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[one2many]

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Lol....maybe so...but he smokes aswell. not a good combo.


Nighters...and I want a pic of the laces tomorrow..ok?

[sk8punk]

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Really??? You want to see a pic of white laces in my Vans??? Checkin out that MUSE song. I've heard that somewhere before. I like it.

[one2many]

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REALLY....I want to see your laces in your vans..whatever vans are....be the most exciting thing I will see all weekend lol...

Will post you one of my fave Muse tracks before i go..

[one2many]

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ok...2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbB-mICjkQM[/video]]YouTube - Muse - Plug In Baby

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMqsWc8muj8&feature=related[/video]]YouTube - Muse - Bliss

[Ringing Cedars]

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Hey there SK8, Oney, and Techie! Can I get in on the skype call too?? I'm just checking it out now. I've heard alot about it, but know nothing. SK8r I think Techie has played that Muse song in the music threads here. If you ever check it out....

Listening to yours now Oney.

[sk8punk]

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Good morning everyone! RC skype call was just a idea hasn't happened yet. Spent last night watching a movie and doing some thinking. I still have a bunch of feelings towards my GF that I need to sort out and deal with. Not going into that right now though. I'm on my way to get Aaron. That should cheer me up out of this funk I'm in. I'll try to check in later.

Oh Oney got that exciting picture of my new laces for you. I'll put that up soon too.

[sk8punk]

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Alright I'm going to admit I'm still a mess. Yes I'm not happy with how my GF is treating me. But I am still in love with her. Don't know how to stop these feelings. In the past it was easy. Usually the girl would leave me. I would have anger on my side to get over it. And yes I had alcohol too. This time I have no anger towards her and I'm not drinking. Ugh I thought things were getting better but I was just telling myself that. The heart wants what the heart wants. Maybe I'm still grieving the loss.

[OverIt2007]

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Hey Sk8,

What are the chances you can talk with her? To bring some peace into your head hopefully one way or the other? She cant avoid you forever. Perhaps time to push a bit and demand (gently) a meeting with her about the future of both of you.

My two cents!

[girly wirly]

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OverIt2007;901474 wrote: Hey Sk8,

What are the chances you can talk with her? To bring some peace into your head hopefully one way or the other? She cant avoid you forever. Perhaps time to push a bit and demand (gently) a meeting with her about the future of both of you.

My two cents!

couldn't have said it better. tell her you've waited and been punished long enough. ask her if there is any chance of a future for you two. be gentle like ovey says xx

[wannachange]

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Hi Guys.
Overit I am so glad someone said this to SK8, I have been dying to tell him for ages but never could find the words that you so well put down.

Had my son 2 hours this morning, my supervisors are giving me a lot more space and my son is really breaking out of his shell, his speech impediment (runs in the family) is gone now when he talks to me, the first 2 meetings he could barely talk to me - that's good cause I have a speech impediment myself and know when I am comfortable with someone it disappears.
I started singing some lullaby's that we used to sing and he remembered them eventually - I don't know why but I cried while singing them, oh well all in good time, it seems to be getting easier.

Have a wonderful wonderful day!

[sk8punk]

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Hey everyone. I have asked in the past and will do so again. Anything that has to do with her feelings usually goes ignored. She has said not right now but maybe in the future.
Well off to the toy store. Later everyone.

[OverIt2007]

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Just show up on the doorstep. Dont even ask. You know whats best, these are just suggestions of course.

Im glad you have your boy today! Enjoy him.

Hey Wanna, nice to hear from you as well and glad you got to see your boy too!

[patrice]

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Hi Sk8... I'm inclined to agree with Over. I haven't read many of your posts lately (sorry man!) but I gather the situation hasn't changed with your GF - how long now ? 3 months or more... I really think this free floating is going to go on unless you meet with her in a neutral place and discuss what both you and her want... then you can both move on... or tentatively begin slowing coming back together... You are just hanging like a thread right now and its great you are AF, healthier, higher self esteem but i think this total uncertainty is excruciating for you. I'm not suggesting anything as crass as an ultimatum or anything but at least a bit of direction about what she wants..

When my husband left me.. I was the same ( except I hadnt given up drinking or working on myself.. but he didnt know that, he thought i was!) After 4 months of that same uncertainty we talked and he said he didnt know what he wanted and I said thats fine but I now I want to think of myself and not hope and hypothesize about what if? maybe? when?. for me it was a release and although sad I felt so mentally a lot less cluttered..I was able to grief for a relationship that was now gone and that is when I began to start thinking about not drinking. Its not about being free to meet someone else, its about feeling freedom to not have those thoughts of hope intrude on your daily life.

I hope you and your GF work things out but I think soon talk so you have an idea of which way your feelings will go. If you split up... you will be able to start grieving properly, if you can get back together then you can start getting excited and happy at the prospect of that.

You seem to have much more time to think than she does , but she still must be thinking and she probably has some idea as to how she wants things to go forward... she just needs to let you know
Hope its all good Sk8
Patrice

[Ringing Cedars]

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Top o' the morning Sk8r and all! I've been biting my tongue and sitting on my hands for a bit on this topic and you probably already know what I am going to say Sk8. 3 months sober is fantastic SK8 and I do not minimize this at all. You are doing fantastic in such a short amount of time!!

I suspect that the issues that need reconciling with your GF encompass more than 3 months worth of time, pain and confusion. Please tell me to shut the fuck up if I'm way off base. Could it be that you and others that are supporting your desire to push your GF are projecting their desire to be forgiven quickly for their al related mistakes too? That is the sense that I get. Does your counsellor have a lot of experience with the dysfunction of al to support this push??

You love her SK8?that is obvious. I think by pushing her to move forward you will come off as confrontational and too eager for her to just forget the past without time to really believe you have changed permanently and not just as a tactic to get your life back with her.

Perhaps you could read some Alanon literature to get an understanding of what she is going through and then in a few more months encourage her to learn more about your disease through that venue too. Then some couple?s counseling if once you?ve both digested it all??

I just think in the grander scheme of things?ie a whole and happy family?giving it the time, education and understanding of a few more months is a but a drop in the bucket.

Peace to you all.:l

[sk8punk]

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RC Shut the.....joking. I think you may be the voice of reason here. I have been too focused on what is best for me and not on the whole grande scheme. The only way she is going to see I've changed is through behavior with my son. It is going to take more than 3 months. Thanks for giving me somethin to think about.
And you should feel free to speak freely here. I will not be offened or angered by your suggestions.