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    Sober (AF) September Challenge

    Hi everyone!

    Wow, Choice - how crazy was that?! And especially in front of people you don't know, where you can't exactly throw a wobbler :H You did so, so well - fair play to you x I do find it's much easier if people just don't offer - my dad still offers me wine (just out of habit) and I have to refuse, then it feels like a big deal cause I would ALWAYS say yes! Well done you on handling it so well :goodjob:

    Sunbeam, thank you for starting this thread, it's a lovely bunch of people here

    Chill, I have put those dates in my diary! I actually went searching on the threads last night (as I was too impatient to wait for your answer!) and saw Oney mention that you are thinking of going to the Mind Body festival too that weekend? is the meet up in the city centre? I will book somewhere to stay if it is Yay! Do you know the maddest thing? When you first mentioned a get together, my automatic response was to think of the pub, cause that's where groups of people normally meet - then I remembered "oh, none of us drink" :H Old patterns die hard...

    Firefox, well done you - the way I see it, anything is better than AL, so a few extra biscuits isn't doing any harm. Plenty of time for working on the tummy later! I was at Pilates this morning, and boy does that really work your middle...

    Witchy, I'm sorry to hear that. I've had to let go of a few friends over the past year, as the relationship just wasnt balanced. There are a lot of people too that I used to drink with, who I thought I was good friends with, but it turns out I wasn't, cause I dont want to drink any more. I think it's just life - people drift in and out of each other's lives, and sometimes we have to let go, or maybe just take a step back for a little while to reevaluate. Maybe don't make any big decisions about the friendship right now as you are going through a lot (i know, she should be there now!) but maybe lean on someone else for a while or lean here, then in time you'll know what's right.

    Peace, have a good Monday and remember the urine!!! Hi anon, spinning, molly and overit, and all others to come today

    Wow, I wrote an essay!!
    AF since 13th July 2010
    NF since 5th July 2010

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      Sober (AF) September Challenge

      Happy Monday everyone (is it Tuesday yet for anyone?? Might be! I'm time zone challenged!)!!!

      It is so fabulous to start the week sans hangover. I can't believe I survived my old lifestyle for so long.

      Congratulations to all on your success in the challenge. Every sober day is a successful day. Today is all we have. I plan to make the most of it, and that means I have to stay sober!

      Choice, that is really something about that wine! :egad: Congrats on the way you handled it. I too love the urine analogy and will definitely be using that visual! :H

      Witchy, I have been dealing with a situation exactly as you describe. An old friend of 20+ years (she was one of my college room mates) is much the same way. All about her. 45 minutes on the phone (or 2 hours) and nearly all of it about her. Then she will say "oh - we only talked about me!..." But it nearly always ends up that way.

      I have realized that in my past, I was OK with it because the minute she would call (or sometimes I would call her) I would fill up a glass of wine or a vodka drink, and keep refilling through the conversation. I used it as one more on my long list of excuses to drink. Now that I'm not drinking, I don't like sitting still on the phone for hours. I am also acknowledging that for my friend, this is an abrupt change that is baffling to her. From her point of view, her friend that used to willingly listen to her (from sober to drunk) doesn't do that any more. (She knows I am alcholic in recovery)

      I feel like I do nothing but avoid her and really limit our contact. I'm not always comfortable with that. On the other hand, the alternatives are to do it her way which would mean more and longer contact that I am not comfortable with, or cutting her off which I don't want to do. So for now, I am just taking it one day at a time and will see where it goes. I set a time limit to phone conversations and stick to it. I encourage e-mail as a great way to catch up with each other given our busy schedules. That's all I've been able to figure out so far. It's not really a situation of "I'm right, she's wrong" or "I'm good, she's bad." She is a good person and I'm starting to believe I am too. We just may not be cut out as buddy buddies any more, and that's OK. I don't need a Big Blow Up or Huge Justification to shift the balance of the relationship.

      There are other "friends" where our only common ground was drinking while doing *whatever*, or, just sitting around drinking. Most of those friednships have just naturally drifted apart since we no longer enjoy doing the same things.

      Sorry to be so long winded!

      I hope everyone has a peaceful and enjoyable AF day. Special strength and hope vibes to anyone who is suffering out there today.

      DG
      Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
      Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


      One day at a time.

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        Sober (AF) September Challenge

        wish I could stay sober
        Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!

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          Sober (AF) September Challenge

          Quick check-in this a.m. - Day 20 of the challenge here we come!

          enguin:
          Coco

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            Sober (AF) September Challenge

            Hi all...no I am not drinking. But I was at the cottage with my daughter, brother and husband.
            It is difficult when shit happens not to drink...but you feel so much better. Thank you for all your support.

            Sid

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              Sober (AF) September Challenge

              Oh and by the way tomorrow is my birthday!

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                Sober (AF) September Challenge

                Wooo Hoooo Sid!!! Happy Birthday!:bday7:

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                  Sober (AF) September Challenge

                  yeah can you believe it 57! Tell you girls when you dont drink you look better!

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                    Sober (AF) September Challenge

                    Sid! Now I know why we get along so well :l
                    "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                    AF - JAN 1st 2010
                    NF - May 1996

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                      Sober (AF) September Challenge

                      Wow Sid, Your a HOT 57! Its amazing how many beautiful ladies we have on this site isnt there.
                      I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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                        Sober (AF) September Challenge

                        Haha overit you should have seen in my 30's. I should post so pictures when I was drinking not so pretty.

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                          Sober (AF) September Challenge

                          And Chill why do we get along? Because we are blond?

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                            Sober (AF) September Challenge

                            No because we are fussy little Virgos.

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                              Sober (AF) September Challenge

                              Hi all,

                              I?m quickly dashing in and out tonight, not long home and heading out to a Zumba class at the local centre (something I might regret later). Choice well done ? a glass of piss that will work for me I think! Witchy I had a similar experience last year with an old friend will tell you more next post and I agree with Neart and Doggy.

                              Janka post some more and join in we still have 10 days left till the end of the month.

                              Sid I am so happy to see you back you have been missed. Happy birthday's to Sid and to Chill :bday7: Everyone else hope you all are cool and trucking along, catch up later.

                              Day 27 and so close to 30!!

                              Love y'all :h
                              Enjoy today - there will be no other one quite like it....

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                                Sober (AF) September Challenge

                                Happy B-day Sid! You look MAHHHHHHvalous!

                                DG
                                Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                                Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


                                One day at a time.

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