Oh no Day 5 was nearly done but its gone

[techie]

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wannachange;890771 wrote: As Techie says Patrice, get back up. At least now you know where your mistakes were and you will learn from that.

How are you finding the freedom from the restriction?

now there an avatar that's a keeper. beautiful boy wanna!

[bugz]

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I'm on day 13 before I was on day 1 even I poured out (down the sink) half a case of beer and 2 bottles of rye... as I see it there's no point having it anywhere near you if you're going to be AF... it will just
taunt you and tease you and you know it's there and eventually you will give in... you're torturing
yourself if you keep it around.

[Doggygirl]

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Hi Patrice. Wow. My passport would be overflowing. It's very interesting to hear about some of the things that are different about drinking in other places. One thing is always the same - those of us that can't drink shouldn't drink! I was :H thinking of the wine delivery in the washing machine! I cannot / will not have any wine or vodka in my house - even after 2 years. Just won't take that risk.

You have mentioned how to count your days several times now, so I will weigh in on that. I assume you might still have some uncertainty to be mentioning the issue multiple times. So here is my opinion - and my opinion only.

I agree with the posters upstream who pointed out that counting days (if you choose to do that) is for YOU and not for anyone else. So you have to count them (if you are a counter) in a way that helps YOUR sobriety - nobody else's.

I am personally ruthless in how I view my own sober time. I am over 2 years continuously sober and if I drank today, tomorrow would be day 1 for for me. Why? Because I am addicted to alcohol and if I start playing mind games with myself that I can somehow drink a little, and still be considered "sober" (to myself moreso than to others) then I will drink. I can't afford to play such a mind game AT. ALL. To me, the honesty with myself and others is far more important than the elapsed time.

The important thing is that you realized you cannot have wine in the house and ignore it. THAT is really IMPORTANT to know. We have to know where our personal land mines are so we can avoid stepping on them. Onward and forward!

DG

[thomas]

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Great story and very honest, count it as a minor blip you are still strong enough to get to where your road will take you, good luck

T

[Guest]

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Good Morning Patrice. It's freezing here this morning.
Oddly enough I too had an event with a bottle last night, a large full bottle of warming liquid. My Hottie burst! In the middle of a freezing night!
It was too horrible to describe in detail...at first I thought I'd pissed the bed but when I woke up the truth was revealed.
These things happen. Like your wine bottle...don't sweat it, just get back on the bike.
Would you mind going out into the warm sunlight and sending me some heat vibes?

[mama bear]

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Patrice...I have slipped more than I care to admit, but I am still here and so are you
I LOVE reading about all the interesting places my cyber pals live!
I can walk to get alcohol from my house....just down the street......that's TOOO easy!

[Doggygirl]

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Patrice, I was not able to stop drinking by treating "slipping" like it was OK. "Slipping" is drinking. And because I have a severe drinking problem, drinking alcohol of any kind, in any amount will never be OK. Beating oneself up to a bloody pulp does not serve a useful purpose, but in my opnion, treating it lightly does not serve the purpose either. Getting back on the horse immediately when we fail is important too. I suppose since I was personally unable to get right back on when I fell, that's why I take it so seriously. I can't afford to drink.

Onward!

DG

[patrice]

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Good Morning to all you fab and supportive people!!
Well I'm back on that horse ( lets make that a water buffalo where I am). That bottle is finished and in the rubbish (no recycling here). I am feeling strong again - there are no more forgotten ordered bottles that will appear in the washing machine... have deleted the milkmans number from my phone...
Doggygirl I do here what you are saying and I woke up this morning wondering if I should call it day 6 or day 1.. well for me I am calling it day 6 with a slip because I fely so proud to have finally done 5 days for the first time in my life and to call it day 1 again would be very demotivating for me and I need all the motivation I can!!. I am counting and writing things down in a book.. hopefully one day I wont be needing to do that but for now, its very much helping... So Day 6 with a slip and counting.. and another reason is that I have learnt a valuable lesson ( I knew it already but ... when we know things sometimes we pretend we don't).. that lesson is if I am going to be a non drinker I can never have a single drop in the house... so by learning that lesson I am rewarding myself with day 6!!! Another reason is its Sunday here, my last day off before I have to start work tomorrow... would be SO easy to say oh ok I blew it yesterday so I'll start afresh tomorrow, Monday Day 1..... No Sunday Day 6!!!
Yes its intersting we all live in different time zones and places.. I teach English in a Muslim School and have always been paranoid they could smell alcohol on my breath.. yay tomorrow I won't have that fear.....
Blue yes please feel free to take some of this heat and humidity.. its 8.30 here 35 degrees and 98% humidity... mmmm big frizzy hair is the look!!
Thanks Over, Techie and everyone else... I don't have any support or resources here but what I get from this site I credit for my motivation and strength....

[momof3]

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Doggygirl;890932 wrote: Patrice, I was not able to stop drinking by treating "slipping" like it was OK. "Slipping" is drinking. And because I have a severe drinking problem, drinking alcohol of any kind, in any amount will never be OK. Beating oneself up to a bloody pulp does not serve a useful purpose, but in my opnion, treating it lightly does not serve the purpose either. Getting back on the horse immediately when we fail is important too. I suppose since I was personally unable to get right back on when I fell, that's why I take it so seriously. I can't afford to drink.

Onward!

DG

I agree about the "slipping." A little over 2 years ago, before I quit drinking for good, I had a one night binge after being AF for almost 2 months. I went right back on the wagon the next day but I counted that next day as Day 1. Not because I wanted to beat myself up, rather, I wanted to be ruthlessly honest with myself and the very serious problem I had with alcohol. If I saw it as anything other than a relapse, I would have continued with numerous "slips." This is what worked for me and I realize that we are all different.

M3

[mayday]

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Hi Patrice, am heartened to read your thread...I am back to day 1 after a week long slip/slide...I will be following your progress, keep strong. I am going to your part of the world in a few weeks..didn't realise the humidity was such (knew it was hot...) I have 3 weeks to get the alcohol out of my system!! before I hit the Borneo heat!

[patrice]

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Yes Mayday, do try to get alcohol free and out of your system... it will make a huge difference in this humidity. I have been wondering during the last 6 months why I have been sweating so much because I should be acclimatised to it by now.. literally 3 days after stopping I stopped sweating ( well.. its all relative!!!) but honestly its made a huge difference!! I'm now on Day 8 with the slip inbetween but still feeking strong and better and better... You will love Borneo it is quite amazing!!
Take Care
Patrice

[OverIt2007]

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I am glad you are feeling better Patrice! Remember you always have this place to come to for support. I/we truly want to see you succeed with this and be happy!