WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

[franziasgone]

WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

Tipp~ You have 3 boys?

[kslc2001]

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Tipplerette

I can so relate to what you've said about the wine, wanting to make sure you get your fair share, wanting one glass and eying up the whole bottle....

I've been on the site for 4 weeks now and am 21 days AF. I did as you, down loaded the book, bought the suppliments, (not from the site and they work fine) the CD"s , got my doc on board for the topa. For me it was only wine. Not beer or hard liquor and never wanting a drink first thing in the morning. (but boy could I down the wine at night) My doc persuaded me to abstain for 2 months due to chronic fatigue and muscle pain that he feels are AL related. Once I got the meds, to his surprize, I did cut out completely. I've recently stopped taking the topa as the cravings have subsided and I needed to take a systemic anti-inflammitory. I feel the whole MYO program is working well for me. I've been lucky with my friends too, as they have been very supportive in not drinking in front of me even though I was OK with it. Tonight will be a test as other people will be drinking around me for the first time!

You sound as tho you have good insight, so trust your instincts and good luck

[1967]

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right there with everyone once again.
every time i stop visiting this site regularly i go downhill.
very much way down the hill just now.
made it through day one, again.
i've not made it through a week AF in months.
gotta stop this... it's no good. i am becoming more and more isolated with every passing day.
not good.

[uglybug]

WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

:new: Hi, this is scarey, I'm new to this. 'Middle Aged Female Wine Drinker' ...that's me!! I hope I can beat this, I feel such a failure.

[franziasgone]

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Hi Bug!

:welcome:I'm not calling you ugly! You should definitely change that!
Welcome to MWO~ I too am a middle aged female wine drinker struggling like Hell.
I find comfort in this site and it has helped. I find motivation the most here.

I have a real dilemma tonight.......we are going to a "wine & cheese" party at a friends.
I am babysitting my 2 yo grandson tomorrow for most of the day while my son and his dad golf. (mom is out of town). So I will be alone with him, starting early in the morning.
You can see where I'm headed with this right? I don't want to be hungover!!

[patrice]

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Hi all, I was also that female middle aged wine drinker who kept a beady eye on the bottle when me and my husband were sharing it...
franzia - can you go the party and just have cheese and something non- al? ... I know I couldnt at this stage because the association with wine and cheese is still strong for me. I was able to go to my first social gathering with loads of alcohol around on Friday and I didnt drink- but it was more like an afternoon kids party so it wasnt as difficult as I thought it would be... keep strong everyone
Patrice

[uglybug]

WANTED- MIDDLE AGED FEMALE WINE DRINKER

Hi - thanks for the welcome.
How did the cheese and wine go?
I did first day AF yesterday and am now either climbing the walls, not able to focus on one task and really snappy - or sat on my bum feeling like a lump. I have so much to do and be grateful for, but feel like I just can't do the simplest things. Is this normal?

[JACQRABBIT]

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:wavin::wavin::wavin:

Yep that's me.
Fit the profile perfectly.
43 year old.
Absolute control over everything else in my life,
Very successful business woman, fit, healthy, even go as far as to say I look great for someone my age.
Completely hopeless Wineoholic, not sure if there's such a word but there should be.

Making some real inroads since joining here mid April,
did a 30 day AF have since allowed myself to drink only 1 glass while dining on Friday and Saturday.

Absolutely know that If I turn my back for 1/2 a second that it will drown me again.

[rustop61]

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Yet me too
I also fit the profile
48 year old
Highly functioning in every other area but a complete Wineoholic.

Have not achieved complete sobriety since joining MWO but compared to drinking a bottle of wine every night I have come a long way.

Like you Jacqrabbit know if I dont stay on this path it will drown me.

Rustop

[sunray]

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Hi all, well there is a lot of us female wine drinkers out there, maybe its me but it seems to be the drink of choice for mostly females!
I could relate to having a glass while cooking dinner before my husband came home, hide the bottle and then open ours-
then it progressed to havin a bottle before hubby came home and open ours- then it went further to having all that and wanting to drive to buy more ......and on and on it goes to pure heartache.
I am on day 4 again..
I completely understand where you are all at, it really does sneak up on you,its scary!
I vaguely remember a time-not that long ago-which goes to show how quickly it happens-when cooking dinner or earlier-it wouldn't enter my head to have wine.

Anyway,thanks for all your posts- its really supporting me at the moment.

Sunray xxxxx

[beagle]

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I am here as I fit the bill perfectly. haven't read all the posts as i am sneakyily trying to hide from from my husband whom i think knows anyway & whom i think i might not want to be with anymore atm.
but more about that later.
great thread.
i am so glad to know of all of you out there.
just a safety in numbers thing i suppose.
i just don't want to talk much currently but i am here in spirit.

[Tipplerette]

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Welcome to all who responded. Franz, I have two boy and a girl. Sorry for the confusion. Just got back from a great camping trip. Thursday night drank two bottles of wine, Friday one and Saturday two glasses (plus a beer at a Polish restaurant we stopped at midday on the motorcycle). Honestly last night when we got home at 4pm I finished the other half of the Sat night bottle. So proud... so, so proud of myself. When others pray for big things all I pray for is self-control and willpower. What has struck me the most from the responses to this thread has that alcohol amounts seem to increase over time. I think I could accept my half bottle a night routine and just call myself a drinker if it wasn't for the fact that inch by inch (or should I say ounce by ounce) my drinking is increasing. Just watching hubby ignore his wine and work on the computer or watch TV. I actually monitor him because it highlights my obsession. Self discovery sucks. I don't want to be the one who single-mindedly drinks the night away. Alcohol must mess with the brain as far as determination to abstain goes starting out strong (3:00 a.m), still there (8:00 am), gong over the pros and cons (2pm), saying what the hell it's not that bad (4:30-5pm). If someone could unlock that mystery and tell me how to keep it as strong as it is at 3:00 a.m. I would give them my right eye.

[beagle]

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do you think that maybe we start to get obsessive tipp? as in obsessive compulsive? i wonder partly because the same happens in a bizarrely fascinating way for me IF I concentrate on it. How do i NOT concentrate on it/ Well in part, the kudzu & topamax have helped to some degree. Not a miracle,but better. As in, not having a little lunchtime soother to help me through.
Just in the same boat i suppose.
A small improvement to me must be celebrated & baby steps are not to be turned into giant leaps for me by any stretch.
i'm not af yet tipp. trying,not yet,too many excuses,such is life & death, but i will try.
if i try,or you try,do you want to try together?

[Tipplerette]

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I would be honoured to try together, Beagle. What seems so important me at this moment seems to fade away by dinner. The wine just beckons me. Let's proudly report back tommorrow that we abstained for one evening. As I type this I hope my determination doesn't waver again....... stay strong for both of us. That's a real fair request eh... no, I will try to do my part too. No, better yet, I WILL do my part. NO stupid cheap homeade vinegary wine for me tonight..(my favourite kind).:l

[franziasgone]

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Feeling bad this morning

After feeling really good Sunday morning because I "only had 3 glasses" the night before, I see now how stupid that was. I did it again last night. I feel totally dehydrated this morning and look like death.
I hear you Tipp~ I say to myself "Oh it's not that bad!" around 4pm.
I also have such back and neck pain that I say to myself "I need this".
I was so exhausted yesterday too both from lack of sleep and watching a 2yo all day and running after him and picking him up.......see I'm using all these excuses!!

I'm almost thinking of using Antabuse but it really scares me.....