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[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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KatieB that is terrific news. I am no expert but as I see it the ball has been placed squarely in your hands now. If you can go through rehab and stay clean then there is not a chance that you will lose custody of your son when the case is heard. You have been handed an amazing opportunity, please grasp it with both hands. It is important that you dont get hung up on what your ex is doing or saying, draw a line through that move on and concentrate on your and your son lives. I am really happy for you.

[KatieB]

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Thank you so much Ktab,
You hit the nail on the head.. all of what you say is what I am thinking.. I am determined to take this chance and do the best I can.. stay free of AL, go to rehab and do the best for me and my son..by the time the case is heard, it will have been 6 months since any incidents.. I am determined not to worry about what my ex does or says.. and he can't contact me anymore anyway due to the AVO adjustment.. so things are really looking up! This is the time to really turn my life around.. x

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Thats great, keep your eye on the big prize. By this time next year your life will be unrecognisable from the last few months, I just know you are going to do this. :l

[Chillgirl]

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Katie - Im so pleased it went well,
Staying with KTAB's analogy, grab that ball and run with it and dont look back to see what the opponent is doing, keep your focus on the goal ahead and nothing else! You have a great team behind you here all cheering you on.....

[gyco]

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great

KatieB;917210 wrote: Well, family court went pretty well this morning.. the case has been adjourned for another 4-5 months.. in the meantime I would have gone to rehab!
The current orders are staying in place, which is fantastic.. my son is going to remain living with me, and just seeing his father on weekends.. I am very happy right now! :-)

yo katie,im glad to hear things are movin smoothly,im curious who s taken care of your son when your in treatment,that can last from 4 to how ever many weeks,take your time,only cause ive been there you want no road blocks,concentration is the key goal,undrstanding why you,quote you , are the way you are,focussing on better health,yours,you seem to be a very special person,and i commend you on what your trying to achieve gyco:goodjob:

[KatieB]

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Thanks Ktab and chillgirl - I am definately going to "keep my eye on the big prize", and "grab the ball and run with it!" - I am soooo going to make the most of this opportunity to prove to the courts I have my act together and am the best person to take care of my son..
Gyco - the rehab I am going to takes children, so I am taking my son with me, and its for 6 weeks.. I will be still dropping him off with his Dad at weekends, but will have him with me the rest of the time.. this is as my counsellor and social services believe my son being with me is the best way for my rehabilitation, and for my son.. as I have always been his primary carer.. and thank you so much for the compliment.. I am really trying so I can be a great mum and a good example for my son.. I would never want him to have the same issues i have had.. i love him too much
xxx

[TalulaBlue]

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Great news Katie.

TBx

[Doggygirl]

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This is great news KatieB! I love your determination to keep improving your own situation and sobriety, and try to move on from whatever your ex is / isn't doing. I think that's terrific.

DG

[blinder]

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Thats good news Katie.....good things are coming your way!!! x

[KatieB]

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Thank you TB, Doggygirl and blinder,
I am very determined to move onwards and upwards.. am not thinking at all about what my ex may be doing/not doing.. I am going to concentrate solely on myself, my son and my sobriety.. feeling so positive at the moment.. the next court case will be about divorce - which i'm sure will be a lot more fun than any of the other court cases! :H

[techie]

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Wonderful Katie. I'm so happy for you. I will keep you and your son in my prayers...john

[maddiemadison]

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Katie,

I've faced a similar situation, the threats of taking the kids away etc... didn't make it to court, but i understand how hard it is and how more stressful it becomes from staying away from AL. A few things to remember : - i don't know what country you live in, but in most places the courts usually side with the parent and the most stable environment. They are very unlikely to take your child away and give him to the absent parent, who has no stable enviro / home and has issues himself. Secondly there are a few simple techniques you can learn quickly to diffuse emotional stress (including the desire to drink), it's called EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique... helped me alot, you can learn it in minutes and it's availalble online. look it up. you have 3 days to improve how you feel and i know this helps alot, it did for me - good luck. Maddie

[KatieB]

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Thanks techie,
and thankyou maddie - I will look up EFT - I am finding I am coping and not turning to AL at all these days.. but am always up for trying new techniques of relaxation!

[sunshine_gg]

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Excellent news, Katie.... don't have anything to add, really - KTAB has said it all :l

[greeneyes]

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KatieB;917721 wrote: Thank you TB, Doggygirl and blinder,
I am very determined to move onwards and upwards.. am not thinking at all about what my ex may be doing/not doing.. I am going to concentrate solely on myself, my son and my sobriety.. feeling so positive at the moment.. the next court case will be about divorce - which i'm sure will be a lot more fun than any of the other court cases! :H

Great, katie!!