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    #1111
    Falling Apart

    Thanks. I have thought about it a lot. There is really only so far hope can get you before reality sets in. It felt like the right thing to do. Well I gotta go to my session now. So if I don't see you later have a good night and see you tomorrow.
    Sober since 4/8/10 -OVER 150 DAYS AND GOING AF!!!!

    Get busy livin or get busy dyin-Duane Peters
    No more bad future-Skull Skates

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      #1112
      Falling Apart

      wow Sk8, you made your choice, you can live your life now, maybe this will make her come round - if not then you will know for sure, I too am getting tired of my thing, I asked my wife if I could take my son to a free day out thing for kids on saturday and her response was:

      I am afraid access for X is at present supervised access. However X and X would be available to accomodate access at their place this Saturday between 10.30am and 12.30.

      Thats her solicitor talking and I am getting really tired of it... lord give me patience.

      You made your move SK8, so he doesn't get the girl in the end, hope all goes well for you.

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        #1113
        Falling Apart

        Hi Sk8~
        Good job on making a decision, although I know it was difficult and painful. Sometimes no matter how hard we try, or what changes we make, things just don't turn out the way we hoped they would. I hope your counselling session goes well. You sound good, despite everything. I truly believe everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure eventually everything will come together better than you ever expected.
        Keep on rockin' those AF days...84 so far...woohoo!
        K9
        :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

        Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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          #1114
          Falling Apart

          Nighters guys, off to my leaba with my book now...really just want to close my eyes and sleep.

          See you on the morro xx
          "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

          AF 10th May 2010
          NF 12th May 2010

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            #1115
            Falling Apart

            Thank you Wanna and K9. It was a painful decsion to make but it was had to be done. I'm still going to be a great dad to my son. There really is only so much one person can to to try to prove to another how much they care and how serious about changing their life. Some of you are going to think it was to soon to make this choice.
            I let it be known to her that when she is ready to communicate with me about my son I'll be here.
            Had a very good session today. Time to move even further forward with my growth. No I am not looking for anyone right now. I need this time to get my life in order and learn to enjoy living again without depending on anyone else.

            Wanna and Techie, I know we are in very similar situations. Though you are both married, I hope things workout the way you want them to. Perhaps your bond is stronger than what I had. Follow what your heart tells you what the right thing is.
            Sober since 4/8/10 -OVER 150 DAYS AND GOING AF!!!!

            Get busy livin or get busy dyin-Duane Peters
            No more bad future-Skull Skates

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              #1116
              Falling Apart

              I am proud of you sk8!!!
              I love my family more than alcohol.:h
              Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                #1117
                Falling Apart

                sk8....i have been thinking...
                I understand you are hurt by her lack of response....but I don;t think you should cut off all financial support because you are hurting your son......
                To be a good daddy means to make the focus be on the child....
                just something to think about....
                I just don't want a bad situation to get worse.....
                I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                  #1118
                  Falling Apart

                  Not cutting off financial support. I'm still giving her money for my son. Just not paying cable and phone bills to a house I don't live in.
                  Sober since 4/8/10 -OVER 150 DAYS AND GOING AF!!!!

                  Get busy livin or get busy dyin-Duane Peters
                  No more bad future-Skull Skates

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                    #1119
                    Falling Apart

                    Just catching up. I think thats a great idea to wake her up a bit. Show her that your serious, and if she wants anything to do with you, then its going to be her turn to bring something to the table. Let her know you will not be treated like a piece of dog shit. You will always be the best Dad to Aarron forever, BUT you refuse to be used as a door matt for her. Just my opinions, LOL.

                    You have been so much stronger than I have been. I would have been confrontational a long time ago, so I commend you on that. I cant live being ignored. I usually want my answers and then I deal with the consequences. You have waited long enough, I think.
                    I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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                      #1120
                      Falling Apart

                      Hey Over how was work? Yeah it was time. Waiting to see if there is any fallout from this. Seems everything I've done so far has been unexpected. Sure this will be too.
                      Well things can only get better from here. Feel really good considering. It helped my counsuler supported my descion. Still popping the antabuse?
                      Sober since 4/8/10 -OVER 150 DAYS AND GOING AF!!!!

                      Get busy livin or get busy dyin-Duane Peters
                      No more bad future-Skull Skates

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                        #1121
                        Falling Apart

                        Well Sk8, as far as relationships go, you just never know. Sometimes just from one day to another day puts you in a totally different frame of mind. So I have not thrown in the towel on your relationship just "yet", but she does need to be shaken out of the frame of mind that you are her little doggie and you just have to deal with her as the master.

                        So definately, Its time to make things real clear to her. Let her know you will always be there for Aarron, but if she thinks shes just going to shit on you forever, then screw you!

                        Who knows, maybe this wake up call could be what shes been waiting on for YOU TO DO, and she comes running back like a little puppy dog to you. Women can be funny creatures, so really anything is still possible. Just be sure to hold your ground and be firm.

                        Love to catch up tommorrow, but stand up for yourself, definately the time has come.

                        My son screaming at me, LOL, so have to go for tonite.
                        I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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                          #1122
                          Falling Apart

                          Good night. I'm gonna turn in early too. I'll comment about your post tomorrow. But you could be right.
                          Sober since 4/8/10 -OVER 150 DAYS AND GOING AF!!!!

                          Get busy livin or get busy dyin-Duane Peters
                          No more bad future-Skull Skates

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                            #1123
                            Falling Apart

                            sk8 i'm sooo proud of you! you could have stayed in limbo for weeks/months yet... at least this way, you nip it in the bud and get on with your life, with or without her.

                            i think this could be the wake up call she needs to finally listen to you. you are a human being, not a lapdog. ok so you have done things wrong, but you've paid dearly and have turned your life around. don't forget, she saw enough of a good man in you to create a life with you, maybe she needs a gentle reminder of that. she cannot justify you paying her bills when you aren't together as long as you are still giving her support for your son, but you need money to build your own life so that when your son does come you can give him a good fun environment. the way you have improved your life means you DESERVE something for yourself....

                            well done on taking such a huge step and no matter how she retaliates, grab your sobriety with both hands and emrace it xx:l
                            The mind will intellectualize it, the heart will emotionalize it, yet the gut never lies.

                            https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9/girly-wirly-s-toolbox-2-45452.html

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                              #1124
                              Falling Apart

                              Good mornin...

                              It a poxy mood today so am gonna open all the windows and blast the music and piss off the neighbours..I hate feeling sad ... So gonna dance in the garden with the kids like a lunatic and shake off the bad feelings...

                              Then off shopping for junk food for the kids who are having a street party today with me in charge.....hmmm I can get up to some mischief at that I reckon....just lets say, they won't be dancing to Lady Gaga..

                              Have a good day guys...Hope to be in better form when I come back... xxx
                              "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                              AF 10th May 2010
                              NF 12th May 2010

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                                #1125
                                Falling Apart

                                14 kids in my garden dancing and pogo-ing to this lol...

                                http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIqESwzCGg4[/video]]YouTube - Dead Kennedys - California Uber Alles


                                "This is cool music Adam's Mum......can you download it for us"

                                BONUS!
                                "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                                AF 10th May 2010
                                NF 12th May 2010

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