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    thoughts about staying sober

    Hello everyone. I have just celebrated, quietly and calmly, my first sober Christmas & New Year holiday since I was 16 ? 27years ? and wanted to come back to the forum and share the message that if I can, anyone can! I have been sober now for 11months and am feeling increasingly confident that I can live without alcohol. I still have cravings, but these are becoming more like musings about what it would be like to have a drink (in the same way I muse about having a tattoo ? I can think about it and imagine it without actually doing it). I have found the posts on the long term abstainers forum really helpful ? lots of wisdom and compassion - so try these if you haven?t already. If you are starting out and it all seems too hard, I would try reading Rational Recovery and seriously consider their approach. I made my promise to myself which I repeat regularly ? ?I am never going to drink again and I am never going to change my mind? ? it is honestly as simple as that. Nothing is stopping me drinking but my own commitment to that promise. Life is not perfect sober, and I haven?t turned into a ?better? person, but I feel I am more connected to myself and just kinder to myself. I am better at my job and more confident around people - apart from not feeling crap and hungover half the time, I don?t have a shameful secret any more, so can be more open and honest with people. I can?t believe how messed up I was for so long, and that?s who people thought I was! So, if you are just starting out and feeling overwhelmed, try making a serious promise to yourself to change ? it might be that simple (not easy, but simple). Good Luck! JT
    "there's a crack, there's a crack in everything...that's how the light gets in" Leonard Cohen
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    Sheri;1032576 wrote: I am never going to drink again, and I am never going to change my mind!
    Ditto! Thanks Jane/Sheri!

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      #3
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      Awesome. Thanks for this post
      February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h

      When everything seems like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top!!

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        Jane Thompson;1032558 wrote: I made my promise to myself which I repeat regularly ? ?I am never going to drink again and I am never going to change my mind? ? it is honestly as simple as that. Nothing is stopping me drinking but my own commitment to that promise.
        Jane I can so relate to this! I too made a promise, but to my higher self (or God, depending on your beliefs) that I would never drink again. I knew that was the one entity I could never let down and it worked.
        "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
        AF - JAN 1st 2010
        NF - May 1996

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          #5
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          Thank you for your post...very inspiring.

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            #6
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            Powerful stuff thank you!
            Outside of a dog a book is mans best friend. Inside of a dog its too dark to read

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              #7
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              Commitment to self, positive self works wonders!! Thanks! and many congrats on your sobriety too!
              Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!

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                Jane

                Commitment to self, I have lost that somewhere over the last few months. Time to renew that commitment. Thank you!
                While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.
                Benjamin Franklin

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                  wisdom from 5 years AF

                  Hello to everyone who read my post - I've been looking through the forums (fora?) lately as, although I'm reaching a year AF milestone, I know I will need the community for a long time to come, even though I feel I've beaten my addiction, I know the beast is not dead - only sleeping... Anyway, I found a post on the long term abstainers forum called '5 years sober' - it is a beautiful, positive post - wise and insightful and definitely worth reading if you haven't found it - I won't paraphrase it as it is written so well - better to read the real thing! Enjoy, JT
                  "there's a crack, there's a crack in everything...that's how the light gets in" Leonard Cohen

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                    Thank you Jane.

                    I can't say that I am out of the woods yet, but I seem to have lost my romantic notions of drinking. I no longer enjoy it.

                    I have had a few relapses though the past year, but they have not lasted for too long. The feelings of shame and guilt are overwhelming. I have also found that the hangovers are a lot worse.

                    I am also enjoying being sober.

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                      #11
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                      Hi Jane, I am really happy for you. Thanks for sharing with us, it is inspirational to hear for sure.
                      Hill
                      Sober since Feb 7, 2010.

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                        #12
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                        Thanks Jane for sharing that. I too have a long way to go.

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                          #13
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                          Congrats Jane on your 11 AF months, that's terrific!

                          I agree with you in that I made a firm commitment to myself in the beginning & it made all the difference! In the almost 2 years that I've been AF I've faced many situations where in the past I would have drank my way thru - but not anymore! I won't drink & I won't disappoint myself ever again

                          Keep up the great work!
                          Lav
                          AF since 03/26/09
                          NF since 05/19/09
                          Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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