TECHIE'S 30 DAY CLEAN SOBER CHALLENGE

[babysteps]

TECHIE'S 30 DAY CLEAN SOBER CHALLENGE

Hello all! I just signed on to this site, am busy all day motivating myself to END my problem, and need just such a motivation. Can I tag on now even though it's the 19th? I'll add 4 on at the end...

[Doggygirl]

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Hi everyone. Haven't had much on line time in the last couple of days. I love being sober and having a full and active life! (TOO full some days LOL!) Day 819 is drawing to a close. I am so grateful for another sober day.

Strength and hope to everyone in this challenge and especially to anyone who might be struggling today. We CAN do this!

DG

[paguy]

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Greetings Folks! A little low on energy here this evening - long week at work. Glad tomorrow is Friday! Hoping to get a solid 8 hours sleep tonight and be ready for another day. Today is day 38 for me and I am still determined to remain AF.

[techie]

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A BIG welcome to catdancer, and babysteps. Thanks all of you for the kind words and support for the thread. Most importantly, thank you all for the love, support, and kindness you show each other. My experience here at MWO over the past ten months has taught me one thing. There may be many other ways to slay this alcohol beast, but I would not trade this experience in. You all are the best! John xxx

P.S. Missy is kicking ass. Bridget will probably want to kick mine. DG, Rog, et al, your wisdom fuels us. Angel get well!

[Chillgirl]

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techie;938624 wrote: Calmly determined
You can be determined without being frantic. You can be powerfully purposeful without thrashing around and bouncing off the walls.
Let your sense of determination come not from fear, but from love. Focus your energy not on what you wish to avoid, but on what you intend to create.
In a calm and peaceful spirit there is great power. When driven by a positive purpose, you'll always have the energy to move forward.
There may certainly be situations you detest, that you wish to move quickly away from. Yet when that is your only focus, when you're constantly looking backwards, you're more likely to stumble.
Choose where you do want to be, what you do want to experience and the life you do want to lead. Make your goals positive, and your actions will be immensely more effective.
Be calmly and persistently determined to achieve what you have chosen to achieve. And
you'll find ways to put every day, and every circumstance, to work in your favor.

Having found myself awake in the early hours of day 5 of the challenge I took a closer look at The thoughts for today, being Friday I realized in my life pre AF "thrashing around & bouncing off walls" was how I had usually spend my weekends! Certainly there is no Q that the AF days are more "calm and peaceful". Friday would normally have been an excuse for drinking double the amount I drank on Thursday, and Thurs would already have been an excuse for drinking more than Wed (well it was nearly the weekend!) The weekend would have been one long binge but instead I am looking forward to a relaxing few days with a clear head and choices to enjoy what I want to do rather than being despicably ruled by AL!

Wishing everybody a great AF weekend full of calm & persistent determination...

[not tonight]

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Good morning all,

Big dead line today, then a dinner party tonight. This will be another evening where I will not be drinking for the first time. Looking forward to the day when it is just understood that I don't drink. However I have a lot of ground to cover before I get there.

Welcome babysteps, this site is a great place for motivation!

Hello to everyone else. Hope everyone has a fantastic and sober Friday (always the best start to the weekend)

[sunray]

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Good morning all, day 5 today- didn't get a chance to post yesterday-running around like headless chicken-busy is good-
Well its Friday- I work till late this evening but usually would be thinking of bottle of wine after 1-long week, 2- its friday-what is it about friday's! Anyway, was feeling slightly anxious about not having any tonight but trying to remind myself how better i will feel in the morning-
Went for a lovely bike ride at 9 in the evening-day before yesterday- and watched the sun going down and i thought-this is real joy-real relaxation-something you never get from a bottle even though we convince ourselves that we do. Trying to hold on to these thoughts-----keep it real!!!
Everyone have a good,strong-REAL-Friday xx

[one2many]

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I am really loving this thread. Thanks Techie.

I have been in a bit of a funk the past few days, not sure why..it happens every once in a while...sadness for no reason, it is hard to shake sometimes.

I took the night off from the pc last night (first time in years prob) and watched episodes of "The Good Wife" that I had recorded. I slobbed on the sofa and rested, had a good nights sleep and I think it did me good, I need to "switch off" for a little while .

I have had no thoughts of drinking or smoking, I am very thankful for that, I rarely get them anymore but am ever vigilant.

Dealing with sadness sober is a HELL of a lot easier than dealing with sadness drunk or hungover.....

When I was drinking the problems were exacerbated but of course, I thought I was self medicating and that having a drink would alleviate the feelings, not intensify them.

So over and over I did the same thing and expected different results.

I LOVE being sober......I revel in it...it gives me the greatest pleasure. Thats not to say I don't get sad, or upset, or angry or pissed off but I now deal with these feelings in a rational and appropriate way instead of making them 100 times worse by opening a bottle.

I am so bloody grateful for that.

[paguy]

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one2many;939045 wrote: I LOVE being sober......I revel in it...it gives me the greatest pleasure. Thats not to say I don't get sad, or upset, or angry or pissed off but I an now deal with these feelings in a rational and appropriate way instead of making them 100 times worse by opening a bottle. I am so bloody grateful for that.

One - I can really relate to what you expressed. I am finding that I am making myself more aware of my feelings now that I am AF rather than numbing how I was feeling all along with the alcohol.

I have come to the realization that I really do want a better quality of life and getting closer to my real feelings will help me achieve that goal. This really has become an intense exercise of self-awareness for me and I am making progress with being true to my feelings and understanding all of the triggers and factors that influence my behaviors.

Regrettably, it took me 56 years to reach this stage in my life but I am grateful that I am here now.

[babysteps]

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Good morning all! 6:30 am in the midwest. Thanks for the welcome techie, and I'm glad to read your words above this am printed by chillgirl. There is so much to be enjoyed in this beautiful world, and I am very happy to have found a place to connect with positive people who understand what I've gone through and how hard it will be to get back to a peaceful and sober existence....I have tried moderating, just never got it going. The longest I've managed AF in the past couple years is 8 days. Sooooo, on day 9 here I will feel - yay! For today; keep reminding myself I will feel better. TGIF. Keep well all

[Doggygirl]

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Good morning all! I'm not even going to try to catch up on all the details I've missed in the last few days so am picking up from todays posts!

Oney, I love how you expressed your love of sobriety. I share your sentiments to a T. My life is not perfect, but it is SOOOOO much better than when I was compounding EVERY problem by dousing it in AL. I fell like I am finally growing up.

Babysteps, :welcome:. I was a daily drinker and up until July 11 2007 (my first attempt at sobriety - I relapsed after 60 days). I dont' think I had more than 2 AF days in a row since my late teens. WE CAN DO THIS!!

PAGuy - sounds like you are growing up and loving it too.

Sunray, it's amazing the things we can enjoy when we don't have AL's ball and chain around our ankle, isn't it. And yet - defying all logic - we still want to drink. The good news is that it's difficult to break the addiction, but certainly not impossible as you are finding out for yourself, one day at a time. Keep up the good work and congrats on 5 days AF!

Not tonight, the more often I say "no thanks I don't drink" the easier it gets. And people DO get used to it. And so long as the relationship does not involve the divorce of a drinking buddy, nobody really cares what I drink.

Day 820 and I'm excited about it. The fact that I'm starting with coffee instead of vodka for another day is a downright miracle! If you can do it AF, so can I. If I can do it, so can you.

DG

[tlrgs]

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AWESOME JOB ONE AND ALL keep it going stay strong and keep thinking positive

[Rusty]

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Oney,

Great post! Thank you! Just an added benefit of enjoying this beautiful day AF!

[techie]

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Great post oney. The funk gets us all from time-to-time. It is really how we deal with it that's important. The alcoholic tries to immobilize pain with drink. The healthy mind recognizes these feelings as a part of life and manages. You managed it oney. Is that not a wonderful thing?

[Ringing Cedars]

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Enjoyed a beauty sunrise this morning. Made me think how glad I was to be sober. Still burning too many hours in a day and tired but more clear headed. My little thought of gratitude today.

Stay the course folks and enjoy the ride. RC )