I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I like "The little thread that could" also.

Thanks ML,

God grant me the serenity the accept the people I can not change
Change the one I can
And the wisdom to know it's me

I got that one off MWO from DG

Thanks for the compliment, I love the inspirational saying.

Another one is

"do you want it done right, or do you want it done right now"

The mod thing mess with me also. I would not mind the occasional drink once a month or two but I realize the on that occasion I would probably drink the whole bottle and I have to decide if that is ok with me. I could just buy a small bottle (I only drink vodka) but that is still 5.3 drinks and I feel horrible the next day. You would still run in to problems with picking the occasion for instance last Friday I drank because I completed my 30 days. If I only drink once a month then I have drank for January so next weekend at my husbands work party I will not drink, and I will want to so I made a bad choice. Now next month my 18 year anni is on Feb 4 but Valentines day is on the 14 what day do I choose, and now we are back to the internal war, when to drink, how much, can I split it and just drink half as much, well this is to hard F**k it I'll just drink every night and bam! Back where you started. . .that to me is the problem with modding.

[madmans]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I tried to mod for about the last 5/6 years . I now see the only way to be happy about drinking is not drink. If i wasn't drinking i would be thinking about when could i drink you know what i mean " its been 3 days now i can drink" or the old " i haven't been really drunk in a week so why not " . drinking or not drinking if it takes up so much of our time in life thinking about it, planning about it that's not to forget the hangovers . when i first came here last Oct i knew what i needed to do but its only in the last 3 weeks that's i have really accepted and let go of the will or want to drink and since i have its like a weight of my shoulders .

[mylife]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Jenny and MM, I can very much relate. I really think maybe at least a LONG time AF will get rid of that mental tug of war.

I saw a post from "Believe" (I think that's his name with the tractor) Anyway, he (I think its a he?) said that he stopped for 6 months and then allowed himself the occasional drink, but found that he just desired it less and less and stopped again. I'm really hoping that if I can stop for 6 months I will starve out that desire to drink. I really was that way all through my 20's, I just didn't get it, and hardly drank at all. What happened?!!

Anyway, have a great AF night everyone. For me, I'm going to make a 6-month goal and see how it goes....

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

ML I was that way in my 20's also, I think that as we get older and life either gets harder or more boring or both drink starts looking more and more appealing. I had a traumatic incident and I was drinking to get through it and I did get through it but I just didn't stop drinking. Well I'm done now so all is good.

Have a good night guys!

[dancingon]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I was that way throughout my 20s and 30s. In fact drinking wasn't a problem until a few years ago. For me it was emotional stuff (which I used to cope with, without giving drink a thought) but I also think it became more acceptable to have wine in the house when we started wine-tasting in our early 30s. Although it was a long time before it became a problem it set the stage - wine was always there and plenty of it in the cellar.

I still sometimes think it would be nice to mod, but I don't know if I can go back. Trying to stick to one or two drinks might be more stressful than its worth. I know I could do it if I only drink when I go out, but the danger is that I would then buy a bottle on the way home. I think a long time AF is in order.

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Afternoon thread mates!

How is everyone? It seems as week get further along there is less of a need to check in here as often.

I'm doing good today, time for the 3 o'clock L-glut then on with the evening!

Have a good one and check in when you can!

[mylife]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Evening little thread!

I agree Jenny, about not feeling the need to post so much. I'm not feeling so "shaky" on my own as I did before. In fact, I've been feeling a lot better and more confident about this whole non-drinking thing lately! I still carry the L-Gluts around and pop one most afternoons before heading home.

Hope you're all having a great evening.

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I watched what not to ware yesterday and there was a woman that was 2 1/2 years sober. She said she felt like she had lost herself in the transition and that scares me a bit. She partied at bars and went out on the town and that maybe why, because there were 2 such extreme persona's. She said she would wake up, go to a meeting, then go to work everyday. That scared me too, I don't want to have to go to meetings or come on here everyday when I'm 2 1/2 years sober. I just want to be me that does not drink. I just don't want to be that person.

[mylife]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I know Jenny, I went to some AA meetings last year and that's what scared me there. There were people who'd been going to those meetings for 20 years...and I just didn't want to be there in 20 months let alone 20 years...

Anyway, when I saw a counselor at the time she said "quit projecting into the future and just concentrate on now". So, that's what I'm focusing on. Another good book you might like is "Rational Recovery". They don't believe that meetings or group therapy are necessary at all and it's just something you need to make up your mind to do for yourself. The guy in the book basically said exactly what you did -- he wanted to be himself, just not drinking, and that's what he did.

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

I have read that actually, back in November at the begining of all of this. I carry it in my car incase i need alittle insperation though out the day. I want to read the adam (? alllen?) carr also though. There is alot of good advice out there!

[Sharky]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Hey guys! Just checking in. Killer work week for me. Drank on Tuesday.... arrghhh.

Back on track. Lot of travel for me which is good and bad.... I'll stay focused with the train!

[jennyneric]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Hey Hey Sharky, that 30 day thing is such a mind F! I'm back on day 6, started eating right again today after eating everything in sight for the last 4 or 5 days. Glad your doing good. . .hope you get home soon!

[mylife]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Hello Guys! Hi Sharky! Welcome back and time to get in the groove!

I've been pretty much eating whatever I want as well this last week! Time to reel myself in. I did get up and go for a jog this morning and it was chilly!

Have a great AF evening!

[Sharky]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Got to the gym and that makes a HUGE difference. Being tired doesn't help either.

All a-board the train!!!

[Sharky]

I'm starting my rest of the year sober challange today!

Hi guys-
In the off ice today catching up. Traveling all next week. Planning on total focus to get through the next week. Feel strong today after several non AL days and excercise. Hope you guys are all doing well.

For some reason, after doing the 30 days, I feel this weekend is a big test. Not sure why. Jenn- agree on the 30 day Minf F*@$! It's like a carrot dangling out there...