TECHIE'S 30 DAY CLEAN SOBER CHALLENGE

[techie]

TECHIE'S 30 DAY CLEAN SOBER CHALLENGE

GREAT to have you here PeaceSeeking. Hello Missy, Babysteps, and all to come!

[Ringing Cedars]

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Another one down. It's getting quite challenging for me.

[Peacefull]

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Good morning everyone,

Day 5 here and actually looking forward to the next get together where I can say "no thanks, I am not drinking, I will have some water"

[Doggygirl]

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Good morning all and welcome Peace! Congrats on 5 days AF. I remember how that felt and the days seemed to take forever but I remember a HUGE sense of accomplishment. Keep up the awesome work!

Techie I enjoyed your thought for the day yesterday and also can relate to your feelings about the humidity. All I can say for IL this year is BRING ON WINTER!!!

Day 833 here and life is good. I am doing a community leadership school through the local Chamber of Commerce that started this morning. I went through this exact same course about 5 years ago when I was in the final years of my horrible drinking career. I can't even describe the difference. I'm glad I did this because the changes in ME have never been so apparent. And so many of the changes are about how I see others and the world around me. When all I thought about was "getting a fix" and recovering from yesterdays drinking, I couldn't see anything or anyone else. Quitting drinking is the best thing I've ever done. Quitting smoking was 2nd best.

Have an awesome day one and all,

DG

[techie]

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I love your posts DG. The joy and love of sobriety you express only strengthens my resolve. I hope your fingers continue to find the keyboard. I first came to MWO ostensibly to find a way to moderate. MODERATE. Why didn't I get it. I've never had to give somebody my watch so they could tell me what time it is. I knew damn well I could not moderate. Today I'm a 114 days AF. I hope everyone has a wonderful sober day!

[techie]

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Thought For Day 19

What you can and cannot change
There are many things you can change, and there are many things you simply cannot change. Both kinds of things can add value to your life.
With the things you can change, you have the opportunity to improve the circumstances in your own life and in the world around you. In dealing with the things you cannot change, you can grow stronger and develop real wisdom, patience, acceptance, and flexibility.

There is much you can learn from the things you cannot change. You can use that knowledge and experience to positively affect those things you can change.

The things you cannot change give you a base from which to work. The things you can change give you an ever-increasing world of possibilities.

By gently accepting what you cannot change and finding positive ways to deal with it, you lay the groundwork for success. By understanding what you can change and finding positive ways to put that change to work, success and achievement begin to happen.

What a blessing it is to live in a world where there are both things you can change and things you cannot. Each turn of events, in its own way, gives you the opportunity for adding richness to life.

[Peacefull]

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Thanks DG..I know the wonderful feeling I will have once this anxious and shameful period passes.

This too shall pass and the peace I am seeking will be found.

[Miss Behaving]

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Good morning all,

I love the way that you thoughts for the day always strike a chord with me Techie.

I'm feeling blah in the extreme at the moment, but most of it due to stuff that I have absolutely no influence over. I've been trying to accept it and just get on with things, but I'm really struggling.

I'm heading away for the weekend to a very quiet spot beside the beach - no internet, phone or shops. Looking forward to it a lot!

[techie]

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Miss Behaving;950182 wrote: Good morning all,

I love the way that you thoughts for the day always strike a chord with me Techie.

I'm feeling blah in the extreme at the moment, but most of it due to stuff that I have absolutely no influence over. I've been trying to accept it and just get on with things, but I'm really struggling.

I'm heading away for the weekend to a very quiet spot beside the beach - no internet, phone or shops. Looking forward to it a lot!

Thanks Missy. I think your weekend will work wonders for the blahs. Especially w/o the hand held voice instrument. Enjoy...John xx

[Ringing Cedars]

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Hi All,
Miss B I've had that blah feeling for a few days now too. Wondering what's it all for?? ie life Trying to stay strong and work it through. Had a bit of financial relief come my way today, so that offers some space to breath again while I sort out the whole lot. A weekend of quiet beach sounds wonderful. I hope the sun Gods are with you!

[Doggygirl]

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Ah...a nice quiet beach. MB, I am with you there in spirit!!! Hope it doesn the trick to make you feel content.

Peace, if there is one good thing about the "moderation experiment" it's that it can PROVE to us, once and for all, that we simply cannot drink safely, ever. At least it was that way for me. Finally accepting that I am an alcoholic and can't drink safely was the best thing I ever did. I can't change the shameful things I have done in my past. What I CAN do is focus on today, and being the best possible person, wife, friend, daughter and sister that I am able to based on where I am in recovery today. Then I can put my head on my pillow at the end of the day and feel grateful for a good sober day. That's all I can do.

Techie, I love that thought for the day. The serenity prayer has been such a blessing in my life. It started just as a prayer I would say to try to calm down when I was upset. As a drunk I was upset much of the time - I thrived on it as the "upset" gave me reasons to drink! Just stopping the drinking didn't fix that problem for me. I had to work at finding a more peaceful and contented mind set. The serenity prayer has evolved as a tool for me. Today, if I find myself upset about some person place or thing, I use the serenity prayer as a filter of sorts for the problem. Is this something I can change? If so, get busy! Is this something I cannot change? Then I need to accept it and move on.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Another version I like...

Grant me the serenity to accep the people I cannot change,
The courage to change the one I can,
And the wisdom to know it's me.

As a final "love note" on this favorite subject, I will link to a passage from one of the personal stories in the Big Book of AA. I get chills when I read this as it really hits home for me about the importance of acceptance in my sober life:

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person,
place, thing, or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me,
and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing,
or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake.
Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober;
unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy.
I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world
as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.

Thank you all for being here to support me and each other in sobriety for today.

DG
Day 834, one day at a time.

[Peacefull]

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Day 6...really looking forward to my first AF weekend in a looooong time.

[Ringing Cedars]

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Good going Peace! We need to keep the positive attitude alive.

Morning all. Thanks for your steady infusion of wisdom and encouragement Techie and Doggygirl.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I would like to report to the '30 dayers', that I am absurdly happy and energetic today, and undertaking to annoy the crap out of my family with it to the best of my ability :H

A fabulous sleep was had sans alcohol. The skin is glowing. The brain is sharp.

I wish for all of you the wellness that I feel today, wherever you are waking up ......
:l Bridge

[babysteps]

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That's wonder BJs! And you're looking lovely as always - can't help it, I love BJ's so i love seeing what pic you'll have up! So great to hear you are bursting with energy and enjoying your AF.
Have a great day all! And Chillgirl, thanks for the inspirations too.