Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

[Anotherday]

All I see is bad news around me. I am finding myself with zero patience for most people these days. I try to keep it together, but still...

I know I have to get back on track. But I get these up and down reports every single day with respect to my Dad's condition. I am trying to hang in there. Everyone goes through death, right? Then the job market. Forget it. I am 50 and unemployed. Don't even have the will to look right now, honestly. Then my Dr... Asked him for TWO Klonopin to get me through a plane ride and funeral and all he said was...call me when your Dad dies and I'll see if I can help you. Ok. So, I am doing the best I can do. I am venting here, I guess, as MWO is a compassionate place. There are more problems, but I won't get into them.

At any rate, trying somehow to reconnect with this community. My days are nothing more than talking to Mom, about talking about Dad's falls, hospice workers, and just crap. Nothing good. I know I am better off than most now, believe me. It's still hell and the wine doesn't make it any better. To this end, trying to get off the wine. Trying to find alternatives. That is questionable, at best.

[Funny Girl]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Hi Anotherday! I'll answer - I was out here lurking . . . . sorry things are still so grim for you. Too bad the doc isn't more sympathetic . . . .

It's very hard when a close family member is that sick and your world becomes very small . . . .I have no good advice for you on that. If people here can help, it would be a great way to at the very least have contact with some other people. You know that I'm always in your corner.

[Anotherday]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Funny Girl;877603 wrote: Hi Anotherday! I'll answer - I was out here lurking . . . . sorry things are still so grim for you. Too bad the doc isn't more sympathetic . . . .

It's very hard when a close family member is that sick and your world becomes very small . . . .I have no good advice for you on that. If people here can help, it would be a great way to at the very least have contact with some other people. You know that I'm always in your corner.

Thanks, FG. I know you are always in my corner.

It was so hard today. Mom talked to hospice about my Dad being unattended for so long. Now they are saying he can go into a nursing home. Not. I won't have him going from lockdown into a nursing home, and neither will she. He just keeps falling.

So, I've scheduled a flight, if he doesn't die before then. All bets are off. I spoke with the hospice nurse and who knows. What I DO KNOW is that airfares have gone up and I am unemployed. Oh well, one has to do what one has to do.

Taking it a day at a time, and trying to deal with addiction meanwhile. Not easy.

[Funny Girl]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

well, I'll be thinking about you. Just do the best you can - it's all you can do.

[Anotherday]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Funny Girl;877610 wrote: well, I'll be thinking about you. Just do the best you can - it's all you can do.

Yup, and that is EXACTLY what I am going to do. MY best. To this end, it means being safe with AL so that I can get on the plane. I am a firm believer in harm reduction. After all, isn't that what all of us are trying to do? So I scour the Net and join groups in order to minimize damage. Both legally (I don't drink and drive) and otherwise.

In times of crises, it can get tricky. But I am committed to being socially responsible and not letting "my issues" get out of control.

[OverIt2007]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Hi Anotherday!

Its nice to see you posting again. Im sorry you are having some life issues, the losing of a parent is very hard I am sure. I hope you find the strength to manage these difficult times and upcoming times.

[Funny Girl]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

When are you leaving on the plane?

[Anotherday]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

OverIt2007;877616 wrote: Hi Anotherday!

Its nice to see you posting again. Im sorry you are having some life issues, the losing of a parent is very hard I am sure. I hope you find the strength to manage these difficult times and upcoming times.

Thank you. I am hoping for the best.

AD

[Anotherday]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Funny Girl;877617 wrote: When are you leaving on the plane?

A couple of weeks. I am going to fly up there for only a few days. Enough time to buy my Mom new shoes and go out to lunch. That's it. I still want to see my Dad one more time while alive. The hospice nurse reports he held her hand so tight she had to ask for assistance to loosen his grip! OMG! Can you imagine?! I have to be there for my Dad!!!

[Funny Girl]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Sounds like a plan - you'll be very glad you visited.

[Anotherday]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Funny Girl;877623 wrote: Sounds like a plan - you'll be very glad you visited.

Thanks, FG. I know I have to do this and I will. I am just a small person sitting here pretending to be big, honestly. I hope the AL does not overwhelm me. I worry about so many things.

[mollyka]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Anotherday, I really feel for you. My Mum died 2 years ago (8th June) and that whole time was an absolute nightmare, that is when my drinking spiralled out of control. Major family problems, haven't spoken to my sisters since - they were very unkind to my Mum. I can't say anything to you cos even looking back I don't know how I would have coped any differently. I'll talk the talk to you and tell you that booze won't help, just let you know I DO know what you are feeling and PM me anytime you want a chat.
Molly

[spuddleduck]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

anotherday, i really feel for your. my dad is ill, on the never never, he's doing ok at the moment, at home and getting by as well as he can. my sister lives in greece and has flown back urgently a couple of times to 'say her goodbyes'. as it happens he got through but she is always aware he could go anytime. she is happy that she has seen him so if anything happens and she isnt there she knows she has done her best. its awful that you live away but you can only do what you can do. if you can visit and give your mum a bit of strength that would be good. take care of yourself, he would want that for you. you are in my thoughts x

[mama bear]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

I am thinking of you AD. Can you manage to visit any longer????

[Guitarista]

Thing seems stupid to me, and I'll tell you why

Anotherday;877613 wrote: Yup, and that is EXACTLY what I am going to do. MY best. To this end, it means being safe with AL so that I can get on the plane. I am a firm believer in harm reduction. After all, isn't that what all of us are trying to do? So I scour the Net and join groups in order to minimize damage. Both legally (I don't drink and drive) and otherwise.

In times of crises, it can get tricky. But I am committed to being socially responsible and not letting "my issues" get out of control.

Hi Another day,

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, and your frustration. I totally understand you going the harm reduction way with your drinking. I'm hoping you don't drink, but seeing you are, take it easy, try not to hold the glass in your hand, and drink plenty of water. Throw a cup of tea, or fruit juice into the mix between drink's. Eat small portions of nutritious food throughout if you can. Start your drinking later in the day/night if you can.
It's good to hear you say you need to be safe with al.

Keep your head above water as best you can, and keep checking in here.

Best wishes, G.