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[cmhguy3]

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I opted to not go to a holiday party tonight. I felt it was way to soon and I knew in my heart I would fold. So I opted to stay home, listen to old records, cooked a healthy dinner and have been drinking copious amounts of lemon water!

I am also a isolated drinker. I can relate to much time on hands. This time I am trying to really listen to myself and peel back the layers. Just sitting in a chair in silence with your sober self can be amazing if you really listen. After listening for a while I talked myself out of going out. I just knew it would turn out bad.

Hang in there, not going to lie, the first few days suck! I am now on day 8 and I am starting to feel really, really good and so much stronger than I have felt in years.

Guy
Day 8 AF

[Choochie]

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CMH - I think you made a wise decision. We have to protect our sobriety.:l So glad you're starting to feel the upside of giving up the poison!!

[Shanny5]

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I'm going interstate in about 10 days to visit my mother over Christmas. I'm not looking forward to it because she is an alcoholic herself but in complete denial and very defensive about it. I know she'll try push me to have a drink and I don't know how I'll cope with this at such an early stage in my recovery. I feel very positive now after several AF days but don't feel ready to face this kind of pressure. She knows of my struggle with AL but will not acknowledge it for what ever reason. I'm unhappy tonight because I know whats coming. I can't ask for her understanding, and I can't back out of the holiday either :...(

[mylife]

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Hello All,

Shanty, Frosty good work on your days of sobriety. I'm starting day 16 and feeling so good..I still keep wondering why I wasted all that time drinking and recovering for years. The mental obsession seems to be lessening as well, day by day.

TFX good luck and AA is a good idea especially if you're feeling isolated.

Have a great AF Sunday all.

[Guest]

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cmhguy3;1021285 wrote: I opted to not go to a holiday party tonight. I felt it was way to soon and I knew in my heart I would fold. So I opted to stay home, listen to old records, cooked a healthy dinner and have been drinking copious amounts of lemon water!

I am also a isolated drinker. I can relate to much time on hands. This time I am trying to really listen to myself and peel back the layers. Just sitting in a chair in silence with your sober self can be amazing if you really listen. After listening for a while I talked myself out of going out. I just knew it would turn out bad.

Hang in there, not going to lie, the first few days suck! I am now on day 8 and I am starting to feel really, really good and so much stronger than I have felt in years.

Guy
Day 8 AF

CMH

Great stuff. A worker in a treatment centre, when responding to a complaint about not being able to view TV programmes at various times explained that sitting 'with' yourself is a very powerful thing, that in sobriety we need to learn how to do.

Well done on keeping yourself safe. You know it makes sense.

Shanny

I don't think I could do that right now - be with an active alcoholic. Too much pressure and frustration for me.

[frosty12]

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Choochie;1021244 wrote: Shanny and Frosty, just wanted to congratulate you both on your startup. Reading a lot here helped me too. I've got 68 days and just went to my second AA meeting today.

Sending you peace and strength,
Choochie

:l Thanks Choochie,
Day 3 for me today. Feeling better every day! Thanks for caring. jana

[frosty12]

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thehfxguy;1021248 wrote: just coming off a two week bender after 8 months dry (well one small slip in there), and nearing the end of a semester.. very bad timing.. between school pressures and a recent breakup.. i just fell off.. i didn't see it coming, and all of the sudden I was at the liquor store.. just to ease the pain of the breakup is how i justified it, and the anxiety and depression i had to deal with the next day kept me going back and back, i managed to get through two days mid bender dry, but was feeling so ill that i went back to it once again.. i'm pretty much alone right now, and trying to get to an aa meeting tonite so i don't feel so isolated..

:wavin: Hi I'm new here too. For me, I need to stay close to this site, read , post, and learn about why it is I do what I do. I am on day 3 today and find I need to stay busy. I am going to read the book, get the supplements, etc. I figure I spent more than that on drinking and my sobriety right now is the most important thing to me. Sounds like you have had some good sobriety. This site is amazing. Reach out and I know you can do this!!

[Choochie]

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Shanny, really hoping that you can find a way to deal with your mother - so unfair and unbelievable that she would do that to you. But, when we're talking about alcoholics - misery loves company as they say. I guess I would just try to think in terms of protecting my sobriety and get indignant if someone tried to force me to drink. Not easy, for sure, but wishing you the best!! Try to think of it being analagous to her jumping off a bridge and thinking you should do it too!

Everyone dropping by today, wishing you a super AF day.

xx,
Choochie

[frosty12]

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cmhguy3;1021285 wrote: I opted to not go to a holiday party tonight. I felt it was way to soon and I knew in my heart I would fold. So I opted to stay home, listen to old records, cooked a healthy dinner and have been drinking copious amounts of lemon water!

I am also a isolated drinker. I can relate to much time on hands. This time I am trying to really listen to myself and peel back the layers. Just sitting in a chair in silence with your sober self can be amazing if you really listen. After listening for a while I talked myself out of going out. I just knew it would turn out bad.

Hang in there, not going to lie, the first few days suck! I am now on day 8 and I am starting to feel really, really good and so much stronger than I have felt in years.

Guy
Day 8 AF

:wd: I applaud your decision to take care of your sobriety. Isolated drinker here. I love your idea of just sitting with your sobriety. So proud of your day 8!!

[frosty12]

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madmans;1021270 wrote: hi FX, Shanny and frosty . I have seen on a lot of the posts here talk about being isolated and how drinking causes that, and i'd have to agree, when i was drinking at my worst i didnt want to see anyone, do anything all i wanted to do was work(to get money ) for drinking. it was such hard work drinking, buying drink at different places each night and trying to get rid of the emptys all the time. the whole drinking was like having two jobs

:bang I know. I think it might be important for me to get a hobby now. I love to scrapbook and am way behind on my album. I did the same thing buy at different places, hide botles all over the house, try to get rid of them. Way too much time invested in drinking that should have been spent with my family. Can't look back- too painful. I love what you said about another job-talk about insanity!!! Take care and keep it going!!

[frosty12]

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thehfxguy;1021255 wrote: i found out i can't get to the meeting, but invested in a netbook today so i could get back on the intenet so i could find support and information.. i'm so run down right now

I know what you mean about being run down. I have been taking mega vitamins and I got a pack of the emergen-c and put them in my water all day long. If you would be able to get out today and get some good vitamins, etc I think it would help.

[Shanny5]

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Choochie;1021475 wrote: Shanny, really hoping that you can find a way to deal with your mother - so unfair and unbelievable that she would do that to you. But, when we're talking about alcoholics - misery loves company as they say. I guess I would just try to think in terms of protecting my sobriety and get indignant if someone tried to force me to drink. Not easy, for sure, but wishing you the best!! Try to think of it being analagous to her jumping off a bridge and thinking you should do it too!

Everyone dropping by today, wishing you a super AF day.

xx,
Choochie

Thanx Choochie
I feel absolutely bereft about this situation. I'm doing so well at this point and feeling better than I have for years. I'm panicking now at the thought of being in her company! I don't know why she doesn't care but no....she definitely doesn't. She's the one who gave my first drink when I was just 14 years old and defends her right to continue doing it till this very day, over 25 years later. She's not a young woman so I have no idea how she even handles the booze herself.

[Choochie]

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Shanny - that stinks - wish there were some way you could get out of going.

xx,
Choochie

[Shanny5]

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Choochie;1021642 wrote: Shanny - that stinks - wish there were some way you could get out of going.

xx,
Choochie

Me too but if I don't don't go, she will be alone over xmas. I am an only child and no one else will visit her. Also, the tickets are booked and all arrangements made. What I need is a plan! I still have 10 days to come up with it so I guess that's something.

[Choochie]

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You mean a plan to get you out of the house when times get tough? That's a really good idea.