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[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello Red, may I offer you a belated welcome to MWO. I too am sorry for your losses, the circumstances surrounding your sons death must have been beyond most peoples comprehension. I am glad you found us, for this place really does change lives. You have been given some great advice and I really hope you stick around and become part of our community.
Keep safe
KTAB

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I'm really glad you came back, Red.

[Guitarista]

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G'day Red, and welcome.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Your son's passing away is so recent, so take it easy on yourself, and maybe don't expect too much from yourself too soon?

Best wishes friend, and i hope you stick around here.

[redredwine]

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I had two days af. Last night discovered that my surviving son stole a considerable sum from me and used the cash to buy drugs (dope he claims .) i hit the wine again last night.

Book hasn't arrived yet. Can now get access to this forum from my phone this should help. Thanks to all for your advice and guidance i have found them useful particularly the toolbox. Back soon.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hi Red, I am at a loss to know what to say about the theft right now. But I am glad you are here with us and trying to beat this addiction. You can download the book in PDF format from the home page also. Just take it easy and stick with us.

[girly wirly]

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redwine,
welcome and good you came back! you need to talk with your son, find out why he did this, chances are he is grieving too. but the answer isnt in the bottom of the bottle red. draw a line under it and get posting and planning here. we are all here for you and are a damn site more caring than an emoty bottle.

sorry for your losses, lets try and get you moving and looking forward eh?
:l

[redredwine]

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Thanks guys for the support.

[grangelady]

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Hi RedRedWine
Just wanted to add my welcome to the forum and to thank you for sharing your very personal and sad story. Life has dealt you a very unfair hand recently no wonder you sought comfort in alcohol, because it does provide a sort of comfort at the time, there's no doubt about that.
But it doesn't last forever and soon becomes a mill-stone that drags us down and makes it even more difficult to deal with what life throws at us.
Red please stick with the site, you'll find help and support 24/7 here, there are so many kind, thoughtful like-minded people here that will help you through it, without judgement or scorn, no matter what you do, someone here, has been there and done it and probably done a lot worse:H:H
Take care :l:l

[redredwine]

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Been AF since then. Having a look about the site. Thanks again for your help.

[OverIt2007]

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Oh my God, Red,

I just read this post. Words cannot express the pain I felt for you when I read this. I am a mother of a little boy. I cannot imagine the pain you have felt to lose your child. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart dropped when I read this. Im so sorry. I hope to be better of support to you when you need it. Thank you for sharing your story as painful as it is. This is a good place to be and heal. Lets all help each other along the best we can. Im so sorry that you have had to bear this pain.

[redredwine]

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Hi Overit2007 and thanks for your comments. Yes, every parents nightmare. Perhaps this was inappropriate for a first post. Maybe I should move it to 'My Story'?

Anyway; life is pretty crap, the anniversary of my son's death is approaching and I suspect it will be worse than his birthday and Christmas - both of which bring tears to my eyes even just to type this. Not the best environment to stop drinking, but sadly the AL has been making things darker - so it must go. I have never tried quitting before, simply because I have been able to successfully moderate my drinking. However the last year I have noticed that my intake is increasing and that I have no wish to moderate.

Book still hasn't arrived. Should get it within days.

[OverIt2007]

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Hi Red,

I think you are doing great at hanging in there. I know how hard this is, and so does everyone else on here. Alcohol is one son of a bitch to beat, and when you throw in the curve balls like you have had, well its hard. Hope you keep hanging on.

To be honest with you Red, I did order the book, but did not read it much. I did get some useful information out of it, and I think Roberta Jewel is amazing and thank her for this website. What I had the most success with really was just the community of the website, and posting out alot of my feelings. In a nutshell, you can do this, with or without the book.

[daybyday]

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Welcome rr, you have come to a really good place. I am very sorry for your loses and sadness. I have tried to quit drinking (2 bottles wine/night as well) for many years. Only on this site have I found anything that makes sense. Having a support system in place 24/7seems to be a lifesaver for many of us. I hope you stick around, the people on here are the best. A big hug to you. :l

[mollyka]

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RR, I relatively successfully moderately ( well more than moderate but not nightmare sort of stuff) drank all my life, but my Mum died 2 years ago and combined with that there was a lot of family acrimony culminating in me loosing touch with my entire family ( thankfully nothing to do with booze, not my boozing anyway - long story!). Anyway to cut a long story short my drinking literally spiralled in the last two years, not an excuse, but definitely the trigger was Mum dying. The booze didn't help, maybe for a little spell of oblivion every night - the rest of the time was awful.

Tragedy without booze - tragedy
Tragedy with booze - still tragedy but also life chaos and misery.
Thinking of you
Molly

[LookingAhead]

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Hey RedWine, I'm just starting out and wish I could give something besides my sympathy for your lose and my support. I wish you the best!! Hoping it day 5 for you now. :-)