a week since slipping

[Guest]

a week since slipping

Biccies are short for biscuits. Simple.

Been out for a lovely meal, restaurant in the countryside. Waitress did not bat an eyelid when I requested a non-al fruit juice cocktail. I'm getting into the habit of doing this and so far every eating place or bar has been able to mix something yummy for me.

Thought I'd pass this on as a bit of a usefull tip. Oh and did this in full earshot of other diners who did not even twitch so much as a funny look my way.

See!It's easy.

[techie]

a week since slipping

You know what UK here in the states ordering non-al is the cool thing to do now. At least here on the east coast. Probably been so for awhile, but I was too drunk to notice. Happy you had a pleasant meal!

[Mrs Donovan]

a week since slipping

Great thread. Words heeded.

I'm quite into Mocktails, especially a seabreeze - or just a straight slimline tonic which tastes quite decadent with ice and a slice.

These will keep me sane when I go out for dinner with all the mums from my daughters new school next week. Mums who I don't know and who I'm supposed to get to know while they're all bonding with each other over bottles of wine.

Was dreading it and thinking up excuses, but am feeling a bit more positive about it now - I'll probably drive there so I've got an instant excuse

[mollyka]

a week since slipping

Don't know about you lot but I am positively miserable about ordering drinks without AL that have calories, I won't waste a single one or for that matter that cost money I sort of order tap water when I can, yet when I was drinking, money or calories never came into it. 2P worth?
Molly

[patrice]

a week since slipping

Great advice about not having that first one!! But what are some strategies for Not having that first glass of cold wine on a hot day? I'm on my first day AF but find myself already thinking about how I can stop having that first one?.. I usually get home and have a cig and a wine .. they seem to go so well together and then the packet and bottle is gone, lightening quick its almost as if I can't wait to finish the bottle and the packet, knowing I will feel dreadful the next day

[techie]

a week since slipping

Patrice it is very challenging at first. The key for me was to change my routine. When you get home you need to fill that void to be successful. Try walking, or reading, anything that breaks the pattern you've developed for so long. Again, this worked for me, but others may have much more creative solutions. I wish you well Patrice. You can do this.

[sk8punk]

a week since slipping

What Techie said. Just find something you like to do to replace the habit of the first drink. Good luck to you. Its not as hard as it may seem right now.

[Cinders]

a week since slipping

One just won't "do it" whatever "it" is.

Like DG, I have always wanted more than 1 or 2. It has gotten bad for me over the last few years. In my case, 1 or 2 is just a spit in a bucket.

I have truly learned that 1 or 2 just pisses me off. Then I need much, much more. Always until I am drunk into oblivion.

No drinking with friends. If you can't avoid drinking when friends are around, don't have friends around.

Whatever it takes!!

Love,
Cindi

[spuddleduck]

a week since slipping

cinders, that is so true. 1 or 2 pisses me off. i just want more. its much better having none then you dont have the battle for more. and i agree, if having friends round makes you drink, dont have friends round until you can cope with it. just do whatever to keep sobriety as number 1 goal

[Mizumum]

a week since slipping

1 or 2 just pisses me off. So true here, too. There is no 1 or 2 for us. Only none or too many.

There is so much truh here in these posts on this thread. I started reading it since I am STRUGGLING - yes, struggling to start. I have been on these boards for a couple of weeks now and made a couple of posting. And as a tru blue alkie I have all excuses to postpone my start. Tomorrow. When my vits and supps arrive.

In act, when my vits and supps arrive I have no excuse. There is no perfect timing. That we know.

And my supps have not arrived, yet and I am on the road again. I said to myself this morning that when I get to the hotel room, I'll order a nice meal, no AL and then have a bath and early night. Hahaa. Did that happen. No, because.... a) I am on the autopilot or b) I have not properly looked after myself during the day and was craving alcohol.

What is craving? In my case is just the fact that it is 5pm, I need to go home via a bottleshop, buy a bottle (or) and drink them. I feel so weak to break that. And it does not feel like a 'real' craving but I guess it is. It is my body/mind saying it is wine o'clock.

How do I beat that wine o'clock?

All help most welcome.

mm
:upset:

[patrice]

a week since slipping

Mizumum I have exactly the same problem.. it gets to a certain time (earlier and earlier it seems!) and Im like a robot opening that bottle..
As everyone has said changing the routine seems like a good one

[Mizumum]

a week since slipping

Patrice,

It is so much easier said than done. Yes, it used to be after 6pm last year, now it it is 5pm.

mm

[spuddleduck]

a week since slipping

wine oclock.. a phrase i used a lot. i found i had to really concentrate and focus on what i was doing. change routine completly if you can. i went on a cleaning frenzy, (so not me) just keeping busy, doing anything that kept me away from AL. i found fast forwarding in my mind as to how i would feel after a couple of drinks, then how i would feel later, then how i would feel the next day. fast forwarding and seeing the outcome of that 1 or 2 drinks helped me a lot. every one uses different techniques, find what works for you and stick with it

[Mizumum]

a week since slipping

ta spuds, that sounds good trick.

mm

[hillsidetime]

a week since slipping

Hi Spud, thanks for the update. Your words, and honest post, can help all of us who think about going back. Last weekend, I had a strong thought to have just one - bad idea for sure. You are back, and ready to go, that is great. All the best,
Hill