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[one2many]

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sk8punk;898855 wrote: Hey what is all this talk of growing up in my thread? You know there is a difference between being responsible and growing up. I don't want to grow. I don't want to be like the other people I see out there. You know the ones driving aound in a car they can't afford because they tthink it makes them better then other people. I'm never going to be a part of that world. I see so many people who look miserable because they aren't happy with their lot in life. They've lost their inner child. They are the grown ups. Not for me.
I admire people who are truly themselves. I used to look at pictures of those people and wish I was like that. But you know what I've realized? I am like that. I am me abd I like me. Doesn't matter what others think I like who I am. Independence is in our minds. We can follow the crowd or we can stand up and say this is not for me I'm gonna do this. Like the old saying free your mind and your ass will follow.
Think for yourselves friends. Society would have us believe drinking is ok and the only way to really have fun. Well that's not true for us now is it. Be your own person and make your own decisions. We are misfits be proud of that. Embrace being the black sheep and being out of step with the herd.
Ok that's my rant for the day.

Thank you SK8 :l

I don't want to grow up either..I am still a 17 year old punk in my head and probably always will be...

Off to blast the music!

[sk8punk]

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Not callinng you that at all Girly. I just don't take compliments too well. But I do like to hear them. Guess I'm coming around on that too.
I guess that was a punk rant huh Oney. Well it still holds true. Be responsible but don't grow up. Life is to short to care what the neighbors think.

[KateH1]

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Hmmm, Funny how you lump ALL GROWNUPS together as miserable, running with the herd???And the tattood and pieced, living by the seat of their pants people a FREE and young and not running with the herd????
Actually, I know myself to be neither. I am definitely in touch with my inner child. I know how to play and what it is to TRULY be Free! But, in order to enjoy that freedom, there are things that I need to do. I need to adequately provide for myself in order to enjoy that freedom! I Plan...yep...pretty grownup I know! But, planning allows me to live debt free and still drive a nice car, have a nice home and take trips! These are things that I enjoy, I could care less about fitting in or impressing anyone!

Raising children, I had was able to play with them, laugh with them and truly enjoy them. But, I also realized the huge responsibility I had to provide a good education and to instill self reliance and skills that would carry them through life. A life that gave them the means to live life fully! I am happy that as adults, they all live very happy and full lives!

Quite honestly, I see a lot of those in their 30's and 40's and beyond, who never planned for anything other than today, who bucked the system, and labeled that as free. I don't see the joy and the freedom that you speak of. Seems more like trying too hard to fit in, but with the escape of calling themselves "misfits".

"For every time there is a season", I believe this. I am happy to be an adult, I have no desire to remain a child. But, I can still embrace all the joy and lust for life that a 7 year old feels!

Just a different point of view!!
Have a Great Day!
Kate

[one2many]

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Hmmm, Funny how you lump ALL GROWNUPS together as miserable, running with the herd???And the tattood and pieced, living by the seat of their pants people a FREE and young and not running with the herd????


Who the hell said that????

[sk8punk]

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It was just from my point of view Kate. Didn't mean to step on anyones toes. What I was trying to get across is be yourself no matter who you are. Don't let others tell you what to do.
Everything you mentioned is what I meant by being responsible. It obvious none of us here a bucking the system so hard that we are squatters. We all have access to computers and internet. We all had money to buy booze and other necessities. It just is a difference in opinion on what being grown up is.
Some like wearing suits and ties and are very happy with their lives. That's not for me. I'm not willing to do that for the all mighty dollar. Like I said to each their own. We all have to choose our own path and be happy with it. What it comes down to life is to short to be anything other than yourself.

I feel really good today. Whatever happened last night flipped a switch in my brain that hasn't been flipped in sometime. I'm very happy with myself and know who I am. And I did that without relying on someone else. This journey just got a lot better for me.

[one2many]

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I am responsible.
I rear my kids well
I have provisions made for their education and I teach them values.
I live in a nice house
I provide for myself
I have tattoos
I have piercings
I am happy as an adult
But I embrace the feelings of the child.
I live a happy and full life.
I don't fit in the the streo typical 38 year old Irish Mother.
I never bucked the system.
I don't try hard to fit it.....I do what I want to do.
I do not want to be a child but I will heal the child that was wounded and if that means being childish, silly...or not being "grown up" so be it.

So basically, I can be who I want to be, label myself whoever I choose...what I won't accept is others trying to tell me what I am is wrong..

?We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.? Paul Coelho

[KateH1]

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Sk8, I completely understand that each of us writes from our own point of view. Perhaps I misinterpreted what you meant. But, I have read several posts on this topic, and just wanted to chime in. Sorry if I offended you. That was certainly not my intention!
Kate

[sk8punk]

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Not offended at all. Just thought I was misunderstood, which happens often. Oney hit it right on the head with her post. We should all be ourselves and not judge others. Their are many paths in life only one is truly right for you. It doesn't make the others wrong. Imagine how boring this world would be if we were all the same and on the same path. Each and every person contributes something to this world in their own way. That's what makes this world so great.

My views come from being a drunk angry young man who never felt his voice was heard. Now I'm sober and see the errors in my ways. I'm embracing who I am. What others consider flaws and all. And I'm trying to do the same with others. I'm more willing to get to know someone before just writing them off as I had in the past. This is just part of my growth. Yes it is very grown up. But I am not grown up. To me grown up means you stop learning because there is no where else to up. Now by that definition none of us are grown up. Cause none of us want to stop learning. You only stop learning when you die. And that could just be the start of a new journey.

[techie]

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hey 8 just checking in to see how things are. OMG. your thread went viral since I last posted. What's up?

[sk8punk]

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Hey Techie things are good here. LOL just a few days of gutter talk and fun. Today kinda took a turn to more serious but its all good.

[sk8punk]

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One last thing on this then we can move on to fun. One of my first realiztions when I got sober is alcoholism is very selfish. All we worried about was us and how we felt and where is my next drink coming from. We didn't see how we were hurting those around us. Until like my case it was to late. I now see life like this. I am me I like me in fact I love myself. But the world is not just me. Everything I do has a ripple effect on those around me. How I am effects them which in turn effects someone else. So what I am doing is trying to positive for myself and in turn positive to the world. None of this has anything to do with how I look and what I like. I know its impossible to please everyone. But truth is I'm really just trying to please me. Hope that makes sense.

That maybe why it seems at times i m so desperate to fix things with my GF. Because I now see the negative impact I had. I want a chance to fix that. Even if that means we're not together I want her to see I made positive changes and I'm doing my best to be a better person. So that she feels better and in turn is a even better mother to the boys.

[K9Lover]

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Hi SK8P~
Seems I missed quite a bit being out sick yesterday (I never log in from home). But it's good to see you're still feeling good and doing a great job...you're right behind me, so let's keep at this!
And keep rockin' those cool shades. LOL
K9

[Ringing Cedars]

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Hey Sk8! Checking in like Techie. I love his description of the last few days. lol Anyhoo...congrats on your days and your revelations. Doggy Girl is bang on to what I would offer you for support and advice --but much more eloquent!

OI...read you started to Antibuse....congratulations to you too! That was a huge brave step. I'm proud of you!

Hey to Girly, K9, Oney, DG and katie!

[Ringing Cedars]

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Wanna hope you are having a good day too!

[mama bear]

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Hey gang...back at work and things got awfully serious here...
sk8...what you said really hit me....alcohol abuse/drugs/whatever....is SELFISH
wow...I never looked at that way...thanks!!!