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    Why?? A simple question...

    Why is it some can have one or two drinks and say 'no I'm ok thanks' and that's it?? Why can't I?
    AF July 6 2014

    #2
    Why?? A simple question...

    Because I am an alcholic.

    There are those who abuse alcohol and can become normal drinkers again.

    I cannot.

    Read Mario's post on the 4 stages of alcoholism. It is very good.

    Cindi
    AF April 9, 2016

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      #3
      Why?? A simple question...

      That's the five million dollar question, huh?

      Why can my uncle have like, 1/8th of a glass of wine, put it down and forget about it and wander away while my parents both have like, 8 glasses of wine apiece and then they hit the whiskey?

      Why can someone else have one bite of a cookie and people like my sister or myself have to have like, five cookies?

      The reason, as far as I understand it, is biochemical. But there's probably lots of other factors too. The person who can't just have ONE drink is the person who also has weakened or reactive blood sugar, or low levels of serotonin or endorphin, or a sensitivity to alcohol. They both react MORE to it and become addicted. While the person who can take it or leave it just doesn't have much of a reaction at all.

      We all have different biochemical constituutions.

      It helps me to understand it in these terms, rather than in the usual bull about how it's a character or moral flaw. Brain chemistry isn't a moral issue, you know?
      ED rather than alcoholic- but sugar is totally my booze and I sure act like an alcoholic.
      Current treatments: Julia Ross' Mood Cure, some MWO elements, NLP, (upcoming) outpatient clinic, some OA and AA stuff.
      I'm totally down with the 12 steps, yo. 8D
      Ultimate goal is abstinance. Doing harm reduction right now until I can get more direct counselling.

      ~If Eminem can get sober, so can I.
      ~If KEITH RICHARDS of all people can get sober, so can I!

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        #4
        Why?? A simple question...

        Alcohol dependence. Cravings for alcohol. It occurrs slowly or quickly depending on a number of factors. No use trying to figure out "why". The deal is to figure out what to do about your situation. I know it isn't "fair". But it is the hand you have been delt. Play it wisely. No illness is "fair".
        Sunny

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          #5
          Why?? A simple question...

          I heard someone's take on this very question recently which made a lot of sense to me. She talked about being in this group of women addicts who kept asking why, why, why are we addicts? Why can others stop at one but we can't? Over and over and over, the conversation always repeating itself, every time they met. She finally just asked, "Does it matter why? No. All that matters is what we choose to do about it. It just is what it is, and you may never know why and don't need to know why, you only need to accept it."
          ​​Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind ~ Bob Marley ~ Redemption Song

          AUGUST 9, 2009

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            #6
            Why?? A simple question...

            Great post Dancelot.. so true.. it really Can't matter Sad but True. and if we found the answer would it make any difference? No it wouldn't. Some people can and some can't

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              #7
              Why?? A simple question...

              Absolutely Dance - it just IS!
              Molly
              Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
              contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                #8
                Why?? A simple question...

                Thank you dance. I think that's a great answer. I think we all know it deep down but hope for something more and don't want to come to grips with it.

                I have had two big fights with my husband and kids in the last couple months about my drinking. I don't want my kids to remember me this way.

                I need to try again....I am trying the bac again. I stopped because of the side effects but I think they outweigh the alternative.
                AF July 6 2014

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                  #9
                  Why?? A simple question...

                  dancelot;935434 wrote: I heard someone's take on this very question recently which made a lot of sense to me. She talked about being in this group of women addicts who kept asking why, why, why are we addicts? Why can others stop at one but we can't? Over and over and over, the conversation always repeating itself, every time they met. She finally just asked, "Does it matter why? No. All that matters is what we choose to do about it. It just is what it is, and you may never know why and don't need to know why, you only need to accept it."
                  Amen Sistah!

                  DG
                  Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                  Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


                  One day at a time.

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