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    Just a basic shower....

    This is ver embarrassing to admit but since my AL problem has gotten worse and me and and my BF split, I haven't been taking care of myself. I go 3,4,5 days without bothering to shower. The night before ill set my alarm a little earlier and tell myself "You need to get up and shower, blow dry your hair, before work tomorrow. This week, I'm so tired from drinking the night before, I just keep hitting snooze until i have just a few minutes to throw on some close and put my hair in a ponytail before i go to work. Ive been wearing my hair up all this last week. Can anyone relate to this? Or am I just disgusting?

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    Just a basic shower....

    Hi Jewels,

    When I was drinking at my worst, I still showered every day but I've ALWAYS been a 2-times-day shower person. But this is what AL does, it can take away our motivation to do anything and that includes bathing. One of the reasons is that AL is such a depressant and you're probably feeling like, "ugh, who cares if I don't shower?" I know when I was drinking I lost interest in things I used to enjoy, like working out at the gym.

    I'm sure other people here have felt the same you do. Just a thought....the next time you think you don't want to shower the night after you've been drinking, ask yourself this question, "Do I want to go to work smelling like I took a booze bath?"

    I shudder to think of the times I reeked of booze on a Monday morning...and that's with showering before going to work. We can't smell it on ourselves, but other people (especially non-drinkers) absolutely can.

    No need to feel embarrassed here. We've all done things we've regretted while we were drinking.

    Wishing you strength on your journey,

    Rusty

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      #3
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      It's called depression Jewel. I have always tried to *look* alright even when I was all swollen up and jaundiced from drinking I'd still do my hair etc. But when depression hit, I just seemed not to care any more. And the same thing happened when I had to undergo extensive medical surgery.

      So, no you're not alone. I think what happens is that something else takes precedence in your thoughts (al, health problems whatever) and that is overwhelming. You will come out the other side
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        #4
        Just a basic shower....

        Kimberley's right, Jewels. Can you talk to your doctor about getting on some meds for depression?

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          #5
          Just a basic shower....

          Alcohol itself is a depressant amongst other things and antid's generally don't work, or fight a loosing battle if the sufferer continues to drink.

          For years I was proud that whatever happened I would be clean, shower twice a day etc no matter what. Towards the end however during benders if I didn't have anywhere to go officially and wasn't at work then yes I would not bother to shower, change clothes etc often sleeping at night in the same things I wore during the day. I really had no motivation at all and on top of that would lie in bed for as long as possible to avoid the world.

          So yes this is all pretty normal.

          Once I got sober I was right back into showering, bathing and now am pretty meticulous about personal grooming!

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            #6
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            Yes, basic self-care flies out the window, especially when binging.

            I know I have come out of binges realizing I haven't brushed my teeth for days!!

            Hubby went to nursing school for a while. One thing they look for in addicts is ADL -- Activities of Daily Living.

            We all suffer from being unable to do the simple, mundate tasks of living when we are binging.

            Cindi
            AF April 9, 2016

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              #7
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              Rusty;934183 wrote: Kimberley's right, Jewels. Can you talk to your doctor about getting on some meds for depression?
              I've been on anti-d's for quite awhile....but since I'm still fighting the drinking, they have no effect....

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                Jewels, since your body is yours alone, not everything works for everyone. There are several categories of ADs,. I remember when Prozac came out and was supposed to be a wonder-drug. All it did for me was give me horrific nightmares. If what you're on isn't working then maybe ask your GP to try some different categories of AD. SSRI's, cyclical ADs etc? It can take some time to find one. Good luck babe, it's not a nice thing to happen to you.

                K x
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                  #9
                  Just a basic shower....

                  I can relate to you Jewels. It's the nature of the beast. Alcohol steals everything from us, our time, money, health and self-respect. When I was drinking I didn't care what I looked like, and usually in the morning I was too sick to give a crap anyway. Most of those mornings are just a blur, and I wouldn't even remember getting dressed for work. What a horrible way to live! I was just surviving the day, not really living it! Just remember, things DO get better when you remove the alcohol...no, not overnight, but eventually they do!

                  Hang in there and let us know how you are!
                  :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

                  Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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                    #10
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                    Jewels, The last few years of my drinking career were really ugly in so many ways. I let myself go on every level, including daily showers. I had stopped wearing make up. I gained over 50 pounds. I stopped doing anything with my hair. Not only was it always in a pony tail, I stopped getting it cut. Didn't cover up the gray. Mainly wore sweat pants. I was majorly depressed and actually had a suicide plan.

                    Thank God for sobriety. For me, that's all it took for the depression to lift.

                    I recently heard a doctor speak who is both an internist and a phychiatrist. He works with a lot of addicts - drugs or alcohol or both. He said in his years of experience, it is nearly impossible to effectively treat depression while someone is drinking. He said that most of the time, the depression is caused by the drinking and stopping the drinking is the solution. If medication is necessary / helpful, it is nearly impossible to work on that while the drinking continues.

                    (just one doctor's opinion, and he is not my own doctor - his opinion just confirmed my personal experience is all)

                    When I first stopped drinking it was sometimes hard to get up and get moving. But the more I made myself do it, the better I got. Exercise and endorphins really helped me, and still do. I also try to follow the diet recommendations in the My Way Out book.

                    This really can get better if you can stop drinking.

                    DG
                    Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                    Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

                    One day at a time.

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                      #11
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                      jewels i can totally understand. i must have stunk some days. trying to hide the booze smell and the personal hygiene. i would try and have a quick wash of the smelly bits before work and chew gum. sure it didnt fool anyone. i was on ad's and they didnt help at all while i was drinking. once i knocked the booze out of the equation i felt so much better. if you can keep off the booze it would be a great start in helping yourself
                      Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
                      Keep passing the open windows

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                        #12
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                        No need to feel ashamed when I binged sometimes I wouldn't even eat days at a time I mean we need food to live and I just didn't care. I would look like a stinky zombie.
                        https://www.mywayout.org/community/f8/my-story-some-40119.html My Story

                        AF - 08/06/2010

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                          #13
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                          I can relate to most of the posts on here....this I why I need to sort myself out...I have no motivation to do anything...I am also on dp's and nope the drink doesnt help...have started on techies 30 day challenge...
                          I want to live life sober....not die a drunk

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                            #14
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                            Not sure I actually got to the 'smelly' stage:H but definitely did the minimum of everything required. I was permanently exhausted. Horrible feeling!
                            Molly
                            Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
                            contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                              #15
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                              Hi Jewels!!

                              I'm 'religious' bather and shower taker:H I still do when i'm drunk..But in the last "drinking period" when i left a job i noticed that i wasn't take care so much as before.. when i went out to see somebody or just walk i was pretty because i had fear that somebody in my apperance can notice my bad lifestyle..
                              but my home was a crazy mess.... which actually describe my status quo....

                              So, sobriety now for only 3 days gave me a pover to clean, to pay bills from left money (when i drink i loose control over money and i'm very compulsive) etc., etc.

                              Take care about yourself!! Women isn't allowed in any conditions to loose this habbit!! Sorry, maybe i'm from 'old school"...:H
                              The time for action is now. It's never too late to do something.
                              /Antoine de Saint-Exupery/

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