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    About time

    Hi all! :new:

    I?ll confess upfront that I?ve been lurking for about 3 weeks and didn?t post earlier because I set a date with myself for quitting and to get a few other things in place before starting my plan. The community here seems really supportive and I?m eager to begin this journey that probably should?ve started a few years ago?

    I?m 31, married, and the Other Half and I are thinking about starting a family next year. I need to get healthy if not for myself than obviously for the little person that?s going to be relying on me to take care of them.

    Problem is, I drink too much? waaaaay too much. Have been for the past 6 years. :damn:

    I could wax poetic on the things that have happened to me growing up (mentally more than anything else) but when it?s all said and done using that as an excuse almost seems like a cop-out. I made the decisions and I?m reaping the consequences.

    I?ve already done several af days over the past 2 weeks and Monday, the 13th, was my ?official? start date for spending 30 days af. I wanted to note that my ultimate goal is to moderate but after my 30 days if I feel that I?m not ready and need more af time then I will do just that.

    Although I've found the first few days (and af days in the past) have been fairly easy I'm not kidding myself that this is going to be a cake walk... especially tomorrow when the weekend rolls around. I'll make it through one way or another...

    Anyway, that's the 'Reader's Digest' version of me and why I'm here. I look forward to what the next 30 days holds.

    #2
    About time

    Welcome Artsy

    You sound as if you certainly have been doing some reading, and have a good plan in place.

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      #3
      About time

      Hi Artsy and :welcome:

      You do sound like you have a good plan. That is a great start. Lots of supportive resources are available here - take advantage of them.

      Best wishes to you on your journey....
      John
      AF since 7/13/2010

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        #4
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        I made the decisions and I’m reaping the consequences. >>

        At that, you're halfway there, AF (aka Alcohol-Free!). Welcome! : )
        AF since July 15, 2010. :applouse:
        "People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim." —Ann Landers

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          #5
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          Thanks for the welcomes!

          Pride- I noticed that after I set up my profile that my initials were 'AF'. Look, even subconsciously I'm convincing myself that this is do-able! :H

          I'm sick of the 'drink too much, wake up feeling crappy and guilty, swear I won't do that again, rinse and repeat' cycle that I've been doing; particularly since before this turned into a problem I was very reasonable about my drinking.

          I've been watching, a couple at a time, the 'Rain in my Heart' documentaries. I'm up to #6 so far and by the end of #2 I found it absolutely heartbreaking... and 'smack you upside the head' sobering...

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            #6
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            Hi AF and welcome!
            So many of us can relate to the cycle you referred to, I know I can. We're glad to have you here and look forward to getting to know you!
            K9
            :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

            Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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              #7
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              Welcome AF! I am just starting out as well but have already found this forum to be a wealth of support. I think it is great that you are trying to get your drinking under control before you start a family. I thought that having kids would magically make me want to stop drinking. Ha. It made it worse. I wish I could go back and be where you are now.

              Best of luck to you! I look forward to seeing you around here.

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                #8
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                Welcome AF,

                There is lots of support here. Your story sounds like me, happy to say I have been anxiety free for 19 days since I quit. well, except for a few pangs when I think of my last drinking episode, but that is keeping me sober.

                In my mind I am thinking of moderating down the road, but it would be a shame to stop feeling this way.

                Peace

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                  #9
                  About time

                  :welcome: AF! Brilliant initials alright, wish I'd thought of that! Great you've been lurking, it's handy to have an idea how to navigate the threads, I have to say I was bewildered for quite a while (still am sometimes!!). Go for the 30 days and don't think beyond that yet. I found my head in a very different place after that period of time, so just wait and make decisions then from a strong, sober, happier frame of mind
                  Molly
                  Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
                  contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                    #10
                    About time

                    Welcome AF, (that could also stand fro alcohol free) hehe Hope to get to know you better sooner or later!


                    angel
                    Courage is not the absence of fear, it's acting in spite of it.

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                      #11
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                      oops I just read back through the posts and everyone said that. ahaha And here I was thinking I was such a smartie
                      Courage is not the absence of fear, it's acting in spite of it.

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                        #12
                        About time

                        Welcome AF! Wanting to start a family soon is a big reason I'm here too. I got tired of the "rinse and repeat" myself. I'm at day 25 AF so only 5 more days. It is an amazing feeling to stick with that plan and deal with all the thoughts, emotions, and changes during that time. Then I got into the Sober September challenge so that will bring me to 40 days. I have to say that extending beyond a two week AF time is where a lot of my real clear thinking started about what I wanted my goals to be. Good luck to you! I look forward to getting to know ya!

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                          #13
                          About time

                          Thanks so much everyone! I knew I made a good decision coming here.

                          Day 4 is almost over and, still, so far so good. Like I said though, tomorrow will be a challenge for me so I'm trying to go into it with an open mind.

                          I've been taking supplements for awhile now (well before I decided to go af) and just over the past 2 weeks have added l-glutamine to the routine. All I can say is "Wow!" (just re-read that and had the urge to say "Sham-wow!"...) What a difference that's made in the cravings, and in my appetite in general. I was really worried that after I cut out the alcohol that I would get some wicked cravings for sweets since I know that there have been a few people that have struggled with that. It's bad enough that I've gained about 20 extra lbs from booze (and the laziness that ensues), like I need another extra 20 from going on a sugar bender. :eeks:

                          Thanks again everyone. I really look forward to working through this and, of course, any extra advice to help along the way!

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