Fighting Back

[Changeling]

Why do we kid ourselves that drinking is giving us something - when really it is just taking away
I have been talking with my friends about why we drink so much - interesting

1. I can't enjoy myself without dirnking
REALITY How much fun are we really having - staggering about - making fools of ourselves -
feeling ill the next day

2. Drinking relaxes me - gives me confidence
REALITY - It relaxes me to the point I pass out - Thats really cool.....

3.I'll loose my social life if I don't drink
REALITY - How sociable are we when were drinking a lot.
We don't listen, we cannot make any real connection with anyone

4. People will think i'm boring if I dont drink
REALITY - How interesting are we when were drunk??
Most people become completely self obsessed when drinking -
I know myself, after a few drinks I am always interupting everyone, not having any interest in their opinions or feelings.

I would be interested to hear anyones thoughts about the above and other responses....
I know, that for me, almost everything in my life would be better without drinking.
I hope I will have the strength to stay away from it now.
Regards
Changeling

[freckles]

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hi changeling - i like your thoughts. ahhhh the ironies of alcohol. one that has sunk in for me is that i convince myself that one or two drinks will make me feel better. the reality is that one or two drinks usually makes me more uncomfortable than if i had none. i'm not really 'comfortable' until i hit 4 or 5 and by then my judgement is wavering and it can easily turn into 6 or 7. it occured to me that this is why i didn't like certain recreational drugs when i was young and crazy. the desire for MORE being the primary result of using. that's what alcohol has turned into for me. i can't get no....satisfaction... (sorry mick) from drinking without bad things happening.

[Saint Jude]

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Changeling, Interesting ideas. I know before I found MWO, when I drank, I would usually drink wayyy overboard, like you describe...

But, now after being on Topa & in this program for about 11 months, I drink in a much different way. I can now sip and enjoy a glass or 2 of wine after work, without having to "chug" it down. I can have a 12 pk in the fridge for weeks at a time without feeling like I "have" to go drink it "because it's there"... . Believe me - that NEVER used to happen!

It does take determination, but anything worthwhile does...

Just thankful there are so many different ways that this program works! :h ... Judie