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[mylife]

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Morning all! I'm up early so thought I would start my day with this positive group!

Chill, I think you're right. When I do go out with friends, I think I will notice the same thing...I'm the one that had an issue with how much I drank....not them!

I just ordered the book about Rational Recovery. I've been seeing it around a lot in the posts and thought it deserved a read at least! Anyone here familiar with it?

Well, I'm starting my 9th day AF. I really feel good and have had a great weekend. I'm looking forward to another week of sobriety. Have a great day everyone! :l

[Chillgirl]

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Hi Mylife
I think you will find reviews on Rational Recovery under the reading section, I enjoyed it but Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Drinking is still my fav. If you have a spirtitual interest then I can recommend Mindful Recovery.

Congrats on day 9! sober weekends are just the best, it feels like a gift instead of the usual feeling of having been robbed.

[Wagoneer]

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Hey everyone! Bit sleepy today but hoping a sleigh ride will wake me the heck up! Hope you are all well and happy! X X O O

[Peacefull]

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Hi Everyone,

Happy Sober Sunday.

Molly & Anon - I am feeling the same as you guys, downright BLAH!!! I am really starting the think I suffer from S.A.D. and am going to the Dr's tomorrow. I cannot stand feeling out of sorts. I don't want to drink though - in fact I don't want to do anything

Well, this too shall pass and in no time I will be on top of the world again. Adjusting to my sober weekends still and it can be lonely - even though I am home with my hubby, it's still an adjustment to not drown my sorrows. Maybe that is what is happening, remove the AL and my "real" mood is surfacing.

This site is my support line and it helps to put my feelings down. :l

[Chillgirl]

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Peace i found my emotions were on a rollercoaster when I 1st quit. Being alone with myself was a new experience I had always had AL there beside me to drown in and it felt like someone stole my security blanket. The good news is that as well as feeling the lows we get to feel the highs without them being numbed by the booze and it feels like being alive for the 1st time!

[Peacefull]

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Thanks Chill,

I know this will pass and I will be on cloud nine again soon :l

[mollyka]

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Hi everyone - nice to see you here Chilli - don't be a stranger!! Peace, I'm feeling exactly like that - even to the extent that I too am going to the Docs tomorrow. Wasn't going to post today cos actually - this is not drink related - not directly anyway, I don't want to drink, it would appear my last drinking debacle may indeed have been 'rock-bottom' and is still protecting me. My hubs is a dear sweet man most of the time, but he periodically picks up a fairly minor implied criticism or 'misdemeanour' of mine and goes into silences - nasty mean silences, and he's in one now. It feels like bullying and it makes me very sad. The rational part of me says that he needs a kick up the arse but emotionally it cripples me - therefore I think it is more my depression resurfacing rather than anything else. Sorry for going on, but I just feel so sad and lonely - but I promise - no drink for me!!! Hope you're all in good form and I do apologise for being such a downer but I can't stop feeling like this!
Molly

[Choochie]

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Hi Everyone - feeling fantastic today and wishing you all a super AF day. I had yet another night's amazing sleep - I'm in heaven with this sleep, I'll tell you!

Molly - sorry your hubs is being pissy -this too shall pass, right?!! Can you do something to take your mind off of your hubs for a while - go somewhere get some exercise? Sorry - I know it's painful to be at odds with the hubs. And, I think depression is rampant this time of year. Note (above) from Oney about Sheri's detachment thread. Sending you big hugs!!

ML - way to go woohooo on your days!!:h

Did I tell you guys I'm taking up golf? Hit balls yesterday - and suffice it to say Michelle Wie has nothing to worry about. But, it will be a good hobby and something positive for me to focus on instead of putting toxic, poisonous rot into my body!

Went to my first AA meeting yesterday - I think I'm going to get a lot from it. Amazing group of lovely women - am so happy I took that plunge. I wasn't going to but am really glad I did!!

Sending big hugs to you all!!:h

[one2many]

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Molls,

PLEASE read Sheri's thread on Detachment, it has made such a difference to me this week. xxx
Hi to everyone else, hope you all have a fabby Sunday.

Peace...good on ya for going to the doc's and getting it sorted xx

[Peacefull]

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Oney, where is the Detachment thread?

[Chillgirl]

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Molly - BIG CHILL cyber hugs coming your way! :l:l:l
I hate it when you have an atmostphere like that, is it not worth letting him be right about whatever it is so he can snap out of it and get back to normal?

Choochie - So glad AA went well, I have amazing people at my local one too and although im not a regular its good to know they are on hand if I need them.

[one2many]

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here ya go Peace.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f4...ent-45812.html

[mollyka]

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Thanks Oney, definitely that thread hit the spot today! Chilli, I'm not even sure what's wrong with him - for years I've actually thought HE suffers from periodic depression, he's like a split personality the way his moods can go, but there is no shifting him. I s'pose I'm feeling sorry for myself too, just can't lift up at all.
On the other point, Chooch, I'd be fascinated to hear details about your first AA meeting, what happened when you arrived that sort of stuff - who and how many were there - did you sit around or what? I've been very seriously thinking of looking into it, after this week I realise how isolated I can be, I'm a bit of a loner and depend an awful lot on my family for company and when that goes pearshaped I'm very lonely. I'm not really challenged booze wise at the mo. but it is true that no one except an alcoholic can understand what it's like to be one.
Anyhows - enough of me moaning - again! Was just talking to my daughter on Skype and I was telling her how one of my sons popped in this afternoon and I was an absolute wreck - dressinggown, hair upstanding, blotchy eyes and face from crying and the house was a mess - actually very like back in my drinking days:blush:, and he was oblivious to it all - just wanted to talk about his row with his bankmanager --boys!!
Molly

[Choochie]

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Molly since you asked, thought I would post what I just put under the AA thread. One qualifier I would post here is that from what I can gather, all AA meetings are different - seems like I've seen posts with a wide array "personalities" at each different meeting, which makes sense. I think I really lucked out!!

Hi Everyone - I'm new to this thread and started it to post about my first AA meeting. Looks like the threads go through Monday thru Sunday. Hope it's ok that I started it a day early so I could post before I forgot what I wanted to say. I also posted this on another thread where a couple people asked me to tell them about my experience.

My meeting was an unbelievably pleasant surprise. It's funny, I really thought I would just stick with MWO, but I haven't been able to get AA out of my mind. I kept putting it off because I didn't want to deal with the religious part of it. But, by the same token, I think lacking a spiritual component to one's life really fuels alcoholism. I'm going to eventually read a book called the Tao of Sobriety because I think it addresses this exact subjet. My problem with religion is that I don't think anyone has the truth with a capital T. I know AA was founded on Christian principals, and while I think we should all be able to choose how we worship/what we believe in, I was reluctant to go to AA because it's based on a religion that thinks it has the truth with a capital T.

Sorry, to have gone on a diatribe, but I'm trying to give some background into my thinking and how it relates to AA.

NOW, having said all that, I decided to go anyway. I read something by someone in AA (I think it was Bugz) and he talked about just sort of biting the bullet and getting over that and going to AA anyway because he had gotten the benefit of making friends with sober people. THAT'S really what clicked for me. That, regardless of everything else, AA would help me be face to face with others who understood alcoholism and were working to stay sober. Doggygirl's posts also have made me see AA differently and want to try it.

I'm adding a bit more here because it's the AA Thread:

The meeting I went to was all women, and I immediately felt a bond. I got two chips which made me feel wonderful. And, I loved the way they passed the chips around and everyone held them - it felt like they were giving me unconditional love. It made me want to cry and still does. I felt like something transcendent was going on there - a true gift.

So, thank you DG for all of you wonderful posts that inspired me to try this. I think it's going to be a huge part of my recovery - that is real recovery, not just abstaining from drinking alcohol, but the true gratitude of loving my sober life

[gettinghappy]

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AA is really different than you might think! I am sure each meeting place is different from the other, but still the same in the way that they include you right from the start because they know how you feel. You won't be the new guy for long either. After about three meetings a young man came in who was just destroyed by how his fall off the wagon had lost him his job, his longtime girlfriend, and he got a DUI. My heart broke for him and I realized that I could already:heart: offer a few words of encouragement to him. Sometimes that is all you need! I say give it a try for whoever is thinking about it. Our meetings are mostly older men, so I feel really young there too!:H Molly, I can't believe what you are saying about your husbands moods! That is a MAJOR problem in our house. For no reason at all mine will go into a cold shoulder thing that I can't fix and then after about a week of me having a knot in my stomach, he will come out of it and wonder why everyone is so crabby!! Ugh! I've been married almost 20 years and it makes me just as sick as the first year. I think it's their problem with depression. I don't know. I hate it just the same. Keep your chin up!!!