' now go and impress the world! The kids school term sounds awful complicated - jeez, reckon my lot would never get there I'd be so confused! Love San Diego spent a fabulous holiday there, actually just spotted you are from Colorado - what a beautiful State you lucky thing.
Well done on 7 days and good luck tonight
Molly