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[NewOne]

I fell off at day 6 & went on a 2 day binge. The thing is, I did it consciously due to a circumstance. There wasn't any internal crap going on.

Now I know that my triggers are external. A few years ago, me & the ex split. We were heavy drinkers as was all of our friends. I let the friends go because I didn't want that life anymore. Then slowly I began drinking alone at home.

I don't know how to socialize without drinking. Being around people has become too hard for me. I like being alone, but I feel like something is missing. I hide from people. Usually because I feel like crap from drinking.

So...day one it is..anybody else in? Get in here, let's talk, spill your guts, let it all hang, vomit the truth, pity party or not, lets release the poison that causes us to drink.

[mario]

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Go for it newone you can do it, wishing you the best

[NewOne]

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Here is today options...I have been invited to a family & friend fish fry. An all day long event. I come from a hard living, hard loving, hard drinking bunch who loves me to no end. There is nothing I could ever do to shame them as we are all pretty much of the same mentality. (oh my romaticize why don't I). We drink, we sing, we find someone to snuggle with in a cool shady place & take a nap, then we get up and do it all over again. (more romance)

Or I can stay at home alone. (insert pity here)

I have 4 beers in my fridge, do I pour them out or do I gulp them down & go join the crowd?

I'm very aware that I am talking myself into drinking these beers & hooking up with The Deviants.

I'm doomed.

[not tonight]

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What so you really want to do?

[Panno]

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Newone I would pour them out and cry off tonight and insert as much pity here as you need, the good thing will be the outcome, no hangover tomorrow

[bungle]

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I am new this is my first day... i have put my smiley face already on my calendar for day 1 and hope i have a lot more days to follow.... the thing i am most looking forward to right now is waking up tomorrow the first time in a long time without my hangover in tow.

[JackieClaire]

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:welcome: bungle,

Glad to have you here. Have a click on the link below to help you get a plan together.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Keep reading, keep posting, then read some more.

J x
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[Panno]

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:welcome: Bungle you have come to a great place with good advice and yes you will feel really good tomorrow, good luck on your journey and look forward to chatting with you along the way If your feeling strong why not check out some of the 30 day challenges you can either hike or swim or even both and theres the newbies nest who always make you feel welcome. Theres great banter going on aswell to give light relief

[NewOne]

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No hangover or no hard lovin'...what's it gonna be?


Crap almighty...I suck.

not tonight;858192 wrote: What so you really want to do?

[Justforme]

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New One - I've probably seen your post after you've made your decision. Hopefully for you, it was the right one. I'm 16 days AF now. Can't believe it, but not feeling as euphoric as I thought I would at this achievement or looking at myself in the mirror and shouting back at myself 'you go girl!!' - no, I find I'm just quite quiet and feeling like can this really possibly last. (So there's the old one day at a time thing going on without me realising it). The BEST THING YOU CAN DO is avoid situations where you know it is going to be hard for you. Your family would understand if you said you were throwing up all night or had a migraine or whatever, the thing is, it is you that wants to be there with AL. Do yourself a huge favour and avoid situations like this while you are doing the hard stuff and staying AF. That's what I'm doing anyway. There's no AL in the house and I live an hour from the nearest outlet. There is something to be said for living in the middle of no-where sometimes.
All the best to you for today. xx

[Farm Girl]

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New One, this might be too late but let's face it,,,we can always find an excuse to drink. Social events, upset over something, issues/problems. The list never ends. I have been going thru this too and all I can say is that taking yourself out of a situation that you don't feel like you can say NO to AL is the right thing to do. Hard livin and Hard lovin is not as romantic as it sounds. I think we know the downsides to that lifestyle! Stay strong and if you slipped, get right back up again.

[bungle]

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Justforme;858503 wrote: New One - I've probably seen your post after you've made your decision. Hopefully for you, it was the right one. I'm 16 days AF now. Can't believe it, but not feeling as euphoric as I thought I would at this achievement or looking at myself in the mirror and shouting back at myself 'you go girl!!' - no, I find I'm just quite quiet and feeling like can this really possibly last. (So there's the old one day at a time thing going on without me realising it). The BEST THING YOU CAN DO is avoid situations where you know it is going to be hard for you. Your family would understand if you said you were throwing up all night or had a migraine or whatever, the thing is, it is you that wants to be there with AL. Do yourself a huge favour and avoid situations like this while you are doing the hard stuff and staying AF. That's what I'm doing anyway. There's no AL in the house and I live an hour from the nearest outlet. There is something to be said for living in the middle of no-where sometimes.
All the best to you for today. xx

thank you so much.

[redredwine]

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let us know what you did

[girly wirly]

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new one, pour that beer away, call in sick to the party and come here and talk to us. you shouldn't be putting obsacles like this in your way at the moment. come on. you've recognised that you have a problem, and you came here for help. stick it out, just for today. see how good you will feel tomorrow xx:l

it's your decision. take care of yourself. most importantly of all, whatever you decide, come back here. xxx it's a long arduous journey. i am only on day 12. uk blonde said to me a few weeks ago "there will always be an occasion/ an excuse to drink"

fact is there is never seems to be a right time to quit because something always gets in our way. a holiday, a birthday , a party. it's called life and if we are determined to get al out of our lives then we need to learn how to deal with these situations. stop all this nonsense of 'just one last celebration and i'm on the waggon' with this kind of thinking, tomorrow never comes! good luck hun xx

[Justforme]

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How are you getting on New One. I've been thinking of you and hoping you are ok.