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[hemihemi]

Hi, this is my first post. I found this site a few months ago and I've been reading some of the posts on here and it seems like it's a great resource for someone like me. Alcohol is my enemy/friend. It depends on the situation I guess. I'm 43, a single dad, have a 13-year-old son, and my business is struggling. I've been drinking since I was 15 and to be honest I still like it. BUT, it's become a problem in my life. It's my escape mechanism and I'm afraid that it's going to kill me. My drink of choice is beer, Miller Lite. I've never liked liquor thankfully. Any words of wisdom? I'd love to be able to drink socially, but I just don't know if it's in the cards for me at this point. Thanks in advance

[Lavande]

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Hi hemihemi,

Welcome to MWO, this is a good place!

Why don't you start by downloading the MWO book from the Health Store. It's full of useful info for you.
You need to make a good plan for yourself, something that works for you. Take a look in the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for good ideas.

Taking control of your life now, especially with your son at such an impressionable age is the best thing!
You'll never be sorry
Most of us have found that moderate drinking is very difficult once you've crossed the line. I came here hoping the same thing but after being AF for 30 days - I changed my mind & decided to stay AF. For me it's just easier than constantly thinking about how much I can have & when I can have it......


There are lots of threads for 'newbies' including the Newbies Nest. Jump in & start posting, you'll find lots of good company.
Wishing you the very best on your journey!

Lav

[hemihemi]

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Thanks y'all I appreciate the support. I really like the fact that the people on here aren't pushy. I think that the 30-day AF period is something that I can do and it will give me a chance to get back to exercise.

[techie]

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Hey Hemi welcome. Yeah go for the thirty days. Keep posting here for support and ask as many questions as you need to. Best of luck!

[papmom3]

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Sheri-as usual you have such wise words!! I just get so much insite whenever I read your posts!!
Hemi-Welcome to MWO!! Lav is amazing and if she can be AF then so can you if that is what you decide to be. Definitely try the 30 day AF stint. You won't be sorry.
Can't add much more to what has been said. Hope to see you in the Newbies Nest soon!
:l

[sick of being sick]

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Welcome, Hemi! The most important thing is TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME and just choose not to drink THIS DAY! You will have to change some of your habits, like reading or posting on the site, instead of drinking. Once you get through that first week, it begins to get easier and you begin feeling SO MUCH BETTER! We are all here together on the same journey...to get and to stay sober! We want to help you all we can so reach out to us and tell us more about yourself.

[sunshinedaisies]

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Hemi - welcome to this site - it is a wonderful place to be and has so much support and help. Read, post, get a feel - ask questions - someone will be able to help you. I wish you all the best on your journey - as SOBS said - just take it one day at a time.

hugs, Sunshinedaisies x

[patrice]

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Hi Hemi ( is that a Maori name?)
I can second all the above.. 30 days makes you feel great and you may want to continue on after that..
Welcome and tfeel good about what you are doing... which is huge
Take care
Patrice

[mollyka]

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Welcome Hemi, You put your finger on the problem - you still like drinking. I would LOVE to be able to drink, parts of drinking I enjoyed and to be honest miss a lot, but when it becomes a problem like Lav says - we have crossed over! I also agree that with a teenager it becomes more important to be in control of alcohol or dump it, they do copy us (have 4 kids myself, unfortunately they only copy the bad bits!!) and as he gets older the guilt builds and lets face it if we are getting rat-faced every night or week we can't really take the high moral ground when they decide to 'experiment'!!
Give the 30 days a go - it does put a whole new perspective on life and then decide what you can do
Molly:welcome:

[hillsidetime]

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Hi Hemihemi, and welcome. I am a father of 2, married, and 37 years old. I almost lost all of it, due to my drinking. I have been sober for 6 months, and life is so much better. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. Read and write lots here, there are many caring people who can give you thoughts and feedback. I hit rock bottom before I finally went sober, I hope that you don't have to get to that point. For me, I know in my heart that moderation is not an option, and I also know that I am an alcoholic. It is up to you to fingure out whether you can be a social drinker or not. All the best to you,
Hill

[OverIt2007]

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Hi Hemi,

Nice to meet you. I am a single Mom 42, with a 6 year old boy. Your right, this is a great place of support and information. Be careful though, you might find you may develop some serious friendships too in the process.

I kept failing in my good intentions to not drink alcohol. Although I was never an everyday drinker, and have never suffered any serious withdrawls, I was noticing that the consequences to my drinking were pretty scary!

I decided to go the Antabuse route. Its been working great for me so far. There are many different options for you, I hope you find the path that works best for you!

Overit