Falling Apart

[OverIt2007]

Falling Apart

You know what it is... I guess I have never been in this type of situation. Ok... This is all new territory for me. I could never go this long in limbo, I would want some type of answers. But thats just me, so you guys do know whats best for your situations.

[Ringing Cedars]

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OI I completely understand not wanting to see Sk8 hurt, but with all my heart and soul I think either way he needs to give this space between them to both learn and grow. Call it my intuition. In the end he will at least have proved he is the fantastic Daddy that we know him to be.

Wanna good on you for being patient at this hallmark in time. But I know you know it is not just the distance but sustainable sobriety that is necessary now.:l

[wannachange]

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Well Overit my situation is slightly more complicated, I am married, have a restriction order so communication is not possible without a solicitor in the room or CC'd to, but the little bits I get from her from time to time keeps me ticking, if I were SK8 I would go to her house and knock at the door and speak to her, I can't even do that or I will spend 6 months in jail... still I remain hopeful

[OverIt2007]

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I got ya, I really do. Im going to stay out of it, LOL.

Perhaps I have gotton a little confused to the situation with Sk8 too. I know we only know one side of the story as well. Too bad we couldnt get her on here to talk to her too. Joke!! But would clear up some mystery. Thats what it is! TOO MUCH MYSTERY!

Got ya Wanna. Like I said, I am not in your situation, so I do not know all the Ins and Outs of it all. Im sure its a difficult situation for everyone involved.

[Ringing Cedars]

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Ok...I'm going to step back again...I've said my piece and don't want to sound too redundant all in one day. I would love to see us all congregate in the pool...cook up some steaks...play some tunes....whatever.....I'll go on over and see if I can start the party....hope to see you there!

[OverIt2007]

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Im In! I like my Steaks Medium Rare!!!

[wannachange]

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My one and only goal is to get sober, get over this depression, get better, get better access to my son, not do any damage to my wife, open up communication barriers and hopefully reconcile in the future, I am not anxious at present about the reconciliation because if we reconcile now we would last 6 weeks at most, I need more time and she knows it, it was agreed at the last meeting that I would need a lot of space before we decide anything so I am not overly anxious at present.

My dear Overit, I love your attitude, I really do and we all have different opinions and after all this is SK8's thread and we are here to advise and share situations with sk8, nobody is telling him what to do, thats ultimately his choice, both SK8 and I wish our spouses had your attitude but unfortunately they don't at the moment because they are not in your place, they have just come out of a relationship with kids and what not, lives torn apart, bad thoughts about their men - 3 months, 6 months would not be enough to forget the pain and hurt, that varies from person to person, give it more time is what I say, time is all we have at the moment, I am not gonna go scurrying off with another woman for atleast two years if even, so I have plenty of time to hang around and see what happens, thing is I done everything I possibly could and for that I feel better.

[OverIt2007]

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My last thought, then I shut up

In a perfect world I suppose, loved ones would easier forgive those that they love, and perhaps put some faith that things really can change, when someone is willing to go the distance for those they love. And you guys are going the distance. I hope those you love see that soon, and put their faith back in you.

Love,

Overit

[Ringing Cedars]

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BRAVO Wanna! Umm did I over due it in the pool??

[Ringing Cedars]

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ok..one more here too....it isn't about love I think...you guys know how long it has taken you to fight the beast to date....think about it....

[wannachange]

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OverIt2007;901681 wrote: My last thought, then I shut up

Don't Ever shut up

I hope those you love see that soon, and put their faith back in you.

That would be nice.

:l

[OverIt2007]

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The voice of reason yet again, LOL... Great post as always Sheri!

[sk8punk]

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Ok just catching up on all that happened here today. Had a wonderful 12 hour day with my son. It is nice to see so many concerned with my situation. I thought about this while my son napped this afternoon. I'm going with RC on this one. I'm going to keep paying the bills, continue to let her know about me in writing. And give her the time and space she needs. She knows how I feel about her and the kids. Doesn't do much good to keep telling her that. While I do wish communication would open a little more about my son I am happy with what I have. I myself will admit I need more time to work on myself. I'm not ready for a relationship at this time. True my drinking is completly under control. Through all this even on my worst day I did not think about drinking. I know alcoholism is something you're ever cured of. Its a life long struggle. My main goal now is to get through my depression and get over my negative thinking. The latter is where I struggle most since I've thought this way for nearly half my life. It is still the reason I jump to conclusions when my text or emails go unanswered or how I react badly to something she says. At least I can realize this now. That's got to be a step.
Things could be worse. She could tell me its over or I can't see my son. But she hasn't she hasn't said anything. So maybe no news is good news. Thanks everyone for your support. And please every once in a while when you sense me slipping into negative thinking remind me of this descision.

Oh Oney the laces pic will be up tomorrow.

[sk8punk]

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Wanted to share something that happened today that makes everything worth while. Me and my son were playing. I was sitting on the floor and he ran over to me. He hugged me as tightly as his little arms could squeeze and. He did it for about a minute. Tears began to well up in my eyes. Not tears of sadness but tears of joy. Whatever happens in the long run. He is truly the reason I am doing all this. I am becoming a better person for myself and him. All this mental hell I've been through was washed away in that minute.

[Ringing Cedars]

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What a Blessed minute SK8... I remember those....I wish I still had them...adult buggers that they are right now....I can't...but you can! You're gf is not putting the KiBosh (sp-whatver) on those moments...she does facilitate them...