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[Panno]

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Dryingout if you click on the health store at the top of the page you can download for $12 - hope that helps :l

[mollyka]

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Hi Dryin out, em go to the top of the page and click on 'Health store' and you can find the book Good luck
Molly

[mollyka]

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Sorry Panno cross-post

[not tonight]

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toasty;852279 wrote: I am 39 and from the UK. I am in my last month of a (post) graduate degree and have a good job to go to in August but of course my main problem is drinking. I do not really get cravings but boredom is a major problem for me and sleeping without being drunk. I have also put on a lot of weight really and I seem trapped in a cycle of bordom-feeling fat-drinking -not sleeping. Stupidly when I do not drink for a few days and eat right and go to the gym I feel so great that I celebrate by drinking. Crazy I know.

Hi Toasty,

I am new as well, today is day 1, (also live in the UK) and spent yesterday afternoon reading various threads and have found so much common ground as well as support and tools for battling the Beast. I too am a boredom drinker, rarely drink during the day, (unless on holiday) but once 5 pm rolls around, and I am watching the clock, out comes the wine. Growing up, alcohol was a pervasive part of our household. My father is a high functioning alcoholic. There was never a reason not to have a drink. That's how he usually filled the time. What normalised the amount of consumption, was that my father is a very charismatic man, ferociously intelligent and successful. What I have come to realise about my own condition is that I have to re-learn how to fill those empty gaps in the evening, or moments of boredom, celebration, socialising. Drinking is not always about drowning out fears or cooping with stress. It is a learned behaviour, like money management, table manners or other family values handed down. It must be unlearned, and replaced with new behaviour or values.

[mollyka]

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:clapclap::clapclap: Well said Nottonight, it invades every part of our 'normal' lives and leaves such a space when stopped. In a way the stress situations are easier to deal with because we are aware when unhappy or stressed that booze will enter our minds, the rest of the time it just sort - happens?!
Molly

[girly wirly]

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welcome toasty, drying out, ruby blu, and not tonight! you have found a great safe healthy place full of like minded people who ultimately want to achieve the same thing. to remove al from our lives.

not tonight what you said about alcoholism being a learned behaviour really struck a chord with me. my kids have seen alot of drink around on weekends, they know that its how mam and dad relax. i too learned this behaviour from my father and he the father before him. i want to nip this in the bud while my kids are still young and impressionable and i can teach them healthy habits to copy!

one of my favourite old sayings helping me through this plan is "the sins of the father shall reverberate throughout the generations." so true unless i change this.:h

good luck on your journey, get reading and sharing x

[hillsidetime]

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Hi Toasty and welcome. Read and write lots in here, there are many people who can give you some great advice. All the best,
Hill

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Girly Whirly

I too fear for my kids. They see wine at the diner table far too frequently. Mine are still young as well, but growing fast. Must make changes in my life now, other wise I am not only harming myself, but also my children.

To our kids!!! They deserve more!