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    How I am feeling right now...

    Being Twenty-something - they call it the "Quarter-life Crisis".
    Isnt it scary that we are already an easy quarter of the way through our lives... looking back at everything we have done.. and everything we havent done, and most importantly.. what we want to do from here on in.... but back to the "Quarter-Life Crisis"...

    It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

    You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

    You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
    friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

    What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

    You look at your job ... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

    Your opinions have gotten stronger.

    You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

    One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

    You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.

    Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

    You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

    Or maybe you love someone but they love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.

    Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesn't seem as fun.


    You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.


    You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
    yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

    What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.

    We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

    Pass this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

    "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

    It's really amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but it is really sad when the best of friends become two strangers.

    We have to open our eyes and appreciate what we have right infront of us, because a lot of the time, it is much, much more than we think... and more often than not... all we need to help us through.
    Courage is not the absence of fear, it's acting in spite of it.

    #2
    How I am feeling right now...

    Just wait until you are 40!
    AF since May 6, 2010

    Forget the past, plan for tomorrow, and live for today.

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      #3
      How I am feeling right now...

      Thanks Angel - even though I am in my mid 30's now I can totally relate to that!
      Every day is a day to start over and remember that I am powerless over my addiction. I will no longer give the BEAST any power over me - he can go straight to hell.
      :h

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        #4
        How I am feeling right now...

        Its all the same whatever age bracket your in Angel..Great post

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          #5
          How I am feeling right now...

          Angel - just wanted to say that you would be so lucky to become AF at this age. Your life would be so much better (IMHO) to give it up now. My husband and I both talk about how much we wasted by drinking/partying throughout our younger years! I would definitely do it differently if I had the chance. I'm ecstatically thankful that I'm now AF (albeit only 12 days)..........but oh, to have the chance to be there at your age would be phenomenal.

          Choochie

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            #6
            How I am feeling right now...

            life is what it is

            angel77;982798 wrote: Being Twenty-something - they call it the "Quarter-life Crisis".
            Isnt it scary that we are already an easy quarter of the way through our lives... looking back at everything we have done.. and everything we havent done, and most importantly.. what we want to do from here on in.... but back to the "Quarter-Life Crisis"...

            It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

            You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

            You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
            friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

            What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

            You look at your job ... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

            Your opinions have gotten stronger.

            You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

            One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

            You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.

            Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

            You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

            Or maybe you love someone but they love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.

            Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesn't seem as fun.


            You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.


            You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
            yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

            What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.

            We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

            Pass this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

            "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

            It's really amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but it is really sad when the best of friends become two strangers.

            We have to open our eyes and appreciate what we have right infront of us, because a lot of the time, it is much, much more than we think... and more often than not... all we need to help us through.
            hi 77, good thread,your rite,as we age,we understand the finer things in life,survival,im not in my twenties,i have 2 boys 22, and 25,there finding life is not what its cracked up to be,not only that i have to daughters,30 and 28,again im not in my 20 s,aging is a process where we see,somthin,not rite,what you see is in the eye of the beholder,im impressed,at 20 somthin,that was the last of my worries,it was a party.life that is,now i get to reflect,and hopefully help someone like you,:thanks:gyco oops im 57 hahahahah

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              #7
              How I am feeling right now...

              Thank you for your messages guys Well, I know it was sort of a random post and doesn't relate directly to drinking, but I decided to share it anyway and I am glad you liked!! I found it on someones fb profile and it really struck a chord with me. I'm glad some of you can relate and hope it gave you some comfort.
              Courage is not the absence of fear, it's acting in spite of it.

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                #8
                How I am feeling right now...

                Great post hun but it can be the same at 30 40 and over. Thanks for sharing i enjoyed reading it.

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