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    #1

    Time to change

    Hey all,

    I am new here and really glad I came across this site. I need to atop drinking before it takes more control of my life then it already has. I am a weekly binger...only one day a week but once I start, I really struggle to stop until I cant stomach another drink. And then that's me, until the next time. I am not a daily drinker, I never come home and pour myself a glass of wine, I never drink when I am hungover. I do drink when am stressed...the only thing I look forward to at the end of a crap day is a glass of wine. I do drink to celebrate and commiserate. It's always on an occasion.I never drink if I have to drive. But I am on a slippery slope. The past couple of months have been littered with drinking affecting my life mainly thru not keeping commitments or starting verbal fights with my husband or friends, mainly for reasons that are nonsense. So I am taking back my life. I have worked too long to get where I am today to let drink take it all. I am fortunate in that I have not lost my family, my friends, my job or my house. My reputation may be a bit battered but not beyond repair. I know my triggers and I know my weaknesses, I just have to act when I notice one looming. I live in the uk where many people tell me that I don't do anything that most 'normal' people don't do. But as an American, I know that someone would have intervened years ago. I am still young and I will beat this. This forum has a lot of great advice and support. So here's to one day at a time, leading a sober life and changing for the better!
    'Breakfast, every hour, it could save the world.' Tori Amos

    "Turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone."

    AF since 23rd December 2010 - progession is paramount! :truce:

    "don't be sad because it's over, smile because it happened!"
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    #2
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    Welcome Cassia. Lot's of great advice in the forums. Read , read read... You did the hardest part by recognizing your situation. Lot's of great and very smart folks on this borad. I for one have learned alot and still need to get much better. Welcome!

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      #3
      Time to change

      Hi Cassia,

      Welcome to MWO! This is a good place, you will find the help & support you need.
      If you haven't already, download & read the MWO book from the Health Store. Also, take a look in the
      https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for good ideas to help you make your plan. Think about getting the Hypno Cds, they were very helpful to me.

      Stay close to the threads, drop in the Newbies Nest & introduce yourself. The more you read here the more you will learn. You'll have lots of support to help you on your journey.

      Best wishes!
      Lav
      AF since 03/26/09
      NF since 05/19/09
      Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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        #4
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        Hi there and welcome Cassia!!! This site, its selfless and smart people, is truly a blessing to all of us. Come here and read/post and you will get much needed support. Please let us know how you are doing, j
        Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!

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          #5
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          Welcome Cassia! You are totally right - it is a slippery slope. I started dealing with stress by having one glass after work and it just escalated over the years. I like you never did drink and drive, didn't miss work because of being hungover (but I probably could have) etc. Good job, nice family, but I just couldn't stop myself. I had had enough. I have come here for about 4 years on and off and two months ago something just snapped and I said enough already! I am on my second month of no wine and feel great.

          So happy you are here and you really seem to know your triggers and what you could possibly be heading for. The people here are wonderful and I could never have made it without them. Good luck and looke forward to getting to know you better

          Kat
          February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h

          When everything seems like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top!!

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            #6
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            Welcome Cassia,

            There is lots of good advice here. I think you will find that there are people in all stages of the slippery slope here. I think many of us are here of our own volition -- we have realized something about our drinking just isn't right, and we are chosing to change that. Good luck with your journey!

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              #7
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              :welcome: Cassia
              Glad you found us, I think it's wonderful you recognize it's a downward spiral, we all get that realization at different stages of the journey and I wish I'd "got it" at your stage when I was binge drinking instead of waiting till I'd got worse. Anyway when I did finally get it, I was lucky enough to find this site and then everything changed for the better
              Stick around and read stacks, post how your feeling and get to know us.
              "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
              AF - JAN 1st 2010
              NF - May 1996

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                #8
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                Thanks all for your kind words and good wishes. I am off to see a psychologist at four who specialises in alcohol abuse. I need third party validation...seems silly bit I have so many people telling me that I am being oversensitive that I need to counteract that. Hope you all have a wonderful day!
                'Breakfast, every hour, it could save the world.' Tori Amos

                "Turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone."

                AF since 23rd December 2010 - progession is paramount! :truce:

                "don't be sad because it's over, smile because it happened!"

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                  #9
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                  Addiction makes those people telling you it's not a problem so much louder than the inner voice telling you it is. I love how proactive you're being, seeing an addiction counselor--really diving right in. That takes guts and shows real commitment to figuring this thing out--a good recipe for success.

                  Welcome, and let us know how it goes.

                  xoxo Pride
                  AF since July 15, 2010. :applouse:
                  "People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim." —Ann Landers

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                    #10
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                    Great Cassia! All your positive steps lead to success. Please let us know how it goes, how you are doing, j
                    Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!

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                      #11
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                      Hi Cassia,

                      Good for you for beginning this journey, it takes guts to get started! This is my first post too. I am just getting started. I drink pretty much every night, I live alone and the dark hours are not my best times. I'll just drink a bottle of wine and take a simply sleep and off to zzzz land. I'm missing so much in my life and my family and friends are beginning to comment.

                      I have the tools except need to find a continous loop CD player. My start date is 1.1.11.

                      I am new to this type of forum as well. But here goes....Hello all.

                      Issysgal

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                        #12
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                        Just stopped by to add my hellos to Cassia and saw you there Issysgirl

                        :welcome: Issysgirl.

                        Keep reading, keep posting and let us get to know you. Glad you're both here.

                        Looking forward to seeing you around.

                        J x
                        :l
                        It could be worse, I could be filing.
                        AF since 7/7/2009

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                          #13
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                          Hi Issysgal,

                          Well done you for recognising that you want to make a change. It's not easy, in fact its been one of the most difficult decisions I have ever made. But you know you can do it and feel free to get in touch if you just want to have chat or a rant. We can do this. We are so much stronger than alcohol!
                          'Breakfast, every hour, it could save the world.' Tori Amos

                          "Turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone."

                          AF since 23rd December 2010 - progession is paramount! :truce:

                          "don't be sad because it's over, smile because it happened!"

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                            #14
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                            Welcome Issys. Like you and Cassia, I have been struggling with this since joining at the end of November. I have about 23 out of the last 30 days AF (I had problems abstaining around Christmas), but am hoping to achieve at least 6 months of continuous abstinence and then make a decision from there about what I want to do. I was a nightly wine drinker also, no real problems from it, except that I knew I was feeling way too dependant on those glasses of wine each evening.
                            I wish you both luck on your journey -- I'm sure we can do this as well.

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                              #15
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                              Good luck, stay strong and positive. Take good care. Best, j
                              Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!

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