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    #46
    WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

    my doc won't give me topo so I know he would never agree to antibuse. It's 3:20 in the afternoon and my willpower is wavering. I certainly will not suggest wine and if hubby does... who knows. What a vicious circle we create, eh. Stick to it gals. Try to have a AF night if that's your goal.

    Franzi I know what its like to make excuses like being sore, exhausted or having just survived an earthquake as was my flimsy excuse last Thursday. Any old excuse will do. I have a feeling I will be all right tonight. It's so hot and muggy that all I feel like is water .. right now... so far.. bye for now.
    Tipplerette

    I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

    "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
    ? Lao-Tzu

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      #47
      WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

      Don't do it Tipp!!

      I want SOOOO badly to be AF tonight........I laid in the pool and just started crying to myself, Praying to God to help me.
      How long has it been since you were AF?
      It's been since last October for me. I was trying so hard, getting a few days down....and now this has been the longest I have gone drinking every day.
      I do recall how great I felt the next day- excited about going to the gym.
      I have a list of things I want to get done before I go back to work in 5 weeks~ and if I'm going to get them done I have to stop drinking like I am.
      Soooooo Tipp! Hang in there! Keep posting here- I'm thinking about you!:h

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        #48
        WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

        Another mid 40s female wineoholic here. Been reading for some time but never joined, but something about this thread made me want to finally sign up.

        Trying to go AF this week until Friday night trip with hubby. It's going to be a challenge, but I've simply GOT to stop drinking like this. I've GOT to. I've gained 20 lbs in 2 years and I KNOW it's the alcohol calories. Not too mention I'm sure it's doing a number on my liver etc. :upset:

        I've read the book (plan to reread it again tonite) and got the supps. Don't want to go the prescrip drug route as I can't afford to have the diagnosis on my med records. I just want to moderate like I used to be able to ... Wishing us all commitment and luck as we fight this demon.

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          #49
          WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

          Welcome

          Danae~ you will see this is a great support system. Keep posting and reading and try try try again.......like all of us.
          I have not been AF since last October and am trying it AGAIN tonight~ think I'm going to accomplish it too!
          :welcome:

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            #50
            WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

            I'm going to say this one more time - unless you know you will abstain - ANTABUSE CAN KILL YOU.

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              #51
              WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

              Hi guys,

              Your thread is exactly where I am too!! 50 year old gal who Loves her wine. But I now find that I can drink almost a complete bottle and then here is the routine! I wake up with pounding heart, extreme thirst around 3am sound familiar! and vow NOT to drink that next day.
              I find the battle to moderate impossible, I've tried way too many times which tells me I'm not ever going to be a "normy" as the AA gals call people who can take it or leave it. It just isn't a big deal to them.. How I long to be there but I know deep down in my heart I can't be one of them. As you guys said its like a death thinking that I can't sit on a warm sunny day and have that cool glass of wine but I CAN'T!!!

              after thousands of attempts to moderate and quit I decided to change things up and added AA to the mix for me, it has helped however it is early in my sober life, 6/19/2010 AF free.

              Hang in there ladies!!!! We are in this together.
              May our choices today not result in regret, but rather be wise

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                #52
                WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                I DID IT!! I hope you all had a good evening too. Was going in the hot tub and offered hubby a beer which he refused. I hopped in (no Drink) and we then had a nice salad for dinner without wine. I actually for the FIRST TIME did not miss it. Hmmmm... don't know if it was the Kudzu and Glut that I took or just finally being sensible. Tonights another night. I am drinking this combo of non-pasturized honey with cinnamon before bed and first thing in the morning. I don't know if that is why I lost a pound in two days but hey girls... the drink tastes amazing. If anyone wants the recipe let me know.

                Girls, check in and we'll continue to encourage each other. If you slipped up on your plan I am here for you as that is the usual circumstance for me and if you went without... yay, Bravo !! Remember, tonight is another chance for success.

                Welcome Cherbear, you drink exactly the way I do and I always wake up at 3:00 a.m buzzing with dehydration... anyone else actually BUZZ? I hear you when you say moderation is not for everyone. I wish it was for me. ODAT!!
                Tipplerette

                I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                ? Lao-Tzu

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                  #53
                  WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                  3 am

                  There is another reason I need to do this NOW.
                  I am on summer break and go back to work in 5 short weeks. I am able to sleep late now but when work starts I have to get up at 5:30 so last school year I was constantly waking up at 2:30 or 3 am and NOT going back to sleep. It was horrible!! By 10am I was a mess. I work with children for God's sake~ I can't be compromised.
                  Every morning driving to work I was beating myself up and telling myself I need to change my life.......
                  It's now or never.

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                    #54
                    WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                    Girls!! I can't believe how similar we are. The feeling of failure and shame is SOOO exhausting! Franzia .. that early am call I hear ya, I work at a hospital !! same diff.. after 10 days AF, mornings are glorious! I have had a couple of restless nights sleep but overall I am sleeping better. But the best part is the feeling of success every morning, I think the constant wine was eroding my confidence. Funny.. used to think it gives confidence but I guess its the opposite.

                    No more compromising for me... you??!!

                    Cher
                    May our choices today not result in regret, but rather be wise

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                      #55
                      WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                      I know it's ADAT~ but.......

                      I can't help worrying about July 4th weekend.
                      We always go to my son's house and watch fireworks from the park across the street.
                      Always AL a plenty.
                      And don't say I should decline going because that is not an option.
                      My grandson and fireworks? Hello!!

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                        #56
                        WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                        Franz Go !! Bring yourself a nice non A/C drink in a thermos and enjoy it. Kids are a great excuse not to drink. If someone asks what you're drinking say it's a nice little concoction. that'll keep them guessing. We can beat this.
                        Tipplerette

                        I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                        "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                        ? Lao-Tzu

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                          #57
                          WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                          Hey guys,

                          This thread rings so many bells with me, Its amazing how similar everyones experiences are. I can totally relate to everything everyone has said on here!
                          Dancingon - The hiding a rest of a bottle so you have some for yourself later is so very true!
                          AF since 19th August 2011

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                            #58
                            WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                            This thread is SOOOO good...Day 4 AF - not done that for over 10 years. I'm cross between edge of the skin jangly and hyperactive and a lump! Been working last two days - and I can remember things again. Maybe I haven't been as high functioning as I thought!

                            Really want to do this...but very much miss my glasses of red..who am I kidding it was bottles!!!
                            I want to lose some of this weight too.I look awful. Perhaps my vanity will pull me through. I'm so glas you are all out there x
                            ...peace and quiet....and a cup of tea.....heaven:h

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                              #59
                              WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                              Good News!

                              Really 10 years Queen?? WOW! That's terrific!!:goodjob:

                              I have to tell everyone something too~ last night as I was trying to get to sleep.....excited because I had successfully accomplished 1 AF night....I was praying to God to help me, and my husband get through this horrible time. My hubby has been unemployed since April. I'm not particularly religious- don't go to church- but I do believe God has a plan.
                              I kinda made a "deal" with God, if he helped us financially- I would control my drinking.
                              I know.....sounds really dumb uh???

                              Well.......this afternoon the phone rang and my husband has a job interview Thursday!!
                              A woman he used to work with at his ex-employer- she is now the CEO of another company!!
                              I don't want to test fate now! I can't take a drink! I would be jeopardizing my husband's chances at a job!
                              Whatever it takes uh??

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                                #60
                                WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

                                Franzi,

                                I believe there are no accidents!! Good luck to you and your hubbie, no AF tonight!!! for me. Although my cravings are worse today than they have been. Got to do some praying myself to get over the hump.

                                AF since 6/19/2010
                                May our choices today not result in regret, but rather be wise

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