Other drinkers!

[AmyJ]

Other drinkers!

Thanks for stopping by to welcome me, Twosox. I have a feeling I am going to feel very welcome here! )

[Guest]

Other drinkers!

Doggygirl;1020799 wrote: :yougo::yougo:CONGRATULATIONS ON 6 MONTHS AF TWOSOX!!!:yougo::yougo:



I know you are right because I used to be one of those people. I felt better about my own addiction if I surrounded myself with people drinking lots and lots. I encouraged everyone to drink up! Drink up! And that was not about them at all. That was about me and and my (rightful) concerns and insecurities with my own problem.



This is very true. Mr. Doggy, my "gold standard" normie, could care less what people are drinking or not. He doesn't even take notice unless someone is acting really drunk and stupid. Then he laughs.



End, I too hope you will rethink this. You CAN stay sober with the help of AB. There will ALWAYS be a drinking occassion. Always. There is never a "good time." After I relapsed in 2007, I kept telling myself and a mentor here (Chief) that "as soon as _________ (insert holiday / birthday / party / event / vacation / etc. here) is over, I will start Day 1." There was always something. I finally just had to bite the bullet and work through it. I really believe that is what you will have to do as well if you really want to get sober. It's hard, but look at all the people here who are doing it one day at a time. You can too.

DG

So right DG. I stopped saying "I'll stop after an 'event'" many years ago. Why?Because I tended not to either enjoy, or be capable of getting to 'events' if or when I drank. In fact it became a sort of "If I drink I won't be going anyway"!

There will always be an event, or stress going on. I could list many, quite valid ones for myself but I know it's just not relevant. It's a denial response.

EOTL is lucky to have AB to use. I daren't try it because I once had a bad reaction, without touching AL to some I purchased on line. So bad, and so ill I'm not prepared to risk it. Anyway I know that if I truly want to drink I'll either do it on top of the AB, or simply do what End did and stop taking it.

I've seen the best specialists, counsellors, tried all sorts and the only thing that's been most successful has been ME, deciding I'm not drinking and putting sobriety first over and above AL.

Back on topic really many people don't drink, not because they are alchies but because they don't want to. Thing is you never notice them when you are drinking, and if anyone gets on my case about it I simply say alcohol was going to kill me so I decided not to drink. Usually shuts most up, it's the truth and often gets an awful lot of respect.