Angry!

[Little Owl]

Four days. Then I drank wine because my daughter brought it round and I was stressed. Then today. It was going ok. But then . . . we are finally doing some decorating. I bought light shades. My husband started putting them up. He did what he always does. Swore, made me think it wasn't going to work, he had to shorten the wire from the ceiling to the fitting, it wasn't possible to make them all the same length, I thought well thats going to look silly with four of them at different lengths . . . I went and bought wine, and had several. And in the supermarket earlier, I got five pots of muller rice, I said it will make a change from yogurt I'll take them to work for my lunch, he said "well if you eat them all up and they are for your lunch . . " I'm over 50 not 5 years old, how patronising! And I work and pay bills, he pays for the shopping - but OOOOOH I was so angry!!!!

I'm ANGRY with myself for giving in.

[southernbelle47]

Angry!

Little owl
This is part of a thread called "If it's going to be" in the abbs section.
I also have a controlling husband .
We have to draw a line in the sand and not give in to that control of our lives. No one has my permission to "make" me drink..
Check out this thread. It's good advice.
Belle
DAY 5 – Morning Reading & Assignment

Trying to be the center of someone else’s life will kill one’s spirit.

Being in a relationship with others is good. Healing the human spirit depends on it. But choosing to be held hostage in any relationship means we have given up our identity and our connection to God, making the relationship partner, be it a spouse, a friend, or a boss, our Higher Power, thus the one who defines us. When that happens, and it does all too often, inner chaos reigns, and neither party in the relationship can grow.

Am I aware of my independence today? I need to keep track of all my actions that reflect this.

DAY 5 – Evening Reading & Assignment

Was I able to be both independent and interdependent today? Since the two perspectives complement each other, it’s helpful to note when my behavior is illustrating one or the other. And as long as it’s in line with one or the other, I am not being “dependent,” which will hinder my personal growth and the growth of my companion too.

Dependence will not allow for healing to occur. How do I assess my actions today? __________________

[southernbelle47]

Angry!

Little owl
This is part of a thread called "If it's going to be" in the abbs section.
I also have a controlling husband .
We have to draw a line in the sand and not give in to that control of our lives. No one has my permission to "make" me drink..
Check out this thread. It's good advice.
Belle
DAY 5 ? Morning Reading & Assignment

Trying to be the center of someone else?s life will kill one?s spirit.

Being in a relationship with others is good. Healing the human spirit depends on it. But choosing to be held hostage in any relationship means we have given up our identity and our connection to God, making the relationship partner, be it a spouse, a friend, or a boss, our Higher Power, thus the one who defines us. When that happens, and it does all too often, inner chaos reigns, and neither party in the relationship can grow.

Am I aware of my independence today? I need to keep track of all my actions that reflect this.

DAY 5 ? Evening Reading & Assignment

Was I able to be both independent and interdependent today? Since the two perspectives complement each other, it?s helpful to note when my behavior is illustrating one or the other. And as long as it?s in line with one or the other, I am not being ?dependent,? which will hinder my personal growth and the growth of my companion too.

Dependence will not allow for healing to occur. How do I assess my actions today? __________________

[Little Owl]

Angry!

Southernbelle, I had a controlling mother too. I did live on my own for nearly two years. My husband is 16 years older than me. I don't think I was looking for a father figure. We have a lot in common, but he seems to treat me like a child sometimes. He has a very sacrastic and ironic sense of humour too. I told him today in front of my daughter and her boyfriend that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. I have told him this before.

We have been getting on better, I have been trying, but sometimes I just hate him. If it wasn't for the children I would be gone. They are grown up and gone, but we are still a close family and we see them all the time.

Where are you from Southernbelle? We visited New York and Washington in 1997, but last year went to Nashville, Memphis and New Orleans. I loved it, the south, I would love to go back and explore more. New Orleans especially.

I'm not religious but have great respect for people who are, and different religions interest me, why are there so many and which is the right one? I have had friends over the years, Jehovahs Witnesses, Baptists, mmmm. I'm more spiritual than religious I think.

[Little Owl]

Angry!

Dammit. Up at 3am drinking wine. I had such good intentions and managed four days. The last two . . Have to be up to go to work. Diet cherry coke and carrot juice in the fridge. I want to lose some weight. I was much happier not drinking. I will start again tomorrow.

[FallonsMom]

Angry!

tomorrow is another day you can do it!!!!!