They day after.

[lil.michelle]

I hate when i screw up with drink. It's bad enough that all the work i've put into staying sober has shot out the window and i need to start again BUT i HATE then tension in the house. My hubby hardly speaks to me and refuses to tell me he loves me. It's horrible. It's just not worth it!!!
Anyone else have the same problem when they mess up?
Day one, nearly over with, tomorrow will be better. Gotta make 4 months this time or longer Just keep working for a sober life!!!

[Kimberley]

They day after.

Hi Lil,
I read your earlier post about 'the day before'. I am very glad you got straight back on the wagon.

One of the reasons that if I have a lapse, it goes on for about a week is the very reasons you state. Apart from the self-loathing and guilt, my OH doesn't want to be around me. No wonder after everything I do and say when drunk! I always feel I need comforting when I have put the bottle down and am trying to get better, but he isn't like that with me. He isn't nasty and always says he's not angry but he's very very quiet and distant and won't stay around me for a little while.

I asked him about it once, and he said that it stresses him out to see me drink (especially when I keep promising I won't) and then upsets him to see me ill like that afterwards and he can't deal with it - and when he can't deal with stuff he blocks it out and shuts down a bit.

While that doesn't help me as I lie there sick, already hating myself and thinking too much, I put myself in that position not him.

Yeh Lil, keep working on it. If you've made it to 4 months before, you can again - and longer.

Big hugs,
K x

[Kimberley]

They day after.

oh and ps - I totally related to what you and another poster said about having that feeling that you just are going to drink today, and you don't even know why. Weird! I wonder why that happens.

[Guest]

They day after.

It's all practice and the more you practice, the better you get at it.

[mollyka]

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Michelle, I know exactly what you're saying. My hubs hated, hated, hated when I drank. I would 'love' a video of what I was like drinking - to this day I don't think I was that bad, but obviously I was! Our marriage definitely was going down the toilet. 32 years, and I was going to throw it away for booze. I can honestly say we have never been as happy as we are this year. I cannot believe what I nearly did.
Back on the wagon girl - he's still there so it's all in your hands!
Molly

[FancyC]

They day after.

Good for you to get right back after it..but, I don't think all of your previous sober time is just gone out the window. You did that sober time, it's yours. I'm sure there are some things that you learned along the way, and I am sure they will help you once more. Good luck and much success to you!