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[techie]

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Just a wonderful and timely post Ruby. It seems we are getting so many new folks on a daily basis. You're right, no one should feel pigeonholed by thread labels. I view the thread headings as guideposts, not defined boundaries. We all grow as a community when everyone contributes their voice regardless of site tenure, or treatment modality!

[beagle]

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well put ruby.
i've never felt UN welcome anywhere, but like jewel said sometimes i post & it doesn't get acknowledged, but then i realise that there are so many different time zones & people from all over the world on here which is truly remarkable. so i realised it was nothing at all personal & every single person i have ever posted in amongst has been very kind to me.
so don't worry jewel, it is really not a big issue - you are welcome everywhere like others have said.
sheri - i absolutely love reading your posts. when you answered on mine the other day, i was actually honoured! the more senior the members, the deeper the respect i have for them.
ps sheri i love your dogs - Setters?

[rebirth]

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Hi ruby
Glad you said that!It's a gentle reminder of why we are all here and what we have in common! No one is better than the other and every single post on here is important to me..whether someone is trying to quit, moderates or abstains. I cant do this without anyone of you!!

Jewel - I post alot on the monthly abs and if anyone made you feel unwelcome I would like to kick their butt! Come and say hello.. I admit that I have been paranoid at times that I dont fit in certain threads but I think its exactly what Cinders and Over says...it's the hit and miss thing. Sometimes I have posted and no one has acknowledged it too.I use to think "do I smell?" But I also I know I have done the same to others purely because I'm a lazy cow/ too busy/impatient/trying to do three things at once/got my partner next to me trying to read my message etc. Forgive me anyone if thats the case..


Happy friday everyone!

[rebirth]

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Good grief..many people answering this message at the same time??! We must have all felt a bit concerned about this subject. Glad it was raised!

[rebirth]

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And Jewel I definitely enjoy reading your posts! I care about you in a cyber space way!!

[rubywillow]

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OK, for whatever reason, a lot of new people think I've been here since the earth's crust was cooling! :H Not so! I have a mentor, without whom I would probably be in a different place. I have great friends/fellow travellers, across the globe, because of this place.
Sometimes it takes a while of looking, reading, probing, self-doubt, experimentation, before we find a 'home', but obviously, I post all over. I feel over-exposed. I feel layed bare. I feel vulnerable, and powerful. I find love, and I get hate mail. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but the answer is to choose another brand.
There have been real lows here for me, losing friends who couldn't overcome themselves. And I have not been available at times when someone asked me for help. This is a big regret for me. The truth is, this site is not the answer, it is the support system TO the answer.
As far as the difficulty some have in joining a thread, I jumped into the middle of an ongoing thread of close friends, and posted my life story for my first post. There was a long silence. Then some kind souls gave me some direction. That's one of the reasons I made this thread. And if anyone wants suggestions from me, PM me (click on my name above and you'll get the option) and I'll be happy to help. Try to look at this site for what it is; a tool, but one with 24/7 PEOPLE who know what is happening to you, too.
Wishing you all the best, and success,
Ruby
PS: SOS is right (right OverIt!?). The Journey thread welcomes all!

[Guitarista]

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Good on ya Ruby! :h

Jump in everyone!
How are you Jewel's?

[gertrude mcfuzz]

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That's great to know, :thanks:

[Chillgirl]

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Gertrude McFuzz! What an fantastic name...
I hope you post more often just so I can see it

[betty boop]

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Thanks Ruby for this, I very often just log in and press the 'new posts' option, and to be honest don't know which section i'm posting on!!!!

Jewel i'm sorry that you got 'missed when you posted' but I have to say that it would not be intentional at all ...........

to add to what Ruby said, I feel that anyone is welcome anywhere on this site, just jump in and post, dont be shy!!!!!

Love & Hugs, BB x

[Chillgirl]

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Bets I do the same, look at new posts and decide which I want to respond to.

I love to read the different oppinions we all have and Im always blown away by the wisdom we have to share. It shows what a wealth of knowledge we collect at the University of Life...

[sunshinedaisies]

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GERTRUDE MCFUZZ - echoing Chillgirl - I LOVE your name - just wonderful!!!!!!

Sun xx

[babysteps]

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Ruby, so glad you brought this up! I'm sure that's a bit how I have felt, that I have to 'graduate' to move around and out, though most of the time I'm happy here being so new. And good point Overit, when you post, there is a lag time and things get missed and out of order etc....I posted twice today the same time as someone else posting to me!

[rubywillow]

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My only purpose in posting this thread is to let everyone know, you are welcome anywhere you feel comfortable. Many times people 'lurk' around a thread, watching the on-goings, and wonder if they can be part of it. As far as I'm concerned, you're always welcomed. And again, if you have questions, feel unsure, are afraid to jump in to a thread, PM me. I may not always be here, but I WILL get back to you.
You do NOT have to earn a place here. You NEEd to find your place here. There are many more than me who will help you. I am forever gratefull for the ones who found and picked me up. I'm only trying to repay the gift.

[LVT25]

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Thanks Ruby, you seem to me to be such a kind soul. I have quite a few thoughts after reading this thread, but here's the only one I am going to share right now.

I have been on the site for quite awhile now. I kind of feel like I'm a typical member here that tried to moderate (after all that is what the book is about right) and was unsuccessful so I had to FINALLY admit I couldn't really control my alcohol intake. I have participated in a few threads that are started by individuals and seems to grow as the people that post have things in common. The whole process of getting sober is such a journey. I do remember having my feelings hurt when no one responded to my posts. But I did get some support and persisted and I'm still here today.

Which brings me to my point. I have been sober now almost 2 years. Over the time I've spent many hours here, trying to "pay it forward". I think it is a natural transition to gradually leave MWO as we get sober and start living our lives, but I can't quite cut myself off from the Daily AF thread because of the kinship I feel there. I glance at some of the other threads, but honestly don't take the time to post responses to everyone. I give myself about an hour a day on the site, sometimes I don't get that. I seem to still need that little bit of support and I always hope that new members just trying to get sober will maybe read something I've posted and know that there is hope of a "normal" life without alcohol if that is what their goal is. It's the best I can do right now.

It makes me sad that we are considered a clique, we are friends, and I won't apologize because we are close. I will apologize for myself however, if I have ignored a request for help or support. I will honestly try to be more careful to offer my support. It's always good to have reminders about what people perceive here.

Thank you Ruby.:goodjob: