Well, got home from work an hour ago, and Im on here reading and catching up. Thanks to all for the welcomes. I work at a golf/country club in FL. and I am around people drinking every day/night. I serve it and it doesnt bother me, since I have always been in this business. My last job I was bartender at another club for 3 years. Didnt work for 5 months and no one was hiring here. I collected unemployment and barely made it and had to use my savings, which luckily I was smart enough to have that. So now I got a job 3 days after I stopped AL. which was 3 weeks ago. I am a server/furniture mover..lol..we have to constantly move tables chairs equipment, and Im beat and have to go to foot Dr. tommorow. My poor feet stay swollen and painful every day. I am taking vitamins and L Glut and trying to eat better, but me thinks Im getting too old for that type of work. Its a good paying job with benefits, so I am glad for that. There is no way I wouldve gotton this far with this job if I hadnt stopped the AL. I cant even imagine...Luckily I havent had too many cravings and its probably because I have been working 50 hours a week or so. had been sittin around drinking wine every day and not working for 5 months got me real good and lazy and miserable. Now I work hard, come home and sleeping better than ever. If I ever get a day off , I will post more of my story..the ugly stuff. I am here for the support I need and to give mine also. I am actually 25 days AF today and Im grateful for this site.
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Well, got home from work an hour ago, and Im on here reading and catching up. Thanks to all for the welcomes. I work at a golf/country club in FL. and I am around people drinking every day/night. I serve it and it doesnt bother me, since I have always been in this business. My last job I was bartender at another club for 3 years. Didnt work for 5 months and no one was hiring here. I collected unemployment and barely made it and had to use my savings, which luckily I was smart enough to have that. So now I got a job 3 days after I stopped AL. which was 3 weeks ago. I am a server/furniture mover..lol..we have to constantly move tables chairs equipment, and Im beat and have to go to foot Dr. tommorow. My poor feet stay swollen and painful every day. I am taking vitamins and L Glut and trying to eat better, but me thinks Im getting too old for that type of work. Its a good paying job with benefits, so I am glad for that. There is no way I wouldve gotton this far with this job if I hadnt stopped the AL. I cant even imagine...Luckily I havent had too many cravings and its probably because I have been working 50 hours a week or so. had been sittin around drinking wine every day and not working for 5 months got me real good and lazy and miserable. Now I work hard, come home and sleeping better than ever. If I ever get a day off , I will post more of my story..the ugly stuff. I am here for the support I need and to give mine also. I am actually 25 days AF today and Im grateful for this site.AF since 10/14/2010...
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Mistysmoma,
Congratulations and stay with us. I am only on day 7 and I don't know how I could have done 21 days without reading these threads; that is awesome. Let's all help each other all we can and isn't it great to finally get a good nights sleep without the darn wine! I know it was for me..
A sincere welcome!
Loving life!"My fault, my failure, is not in the passions I have, but in my lack of control of them." Jack Kerouac
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Mistymoma,
Yes it was me and oh my God he lived with me too. You HAVE to get him out of there.
He was with me for 9 months and 2 alcoholics together is a no win situation. I guess I could be considered a "functional" alcoholic; he was not. I finally got him a motel/apartment in July for a month and moved him out. My younger brother paid for his
2nd month and now he is living with my mom. There is no way I could take him in again if I want to keep my life intact. There is so much to tell you and you can PM me if you want. But I feel for you because he is pulling you down with him. Please talk to me when you can and I will help in any way I can. I hate that he is mooching off my mom but he is not my responsibility nor is your brothers yours. You got to get that soft side hard and I have been there. Talk to me when you can."My fault, my failure, is not in the passions I have, but in my lack of control of them." Jack Kerouac
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Well I will pm you, and hes a pill addict, and has been hooked for 10 years and living with me for 4 years now. one poblem is my mom, who lives with me also and is 75. She is the enabler and I guess I am too. I am afraid of him, physically. OMG, I could go on and on, but I will send you more info, and we will compare notes/or books....I would barricade myself in my room and drink day and night to forget that he was here!!!AF since 10/14/2010...
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Oh Misty, what a hideous situation you're in. I don't know what to say but I think you're incredibly brave and I really admire your determination.
:goodjob::h Mish :h
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Never give up...
GET UP!!!
AF since 25th November, 2011
What might have been is an abstraction
Remaining a perpetual possibility
Only in a world of speculation.
What might have been and what has been
Point to one end, which is always present. T.S. Eliot
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I hate to say it but I guess Im sorta waiting for my mom to leave this world, as she has been a good support to me thru life , and I am supporting her now. Once she is gone, then I will sell the house and he will have to go somewhere. I dread the day that happens tho, my mom and I have been so close for so long, I cant imagine how I will deal with that. The only good part is that he takes care of the house and pool and lawn, and he actually cooks most days, but i think Im making excuses for him. Fact is , I confronted him a few times and ended up callin 911, because he threatened and pushed me..of course he was withdrawing and I was shitfaced..so we both just ended up aplogizing. How sick is that! So now I just walk on eggshells mostly, and do what I can do for myself.AF since 10/14/2010...
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Checking in here for monday. Have a day off and loving it AF of course. Gotta remember the supps and vitamins tho, its getting easier to forget to take them since Im feeling so much better now after 26 days today. They have really helped me and I would reccomend highly the L-Glutamine especially. It got me thru the first week as did this site also and ongoing daily.AF since 10/14/2010...
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Hi MM!
I just wanted to welcome you to this site. Congratulations on over 3 weeks alcohol free! You are doing amazing. Stay strong and stick close to this site. I look forward to getting to know you better!
K9:heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:
Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.
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Mistysmoma,
Hang in there and remember most importantly YOU. My brother did the same around the house as far as helping. 23 plus days is awesome. Just remember YOU and this will all pass in time. God puts us through hardships for a reason and it all will make sense someday. Stay in touch. My mom enables too; but that is what they believe a mother is suppose to do. Our moms are the same age and I am guessing your brother is the oldest like mine. Mom feels taking care of him again is one of her final responsibilities in this life. Let them be. Believe in YOU and everything else will fall in place. Please stay with us!!! This is where you (we) need to be so don't go anywhere :-)
Have a great Monday!!!!
Day 8 here!
It's all good"My fault, my failure, is not in the passions I have, but in my lack of control of them." Jack Kerouac
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Misty - sorry to hear that you have this struggle with your brother. I had something similar but thankfully he didn't live with me. He did live with my mother and basically ruined her life. So, I definitely feel your pain.
Congratulations for staying AF at the same time you're dealing with him.
IfUL - way to go on day 8!!
Sending you both peace and strength!
Choochie
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